How Relationships Become Stale and Boring (and what to do about it)

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What does it mean for a relationship to be stale?

If you’ve been with your partner for a long time, it can be hard to tell the difference between “comfortable” and “flat-out boring.”

While “comfortable” isn’t necessarily a negative thing, it becomes a problem when you start feeling bored. (If you’re wondering why, just know that extended boredom in a relationship almost always leads to one outcome: cheating.)

Many couples find that they develop routines together over time. These routines include anything from simply sleeping in the same bed every night, to having coffee together every Saturday morning… and yes, to having sex on the same night every week.

But if knowing what to expect and when to expect it doesn’t really give you that “tingly” feeling inside anymore, or if you find yourself not looking forward to these routines you’ve developed together, then you may be caught in a hopelessly stale phase in your relationship where nothing is particularly exciting.

So how do you prevent this?

1. Flirt Frequently
After a few years, technology can be a huge distraction. But it doesn’t have to be like that. Send your partner flirty texts, risqué photos, and promises of what’s to come when he or she gets home.

2. Don't Forget to Have Fun
The honeymoon phase is all about playfulness, so why let that go?

Plan fun events that you can do together. They can include a round of mini-golf, sharing a triple-decker ice cream cone, exploring a new part of town, and even a pajama Saturday. They’ll remind you of what you originally found attractive about your partner and how great you are together.

3. Spend Some Time Apart
Spend solo time with your friends and family, or just try to regularly do something you love alone.

Having alone time is very important because it gives you an identity outside of the relationship

You’ll have more to talk about without that feeling that you know all there is to know about each other.

4. Be Spontaneous

When it comes to gifts, it’s the thought that counts, not the price tag.

The time and intention you put into random acts of kindness will reignite the passion and memories of when you first got together.

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Don't be a basic arse s/o. You got to keep your girl off balance. Keep her on her toes.

Your boy Pecker is mysterious af. Don't nobody know what I'm finna do next. I'll leave the gym with a pump (on back and shoulders day) and go straight home and start making candles. We've been together 6 years and neither my girl nor her attractive friends know what I'm about, but they know they intrigued.

I'll sometimes straight up ignore Valentine's Day. I don't need goofy commercials to tell me to do something corny and cliche. I'll hit her with random flower deliveries at work tho and fun date nights on random weekdays. Not out of obligation, but because I'm a thoughtful and romantic MF.

Stay running game on your girl, bros. I'll seduce mine anytime, anywhere. We roll over in bed at 6:30 on Monday morning and I'm ready to get that butt. I'll wake up 30 minutes early, take a shower, brush my teeth, and slide back in bed in my boxer briefs and hit a competition pose, just waiting for her to wake up and see me. Playing it off like I just woke up too - like I don't know how this baby oil got all over my abs and pecs.

Do things that YOU find interesting and challenging. Mix it up to keep things fresh for YOU. And in turn you'll also be keeping the relationship fresh. The game ain't fair and these hoes ain't loyal. But you don't have to be a basic bitch. Your boy Pecker says these things because he cares.