re: First time dad: Update (pg. 7) for new dads!

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Reading all this shite makes me never want to have kids

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Newborns really shouldn't be crying as much as the OP describes. They need to be checking things out for an issue. My niece had a baby 6 months ago and they had to wake that child up for feedings. He was sleeping all night long within a week.

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Felt the same way you did.


Checking in at 10 months now and love it. It gets way better.

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People won't admit it because it's hard to face the reality but having kids generally ruins your life and happiness.

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People won't admit it because it's hard to face the reality but having kids generally ruins your life and happiness.

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See, your unhappiness is directly related to how hard you hold on to your selfish ways.

The depth of satisfaction and happiness that comes from learning to get over yourself as a parent> Any “happiness” attained by refusing to get over yourself.

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He was sleeping all night long within a week.

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Of all the potential lies available to you on the internet, you choose to besmirch your character like this, on the Sabbath of all days.

On a serious note, how's my boy doing?

I frickin hate babies. I have a 4 y/o and a 1 y/o. That shite doesn't get any better till they start telling you what they want instead of just crying and you're sitting there playing the guessing game trying everything you can to make it stop.

My 4 y/o daughter is so much fun and the love of my life. I wish she would stop growing up so fast and my 1 y/o son would hurry up already.

As a first timer with an 8 month old, don’t believe the garbage. Most things you heard over the years are people just lying through their teeth.

My daughter was just am annoying potato for the first 3-5 months. It gets better when they can at least sit up on their own, but everything before that is just catering to randomness. There is no “bond” only obligation.

1. When they grab you finger you’ll know….lie
2. When they smile at you you’ll know…lie
3. When they say “dada” you’ll know…lie

They grab anything, they smile at anyone, and dada/baba is just their first vocalizations, it has Zero to do with identity.


Now between 6-8 months, she started finally having a personality with purposeful interactions, and I’m finally starting to see “my daughter” so hang in there, but don’t feel bad about being underwhelmed with the feeling of fatherhood. It ain’t your and your child’s time yet, but it will come shortly enough.

1) sleep when’s they sleep.
2) don’t both get up for feedings. Endurance wise you will both crash soon. Alternate
3) sleep in separate room as your wife if it gets bad. Need someone to get sleep. I bought a twin bed/mattress to set up another bed in the office room.
4) get one a good baby camera/monitor and buy the sleep sock(owlet) Will allow you and wife deeper sleeps
5) don’t blink…. They grow up fast….

Note: the $300 I spent on the Owlet was well worth it. Wife was constantly waking up to check to make sure baby didn’t roll over on face it was breathing. Owlet is basically a pulse/ox for their big toe that will alert you when pulse or oxygen level drops.

Everyone will sleep better