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re: My MIL opened up a credit card in my wife’s name
Posted on 5/21/21 at 10:40 am to GreenRockTiger
Posted on 5/21/21 at 10:40 am to GreenRockTiger
For fricks sake call the credit card company. Report the fraud. Done. If they press charges, so be it.
No debt for you AND consequences for her.
No debt for you AND consequences for her.
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Posted on 5/21/21 at 10:41 am to Breauxsif
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The sharing of paying off the debt is not going to happen
it absolutely might not happen. that's not my point. that option should be given to the sisters though because, when this sister whose identity was stolen calls the cops and has the mother arrested, loses her job, does jail time, and life is ruined will absolutely hold the sister accountable for her actions. This method allows them to help remedy situation and have skin in the game.
Posted on 5/21/21 at 10:42 am to Chad504boy
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Wife needs to demand that the family share in this burden each. pay off the cc debt now or cops would be forced to be called. it's easy to have opinions if they have no skin in the game. Splitting 5k 4 ways is way more tolerable.
Why would anyone else pay a single cent?
Posted on 5/21/21 at 10:42 am to Oilfieldbiology
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This is terrible advice and a great way to lose not only your mom but your 3 sisters as well. If my BIL’s came to me because my MIL did this to them I’d tell them frick no. The audacity to think I need my BIL’s to pay for something they didn’t do, had not part in, and were unaware of would send me through the roof.
Makes me wonder how she has ripped off the other sisters?
Posted on 5/21/21 at 10:42 am to REB BEER
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Call Dave Ramsey. He'll know what to do.
Actually curious what he would have to say about it, probably call the cops on her.
Posted on 5/21/21 at 10:42 am to Chad504boy
Any sister that’s upset at you because you made mom responsible for her actions (stealing 5 figures) is not someone you need in your life as they too are an enabler.
Posted on 5/21/21 at 10:43 am to Slagathor
quote:She stole from her own daughter and grandchildren. The lady is in financial trouble, if this doesnt get her, something else will.
Another consideration is once you get the state involved, it may affect her job and professional license... thereby diminishing her ability to repay her debts AND creating a financial drain that will one way or another make its way back into OP's or his kids' lives.
Posted on 5/21/21 at 10:43 am to concrete_tiger
If I’m other family members, I’m checking my credit score now too
Posted on 5/21/21 at 10:44 am to Newrow
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It’s in the upper teen thousands.
She would be facing legal consequences of it were my MIL
Posted on 5/21/21 at 10:44 am to Newrow
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This is why I don’t want to get the police or law involved.
Have you considered teaching your children that actions have consequences and selfish insane mistakes can have life altering implications?
Posted on 5/21/21 at 10:44 am to Indefatigable
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Why would anyone else pay a single cent?
people pay huge money all the time to help out family members the best way they know how.
Posted on 5/21/21 at 10:45 am to Newrow
If nothing else you need to let the other three sisters know so they can check to make sure she didn’t do it to them too
Posted on 5/21/21 at 10:47 am to Chad504boy
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Chad504boy
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The sharing of paying off the debt is not going to happen
it absolutely might not happen. that's not my point. that option should be given to the sisters though because, when this sister whose identity was stolen calls the cops and has the mother arrested, loses her job, does jail time, and life is ruined will absolutely hold the sister accountable for her actions. This method allows them to help remedy situation and have skin in the game.
Dude. Just stop. I lost all respect I had for you. Granted, It wasn’t much to begin with.
Posted on 5/21/21 at 10:47 am to Nguyener
quote:their parents' hell will slowly go by
Have you considered teaching your children
Posted on 5/21/21 at 10:48 am to tigerfoot
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She stole from her own daughter and grandchildren. The lady is in financial trouble, if this doesnt get her, something else will.
Unless she gets help. She's still a human being and a family member to the OP. She's sick, not inherently evil.
They can always call the police if she doesn't accept help.
Posted on 5/21/21 at 10:48 am to Nguyener
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Dude. Just stop. I lost all respect I had for you. Granted, It wasn’t much to begin with.
cool. way to not contribute meaningful thoughts about just a proposal. if the family shared in the debt to get rid of it under the mandate that she gets help now... i don't see why your panties are in a wad over it.
Posted on 5/21/21 at 10:48 am to Oilfieldbiology
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If I’m other family members, I’m checking my credit score now too
I hope he or his wife have called all their family members, told them the situation, and told them to contact credit monitoring and pull all reports
Posted on 5/21/21 at 10:49 am to Newrow
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It’s gambling.
That's BAD.
I had a friend whose mother-in-law blew through a pretty decent IRA that she had from a previous job on gambling. She also went into a great deal of debt.
My friend was the breadwinner in her household (her husband was a lazy sack of sh!t who couldn't hold onto a job) and she helped the woman file bankruptcy, get out of debt (mostly IRS), and tried to help her with her gambling addiction.
The woman wound up building up another 401K balance which she rolled over into a IRA. Unbeknownst to my friend at the time, she also inherited her father's pretty sizeable IRA.
Despite doing everything she could for this woman, the woman took both her's and her father's IRA balances and blew through them in about 2 years gambling. By this point, the woman was 70 and couldn't work any longer. She (my friend) found out and went and spoke with some of the dealers at the Treasure Chest about the woman. As it turned out, she had NEVER stopped gambling and all the dealers knew her well and by name.
At this point, the woman just expected my friend to take her in and provide all care for her. She had two other kids who were also total f*cking LOSERS and didn't/couldn't give the woman any help. So, basically, my friend would have been supporting her lazy, jobless husband and his mother.
In the end, she said NO F*CKING WAY. She found her a cheap nursing home that would the the small amount of her social security and the rest was paid for by Medicaid.
Once the woman was in the nursing home, she discovered that the nursing home would take its patients gambling boats once a month -- the patients would have to pay for any gambling they did. She (the MIL) actually had the unmitigated f*cking GALL to ask my friend for $100/month so that she could go gambling with her friends. And, when my friend laughed and declined she got all pissed off and b!tched to her son. He tried to get my friend to give his mother some gambling money at which point she told him that if he wanted to give his mother any money (he was jobless AGAIN), he could leave the house and never return.
When the kids finally moved out of the house, my friend kicked her worthless husband to the curb and cut off all contact with the MIL.
MORAL OF THE STORY -- Cut this woman off IMMEDIATELY. Her gambling ADDICTION will never end. If she was willing to steal from her own child to support her gambling habit, she will steal from you over and over and over again until she leaves you in the poorhouse.
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She has a great job as a nurse anesthetist.
WOW. This woman was also some sort of nurse with an advance nursing degree.
Maybe it's something that runs in the profession.
This post was edited on 5/21/21 at 10:53 am
Posted on 5/21/21 at 10:49 am to Chad504boy
I’m assuming you’ve never had an addict in your life?
Posted on 5/21/21 at 10:49 am to Newrow
End that relationship now. She is evil. Trust me, you found that, that is not the only thing she is hiding.
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