re: I’m tired of life guys. Seems like everyday gets worse

Hear ya, bro. It'll get better. Absolute dogshit year for sure

Sorry to hear all of this and my condolences for your loses.

We are going through a tough time and anything else that happens is just piling on.

Anything I can say is "easier said than done", but you are a father and your kids are your #1 priority. They need you. Even if there are times when it doesn't feel like it, kids need their father.

If it helps, you are not alone when it comes to your wife filing for divorce. Last year someone I have been close to my entire life, his wife filed for divorce.

Several years earlier they built a new house that she had to have. A few years after that, she wanted a swimming pool. He wanted to save up a little more, but to keep her happy they built a house earlier than he planned and then added a swimming pool. This was while she was pregnant for their 2nd child.

Then she wanted to have one more kid, after having their third kid she decides she isn't happy at her job and wasn't worried about money, she just wanted to be happy so she quit, got a job making less.. 6 months into the job she tells him she has been cheating on him with a guy she met through her new job and wanted a divorce.

THEN before he could even think about canceling the credit cards under both of their names.. She went purchase $10k worth of new furniture and other shite for her new apartment.

There are some women out there that will never be happy. Nothing is ever enough (I know there are men like this as well, but women seem to be more hardcore).

So for that end, I know its a big blow, a slap in the face.. But it happens to the best of people..

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It's the black dot on the white paper phenomenon.

Well in your case the many black dots.

Your life is the white paper. Your problems are the black dots.

We tend to focus on the little black dots and not the entirety of the white paper.

Step back and observe the whole paper ie your life

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Solid Post

Your kids are your main motivation. They need you here....this too shall pass.

Its not healthy to push down emotions. It can come back to really reek havoc.

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What also really helps is doing something for someone else. If you're in south LA help a friend or neighbor prepare for the weather. Helping others will take your mind off of your troubles and make you feel better about yourself.

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This.

It's something none of us have really brought up. It may not be for everybody, and to be honest, I don't think it's a particularly OT/TD kind of mindset. But it can do wonders for you.

It can be something as simple as shopping for an elderly person who can't get out, or helping someone in the neighborhood fix something. It can be visiting someone who is lonely, or teaching your kids how to throw and catch.

Or, you can go a step further. In my case I changed careers and started teaching in a high school where the majority of the kids are economically disadvantaged. It is incredibly rewarding.

I wholeheartedly appreciate each of you that chose to respond to this.

Means a lot.


Thank you.

Tough times do not last, but tough people do.

Join us at Fellowship Church in Prairieville. God and the love of your children can and will get you through.

Control what you can control.....

If you do drugs or drink stop for awhile.
Reading is great, but pick up a hobby or get out and do something with friends/family. Do something/anything don't just sit around.
Exercise and push yourself outside of your comfort zone.
Eat healthier.
Set new goals and put your head down to accomplish them.
Turn off the TV.
Everything you think isn't necessarily true.
It will get better. Keep moving forward brotha.

I’m so sorry for all your loses. I hope things get better for you and your kids really soon.

My favorite book for is “Never Give Up” by Joyce Meyer. It’s a really positive, easy read that I’ve reread many times in the past 10 years when I was struggling, and it’s helped me a lot.

I just said a prayer for you. It’s gonna get better! God bless you and your sweet kids!