re: How much time is appropriate to wait to start dating again after a spouse dies?

She’d still be warm and I’d be hitting up the bitches at da club.

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How much time is appropriate to wait to start dating again after a spouse dies?by Uga Alum

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I’d say sometime after the funeral

There no right answer here

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It’s none of anyone’s business. Everyone is different

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This seems to be the issue people are struggling with. I get it, it might be upsetting to people, but they have no idea what kind of conversations these two people had towards the end, or what the relationship was like.

If my wife gets sick, and in the course of that sickness it looks like she's not going to make it, and she tells me not to go the rest of my life alone, I'm going to start dating if and when I feel ready. What her family or my family thinks is appropriate is irrelevant.

People concern themselves too much with how others live their lives sometimes. There's a difference between being there for someone--being supportive to them and caring for their wellbeing--and being nosey and opinionated on how they should conduct themselves.

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If my wife gets sick, and in the course of that sickness it looks like she's not going to make it, and she tells me not to go the rest of my life alone, I'm going to start dating if and when I feel ready. What her family or my family thinks is appropriate is irrelevant

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What if she doesn't tell you?

Or talks about can't waiting to see you on the other side so you can resume your lives together?

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My opinion is you have to wait at least a year.

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I’m curious about this hard timeline you’ve set. What makes 1 year better than 6 months? Just because someone magically waits 365 days instead of 180 automatically makes them a better person ?

There's no answer to this question. People trying to place a timeframe on such a thing is idiotic.

6 months, a year, two years.....who cares? Let people live their lives. As long as she's not banging someone on top of the casket, mind your business.


With that said, I'd say as long as the person who lost their spouse has gone through the grieving process, any amount of time is appropriate. How long does the grieving process last? For some it could be a month or two. For others, it could be 3-5 years.

This guy sounds like an honor killing Taliban type. At best, he sounds like Barney Fife.

Life is for the living rather than for the dead.

The real issues are when you are no longer vulnerable due to the loss and when you are recovered enough to actually have anything to offer to another person.

Grief is a very personal pain and does not operate on a common calendar.

The main point is that other people should not intrude into this very personal healing process.

MYOB

According to my dad, 7 weeks following a 50 year marriage to my mother

My mom died October 2024. My parents were married for over 54 years. June 2025 he calls and tell me he is getting remarried in 2 days. I have not spoken to him since. Don’t care if I ever do again.