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re: How To Politely Decline Being Best Man

Posted on 12/6/16 at 6:19 am to
Posted by Pilot Tiger
North Carolina
Member since Nov 2005
73144 posts
Posted on 12/6/16 at 6:19 am to
quote:

Don't be a self-centered "it inconveniences me" d bag
I don't think he is
Posted by AceHole
Your mothers bedroom
Member since Mar 2012
933 posts
Posted on 12/6/16 at 6:20 am to
Posted by Martini
Near Athens
Member since Mar 2005
48850 posts
Posted on 12/6/16 at 6:22 am to
Tell him you will be driving around that day with a pistol and a lot of cash daring someone to flip you off so you can shoot them.
Posted by TheDude
Member since May 2004
2675 posts
Posted on 12/6/16 at 6:45 am to
quote:

I Introduced this guy on accident and he thinks he owes me. My wife and I were taking her friend out to dinner and I didn't want to be the third wheel and he had texted me that he was in town so I invited him to join so it wasn't me and 2 women blabbing about nothing. He thinks it was us arranging them to meet. It really wasn't, he doesn't owe me anything lol and I just dont want best man responsibilities for a wedding in new york, a wedding I probably wouldn't attend anyways.



If you don't get out of it. This is your best man speech.
Posted by Bmath
LA
Member since Aug 2010
18670 posts
Posted on 12/6/16 at 6:48 am to
quote:

ask him genuinely if he has any friends/brother that he is closer to and would feel slighted if they were not chosen. if he says yes, then encourage him to choose them and give it your blessing after convincing him it was his idea to choose them.


This is exactly what my mom did when her college roommate asked her to be her maid of honor. She said she was flattered, but thought that it wouldn't be fair to her friend's sister.

Her friend understood, my mom was in the wedding as a bridesmaid, and they are still good friends.
Posted by Topwater Trout
Red Stick
Member since Oct 2010
67590 posts
Posted on 12/6/16 at 6:56 am to
Is it possible you are his closest friend? Maybe he doesn't have many friends.
Posted by baldona
Florida
Member since Feb 2016
20461 posts
Posted on 12/6/16 at 7:05 am to
I've gone to plenty of weddings I didn't 'want to'. Just suck it up and do it, complaining here is pretty lame. I've been to multiple weddings where the dad was the best man, as said maybe he has a lot of friends but no great friends.

At the same time, if you don't know him just tell him you'd be honored to be a groomsmen but maybe another friend would better serve as the best man. Which you may honestly be the most responsible friend he has?
Posted by Crow Pie
Neuro ICU - Tulane Med Center
Member since Feb 2010
25317 posts
Posted on 12/6/16 at 7:17 am to
Tell him thanks ...but you like him so much that you don't want him blame you once she divorces him and takes half of everything he worked for. Win Win
Posted by LSUfan4444
Member since Mar 2004
53817 posts
Posted on 12/6/16 at 7:27 am to
Posted by YouAre8Up
in a house
Member since Mar 2011
12792 posts
Posted on 12/6/16 at 7:29 am to
quote:

Bang his fiancée.


Posted by New Boy
Member since Aug 2009
890 posts
Posted on 12/6/16 at 7:34 am to
I read that you probably wouldn't go otherwise, but is your wife in the wedding?
Posted by Tiger Ryno
#WoF
Member since Feb 2007
103095 posts
Posted on 12/6/16 at 7:36 am to
quote:

is it possible you are his closest friend?


Sad if true.
Posted by ChunkyLover54
Member since Apr 2015
6529 posts
Posted on 12/6/16 at 7:40 am to
Say you're gay and would rather marry him
Posted by Rouge
Floston Paradise
Member since Oct 2004
136811 posts
Posted on 12/6/16 at 7:40 am to
This calls for an elaborate cancer hoax
Posted by SomethingLikeA
Member since Jul 2013
1113 posts
Posted on 12/6/16 at 7:41 am to
Reasons to decline

quote:

dabigfella


quote:

considering the cost of travel



I dont think so.
This post was edited on 12/6/16 at 7:42 am
Posted by Hot Carl
Prayers up for 3
Member since Dec 2005
59109 posts
Posted on 12/6/16 at 7:41 am to
quote:


Bang his fiancée.


2 birds, one stone.



More like 2 birds, one bone. Amirite
Posted by SirSaintly
Uptown, New Orleans
Member since Feb 2013
3136 posts
Posted on 12/6/16 at 7:46 am to
Lie & say you have a previous commitment on that date or you can't get out of work etc.

Being in a wedding nowadays sucks b/c no one pays for the groomsmen or bridesmaids expenses anymore. They expect you to foot the bill for airfare, hotel, tux & dresses etc. My mother said in their day, the bride's family covered all of that. Being in someone's wedding shouldn't be a financial obligation.
Posted by lsucoonass
shreveport and east texas
Member since Nov 2003
68462 posts
Posted on 12/6/16 at 7:52 am to
You're a tool
Posted by LCA131
Home of the Fake Sig lines
Member since Feb 2008
72598 posts
Posted on 12/6/16 at 7:55 am to
quote:

You're a tool



Brevity is the soul of wit.
Posted by DingLeeBerry
Member since Oct 2014
10895 posts
Posted on 12/6/16 at 7:59 am to
quote:

What would you do to not ruin the friendship but politely say "no"


Ask him for his credit card number so you can go ahead and book your flight and hotel. If he says no, you're off the hook. If he gives it to you, you should be his best man.
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