re: For you baws that have given up women: is your life more at peace?

I was in that boat to some extent until I met my wife. Smart*ss, attractive, adventurous. Been together 30 years and can’t imagine anything different. She still makes me laugh and attractive as ever in my eyes. Sometimes it just clicks.

We are only a few years away from having Robot Sexual and Domestic Partners.

I came out of a particularly bad relationship and just decided to shut the dating bullshite down. I still like it, but realized I didn’t need it. Once I realized that fact, life got exponentially simpler.

No more worries about money. Because of this, I was able to retire about 5 years earlier! These are my best years yet.

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After me and the long time girl split about 15 years ago I've been on dates and such through the years but as I get older I've noticed that modern 40-somethings just live their lives doing whatever social media tells them to do. I haven't even bothered in a year or so after my last attempt at a relationship had to break things off because she "couldn't date a sober man". Yeah, she's mid 40's and still wants to go partying and such with her kids at home. I've pretty much given up. It's much more peaceful and financially satisfying not trying to court these drones.

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I've been separated/divorced for almost five years. When it happened, my daughters were 12 and 15.

My ex-wife started seeing someone before our divorce was even finalized, and they're now engaged. I chose a different path. I took time to focus on myself and, more importantly, on my girls. I've dated here and there, but nothing serious or long-term because I wanted them to know they came first.

I remember hearing Dr. Laura talk about not getting seriously involved with someone while your kids are still at home, and I thought it was really good advice. Her point wasn't that you should never move on or find happiness again. It was that your kids are already dealing with a major change, and they need stability, your attention, and to know they are your priority.

My youngest will be 18 soon. At that point, I'll feel like I've done what I set out to do as a dad, and I'll be ready to put more focus into building a relationship for myself. Until then, my focus has been on being the best dad I can be. And I continue to do just that, something that I am very proud of.

I'm cool with being single. I've have 4 long term relationships, including a marriage. I'm at the stage of "don't care, but open to it happening"

My last girlfriend was an absolute nutcase, to the point where I'd drive home and sit in my car for 30 minutes, just to mentally prepare for whatever bullshite I was about to walk into. That's no way to live

Most Baws don't give up on women, woman give up on them.


But to be honest, every one I've ever dated/married has been a pain in my arse (other than the poon).

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Most Baws don't give up on women, woman give up on them.

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A man will trade his happiness for his family. A woman will trade her family for her happiness.

Women, children, and dogs are loved unconditionally. A man is only valued for what he can provide.

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Your wife is probably cheating on you.

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Yes, she’s cheating with Emory Alum because UGA grads are losers.

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We are only a few years away from having Robot Sexual and Domestic Partners.

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It’s going to be sad when those robots start rejecting the dudes that can’t score with the humans now.