re: Have you accepted death?

I'm not scared of dying and I'm fine with it. I'm scared of dying before I'm done raising my children.

I've thought about it, my wife would probably be ok eventually. My family would get along fine. I do not believe my kids would be who they would be or should be if I passed before they are grown.

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Something else that bothers me is that I chose to have kids, dooming them to existential dread and the eventual misery of death. Life is beautiful and I hope they live lives worth living. But they exist because of me, and they might suffer for it.

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Raise them right and hope for the best. That is pretty much all I got for you.

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Have you accepted death?

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Not yet - I'm 82, but when I get old, I'll start thinking about it.

Death is a release. I sometimes long for it. Other times I have no interest in dying.

No one is going to remember you after a couple of generations. Just like nobody remembers a farmer who died on the Eurasian steppe 1800 years ago.

Nothing matters in the long run.

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Most importantly, as a Christian, my soul and mind is at peace knowing I will spend eternity in the presence and grace of my God.

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You sound awfully confident.

Make it quick and painless

Never gave it much thought growing up, getting married, first child healthy, then my best friend died in a freakish accident. Playing golf, blew a shot, mad, swung his club against the cart, it broke, entered his throat, died 3 days later. Since then, it's always been a non existent thought, never know when it mite happen, or how, so I've tried to live a full, carpe diem type life. Waking up each morning a victory.

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You sound awfully confident.

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No…I sound (and am) at peace with my life. That is because of my confidence in my beliefs.

I do not judge non believers, as it is not my place as fellow sinner to do so. I do however feel sad for them. To me it is sad to think that this pitiful world and the few years we have on it are it, that there is nothing else. I feel sad for those who have nothing to lean on in hard times to help ease there mind and spirit to get them thru.

There have been so many times in my life when I was in a struggle and saw no way thru, no light at the end of the tunnel. I had done all I knew to do and had gotten nowhere. Once I quit being stubborn and realized I didn’t have the answers and put it in Gods hands to see me thru, not only did I immediately have a feeling of peace but the path forward was eventually clear for me. Not to say it was always easy or painless but at least it was a path forward that I didn’t have prior.

This is where my confidence comes from. Some may laugh and say I’m wrong. What if I am. What have I lost. Nothing. I tried to live a moral life, and had something that gave me, peace, happiness, and confidence as I did so. Is that such a bad thing?

There have been a few studies recently that found brain activity after "death" for as much as 15 minutes. Brain death is a step-wise process. You lose all senses- hearing, seeing, feeling, etc. Feeling is the last to go and the most bizarre. You know, at least you think you know, you are laying on a bed, but since you cannot feel anything you do not feel the bed..you feel nothing. You might as well be just a brain in a jar on a desk. You have control over nothing, you are way beyond completely helpless. You don't really know how long you've been this way, time is confusing to say the least. You know whatever happens next is up to the good Lord, you know its too late for "I'm sorry"- and that is one thing you know for certain. It is a hundred fold the most serious time of your "life".