re: Hey Divorced People.

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1. How long were you married ?
2. Who filed for the divorce ?
3. Why did they file for divorce ?

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1. 12 years
2. I left and filed.
3. Wife was no longer interested in intimacy, even though we were still best of friends. I initiated therapy three different times to attempt to overcome this. She ended up arguing w the therapist and ended the sessions each time. Her friend the psycologist told her to let me go if she won't be intimate with me. Hardest thing I've ever done.

That marriage failure was not just on her. I obviously made a poor choice for a partner. I could have stayed as I was at least content. But a near death experience changed my perspective. After which I left.

But not being a quitter, I remarried. What can I say, I like to wake up next to a woman I love and have a life plan with.

This time I chose better. Been w my wife for 15 years, married for 8. She and I are two peas in a pod. Cannot believe how lucky I am and how enriched my life is from every angle. She feels the same way

Here just to stir shite up I see. Who’s paying you to post on this website?

I feel for all you divorced baws. If I don't ever end up getting married, I won't be too upset honestly.

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2. I'd bet 75% of divorces are filed by the woman

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Women leave men 80 % of the time. It's 90 % if they are college educated.

And 56 % of marriages end in divorce (I realize this can vary based on which study you view).

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You divorce for essentially one of 2, or 3, reasons:
A. Money disagreements. Etc
B. Sex drive difference

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I think these are too specific. Money disagreements have more to do with selfishness and communication issues. Sex drive differences, in my opinion, have more to do with a lack of connection, vulnerability, and intimacy.

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The biggest reason "I'm a strong independent woman who don't need no man,now where's my child support and my alimony "

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This is more real on the internet vs real life. Most women crumble at these ideas when face to face.

The internet, Twitter, dating apps, etc. none of this is all that real

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Ex still hasn't found that richer man.

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It’s funny how some women think that there’s this pool of rich successful men that are looking for a woman that is overweight, doesn’t work, isn’t into intimacy and just wants to sit around and complain and drink wine every day ….. that is their age or younger.

Good luck with that.

Getting marriage input from people on the OT is wild. Don't you know it's none of these guys faults and it's just because women are crazy?

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So literally just went years with no pussy?

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Our sex life fell off a cliff after she had our son and then became obsessed with pregnancy / adoption. She became a different person. I gave up trying to initiate. Then once every few months she'd say something like "ok...I guess I need to take care of you.". Like she was doing me a favor because she wasn't interested.

She has not remarried, has a boyfriend once in a while but it never lasts. Over the years we've gotten along fine while working together to raise our son.

Escape plans

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Getting marriage input from people on the OT is wild. Don't you know it's none of these guys faults and it's just because women are crazy?

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On the female equivalent of this site, every man is an abusive narcissist