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re: Is it better for a kid to be at home with mom until 3 or 4 years old, or go to daycare?
Posted on 6/3/18 at 4:43 pm to gizmothepug
Posted on 6/3/18 at 4:43 pm to gizmothepug
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You call out a poster for being racist and xenophobic but call out mom’s who aren’t educated enough for you. What am I missing? Seems like a double standard to me.
Dude just stop. Your reading comprehension clearly is lacking.
My post was only agreeing with the other person's post that there are no absolutes. You can't just say that in all cases staying at home with the mother is for sure the best situation to socialize and make sure the child is meeting appropriate milestones. Don't try and twist it.
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Posted on 6/3/18 at 5:03 pm to LSUTigersVCURams
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wish I lived someplace where my kid had the opportunity to learn Chinese. You’re boy is very lucky and is going to have a great edge when the time comes for him to compete in the global marketplace.
There is an international school in BR I really considered sending my son to. They start at 6 weeks. My fear was that it was almost too specialized by the time they hit high school.
In terms of day care, I'd love to be able to stay home with my son but financially it doesn't work. Day care seems to be going well. I think the socialization aspect is great.
Posted on 6/3/18 at 5:12 pm to LSUTigersVCURams
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wonder if he's missing out on socialization and learning experiences at daycare as well. What says the OT?
The fact that anyone even thinks to ask this is really fricked up.
Posted on 6/3/18 at 5:44 pm to browl
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Your wife can at home surpass any educational or developmental milestones that your kid would reach in preschool or preK.
Resist the trend to unnecessarily institutionalize your children. Sheep all say the same thing, don't They?
In threads such as this...the absolute best option is for the wife to stay home and raise kids. In divorce threads, it's, "all that bitch did was stay home with the kids and spend MY money."
Just an interesting observation...
Posted on 6/3/18 at 6:22 pm to LSUTigersVCURams
They learn more at daycare
Posted on 6/3/18 at 8:00 pm to LSUTigersVCURams
Pro daycare. I say this after 2 having gone that route and 2 more going that route.
My sister, who has 5 kids, kept her first 3 at home. She felt they were a tad socially awkward the first couple of years (Pre-k and K).
My MIL teaches kindergarten, and has for 30 years. She says she can tell which kids went to day care and which didn't. In general, kids that went to daycare are louder(having to talk over other kids) and more assertive yet more disciplined and don't whine as much. Kids that either stayed home are did mommy's day out programs(part time daycare) took longer to adjust to being in school and tend to be less confident and more needy.
My sister, who has 5 kids, kept her first 3 at home. She felt they were a tad socially awkward the first couple of years (Pre-k and K).
My MIL teaches kindergarten, and has for 30 years. She says she can tell which kids went to day care and which didn't. In general, kids that went to daycare are louder(having to talk over other kids) and more assertive yet more disciplined and don't whine as much. Kids that either stayed home are did mommy's day out programs(part time daycare) took longer to adjust to being in school and tend to be less confident and more needy.
Posted on 6/3/18 at 8:08 pm to LSUTigersVCURams
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My wife and I have our kid stay at home with her until it's time for him to start pre-k. This feels right for us, but sometimes I wonder if he's missing out on socialization and learning experiences at daycare as well. What says the OT?
Need that Nanny at home.
Posted on 6/3/18 at 8:30 pm to LSUTigersVCURams
My experience, there is no absolute answer. And the benefit of the dad/mother working often outweighs the benefit of him/her being at home at those ages. To each his/her own.
Posted on 6/3/18 at 8:50 pm to LSUTigersVCURams
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Is it better for a kid to be at home with mom until 3 or 4 years old, or go to daycare?
What if I told you that there wasn't a one size fits all answer, and that it can depend on the kid, the home environment, and the quality of day care.
This post was edited on 6/3/18 at 9:00 pm
Posted on 6/3/18 at 8:53 pm to LSUTigersVCURams
Home. Kid will have a whole lifetime of putting up with other people let em' have some peace.
