re: Do you ever leave the house when you get in an argument with the wife?

Honestly (and it doesn't always work) this is the best progression of things.

See argument coming.

Ask questions. 1. Is this going to split us up? If so, no arguing needed. Just be done with it and avoid the fight.

2. is this worth arguing over? What am I going to gain from this?
3: am I in the wrong here? What part did I play?

Then walk and think on it. A lot of the time your woman will send you a novel text about whatever she is pissy about. This will be thousands of words about something that could be addressed in a sentence. Usually it could be summed up as "give me more attention."

Don't reply to the novel.


Return, if you were wrong, say it. Resist the urge to justify your actions. It's pointless. If she was wrong, and it's not that serious, either fix it or forgive it.

Kiss her sweet and go to the bedroom and spend all the energy you would have wasted on a fight making her toes curl and she'll probably forget all about why she was mad at you (until the next fight at least)


Rinse and repeat.


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fricking is a lot more productive than fighting.

I usually go do some yard work, or go out to the boathouse, or somewhere to clear my head. We don’t fight often or let it get very heated though.

No. In 15 years we’ve never gotten that heated. During our worst fights going in another room solved the problem. Neither of us have the personality where we have to “win” the argument though.

Best thing I ever did was when my wife was mad about something and jawing at me.

She had made a nice dinner, had too much wine while cooking and I had just loaded my plate and so she blurted out, "...and if you don't agree with me don't eat the food I made!"

I looked her. I looked down at the food. I really wanted it, too. But I walked over to the trash can, opened it and dumped in the food and rinsed off my plate and walked away, got in my car and left. Went and picked up some good smoked brisket and sides, brought it home, and sat down at the bar and said to her, "we can still discuss this if you like, now." Total alpha move. Her mood had totally changed, and she came over and kissed me, said she was sorry and it was the wine talking. Then she said, "I can't believe you threw away my dinner." I said, "Me, too, honey. It looked delicious. I really wanted it, too." Then we both laughed and had sex later.

We never argue. Took a while to find her, but she's my best friend.

frick arguing and drama. Life is too short.

Sometimes sure... Take a quick ride and let everyone chill out and reapproach

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Do you ever leave the house when you get in an argument with the wife?

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depends if the bar is open or not

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fricking is a lot more productive than fighting.

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fricking and fighting, it's all the same. Living with Louie dog's the only way to stay sane.

I’d use the gym as a productive outlet or just take a walk, but these types of fights are pretty rare.

Never go to sleep angry and maintain open communication is the sustainable advice. If you need to take a minute to collect your thoughts, hard to see the harm in that.

Don't argue with your wife, dicker!