re: Men who get married and let themselves go

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The attraction is gone... I always make up excuses not to have sex, and only give in once a month or so and its just starfish sex... anyway I feel terrible because I was at the gym and there is this guy there who is just... perfect.

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You're on the money.

Let me be clear: You should never have to do x, y, or z, to ensure that your wife doesn't cheat. If you're in a relationship like that you're fricked anyway. But there's something really insulting and disrespectful about letting yourself turn into a disgusting slob with no concern for the feelings of your partner. If my fiance did that, I'd be like wtf? "Do you not even care about looking good for me?"

When you treat your body like that, and don't even have the self-respect to take care of yourself, don't be surprised when your partner struggles to respect you as well.

Nugget has to be a homo. Dude only talks about cucks, betas and BBC. He's either a flaming homo (more likely scenario) or had a girlfriend one time that he walked in on getting railed by some BBC.

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-get married
-eat like shite
-be chubby
-have children
-be fat
-no sex

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It's a built in trap so your spouse can know when you are cheating.

Sudden onset of gym, diet and tanning = UH OH.

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When you treat your body like that, and don't even have the self-respect to take care of yourself, don't be surprised when your partner struggles to respect you as well.

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How well you take care of your body will translate into other areas of your life.

It's what I tell other men. Don't lift for women. Don't lift so you have a more attractive body for women. Lift for yourself. Lifting is more than just sculpting and building a body to get a woman wet. It's about self discipline, testosterone, physical health, challenging yourself, and sharpening the saw. If you lift for women, then once you have accomplished your goal of landing a woman, you get complacent and lazy. Because your motivation has been satisfied. Same with dieting.

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Let me be clear: You should never have to do x, y, or z, to ensure that your wife doesn't cheat. If you're in a relationship like that you're fricked anyway. But there's something really insulting and disrespectful about letting yourself turn into a disgusting slob with no concern of the feelings of your partner. If my fiance did that, I'd be like wtf? "Do you not even about looking good for me?"

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I agree completely. Both the husband and wife should strive to make themselves the best they can be for their partner. The thing is - the only thing women bring to a table in a male-female relationship is their looks. That's the only thing that determines the sexual market value of a woman, and therefore the only thing that determines what a woman is worth to a man. Ignore the feminist garbage about how a woman with a career and wealth is meaningful to a man - its not. It's all about her looks. So a woman who lets herself go appearance wise, is destroying the ONLY thing that makes her valuable to the man.

I was already chubby when we got married and she was and is out of my league. She knew what she was signing up for.

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Nugget has to be a homo. Dude only talks about cucks, betas and BBC. He's either a flaming homo (more likely scenario) or had a girlfriend one time that he walked in on getting railed by some BBC.

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Your posts read like they're straight out reddit, dude. At least come up with an original idea to base your life around.

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When you cant insult the message, insult the messenger

You both know I am right, you just don't want to accept it, so you insult my character instead

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It's what I tell other men. Don't lift for women. Don't lift so you have a more attractive body for women. Lift for yourself. Lifting is more than just sculpting and building a body to get a woman wet. It's about self discipline, testosterone, physical health, challenging yourself, and sharpening the saw. If you lift for women, then once you have accomplished your goal of landing a woman, you get complacent and lazy. Because your motivation has been satisfied. Same with dieting.

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Yep. He positively fricks guys in the arse and takes it up the arse.

This is the gayest shite I've ever read.

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You should never have to do x, y, or z, to ensure that your wife doesn't cheat.

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speak the truth.

I can't tell you how many women I see come through the bar that I work at with the side dude. Most are married to genuinely good men with good incomes who don't look like slobs.

*side note* who goes to the same bar with their husband that they also frequent with their side piece?? That's just stupid.


Some women are just pieces of shite. Same as men. I know plenty of guys that got married and had kids in their early 20's and they really enjoy their family life. I know plenty others who couldn't make it 2-3 years.

I feel like a lot of it has to do with if you "got it out your system" in your younger years.

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As a married man, who recently had his first kid, I can see how people let themselves go. It would be very easy to let myself go. It takes a lot effort to get to the gym. Fortunately for me, four and a half months in, I'm still motivated to look good. Sometimes if there's no way to make it to the gym, I'll do an insanity video at the house.

But to the OP, you're judging men on their looks. Can't get much more beta than that.