Posted on 6/3/18 at 9:03 pm to LSUTigersVCURams
There are pros and cons to each. The main thing is to make sure your kid is in a high quality daycare. If you can’t afford that, home with mom is better (assuming mom isn’t parking the kid in front of the TV all day).
Posted on 6/3/18 at 9:29 pm to RealityTiger
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Your kid is probably going to be the weird one in class unless you also did a bunch of other activities with kids their same age.
This is absolute truth, but I love how people downvoted it as though it’s not true.
Mothers working and kids in daycare is a relatively recent development, at the end of WWII only 10% of married females worked, and most of those were working prior to having children. The number of children in daycare grew rapidly starting in the late 1970s, and continued to climb steadily until it reached the 65-70% percent level we have today. Prior to 1980 we somehow managed to avoid creating a nation of sociopaths without kids being in daycare, the idea that kids socializing with other kids was more important that being with their mother during the preschool years would have been rightfully laughed at.
Posted on 6/3/18 at 9:42 pm to LSUTigersVCURams
Well. Staying with mother wasn’t a problem for all of human history. Modern day, people be in daycare more and shooting up schools, so...not necessarily but there’s that to consider.
Posted on 6/3/18 at 9:48 pm to LSUTigersVCURams
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better for a kid to be at home with mom until 3 or 4 years old
Posted on 6/3/18 at 9:54 pm to lsuwontonwrap
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Why pay for day care if mom can stay home?
We’re facing this question for next year. What it comes down to for us is that my wife has a great job that is hard to find (gifted ed teacher). She brings home zero work, never has to go in early, never has to stay late, and doesn’t think twice about work when she’s home. She makes $58k/year and with a combined income (which we’ll need eventually), we can provide really unique experiences for our kids while giving them the opportunity to grow up in safe neighborhoods in great school systems. Plus we can ensure that they’ll have a chunk of change to go towards college while saving for a nice retirement.
Can we afford for her to stay home? Yeah. For a few years. But having found a highly recommended daycare that meets our expectations, it seems like the better decision for her to keep her job and be smarter financially.
Posted on 6/3/18 at 10:46 pm to LSUTigersVCURams
0-2 years old... if they can stay at home (with mom, grandma, etc) is best.
At 2, they should do at least a couple half-days a week at a mother-day out program.
At 3, they should be spending at least several full days a week at a program.
At 4, they need to spend 5 days a week at a program.
Find some play groups for the kid at a year old.
At 2, they should do at least a couple half-days a week at a mother-day out program.
At 3, they should be spending at least several full days a week at a program.
At 4, they need to spend 5 days a week at a program.
Find some play groups for the kid at a year old.
Posted on 6/3/18 at 10:56 pm to StringedInstruments
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Can we afford for her to stay home? Yeah. For a few years. But having found a highly recommended daycare that meets our expectations, it seems like the better decision for her to keep her job and be smarter financially.
We are in the same position, and we chose daycare as well. The wife’s salary is an important factor. Also keep in mind that women who re-enter the workforce after staying home with children make less than they would have if they had never left. This difference carries throughout their careers. So you won’t just be losing money for the year that she stays home but also for many years if not for the remainder of her career.
Posted on 6/4/18 at 1:37 am to LSUTigersVCURams
Stay home with mom!!! If I had to do it all over again, I would refuse to go to work.
Posted on 6/4/18 at 1:56 am to pelicanpride
I agree. I’m assuming a lot of the posters here have wives that make little more than what it would cost to send them to daycare.
So the question is how much would your wife have to make for you to say she shouldn’t abandon her career? $50k, $100k, $200k, $300k?
So the question is how much would your wife have to make for you to say she shouldn’t abandon her career? $50k, $100k, $200k, $300k?
Posted on 6/4/18 at 3:39 am to Cosmo
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2 days a week or so at daycare interacting with kids is a good thing though
I hv yet to find a day care that allows this. All the ones we looked at, the kid has to go all week, every week. Im not spending $500 a month when my wife can do it for nothing. My son doesnt get the socialization he needs though. I will have to wait until next year for school to start.
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