re: Did you have a step-parent growing up?

My Dad and Mother divorced when I was 4, and my Mother and I were essentially just us two till I was 14. My older sister left home after HS. My sister basically rebelled the time she was at home. I saw the hell it put my Mother through, so besides mischief, I was a good kid. My Mother met my Step Father when I just turned 14. They married a year later. He was the best man I've ever known. I loved him just as if he was my Dad. I loved my Dad, don't get me wrong. He wasn't available and he never paid child support. Back in those days, you could get away with that. My Step Father treated me just like a son. He treated my Mother like a queen. For years, we were a happy family. My step Dad was the best man I've ecm before my Father passed, he told me he was sorry for not being available all those years. I told him I forgave him and to not worry about it.. THAT was not easy, but I wanted him to get right before he met his Maker. I felt a huge shift when I did that. To this day I remember feeling like a huge Crack or fault had been righted or corrected. Over the last 15 yrs after he passed, I dealt with a lot of issues and resentment I had that were buried. I still forgave him. I could have ONLY done that with the Lord's help. I miss my Dad and love him. But my Step Dad I love very much and miss him a lot. There's not a day goes by, I don't think about him, and he passed 14 yrs ago. We are all affected by trauma, and the cycle continues. Hurt people hurt people. The only way to stop the cycle is forgiveness because He, Christ, first forgave us. For several years, I operated out of hurt, anger and trauma when my kids were growing up. I reacted instead of responded, and I had almost zero self awareness. Dad's, get your pain dealt with before raising kids.and you unintentionally take it out on your family. Stop the cycle. Forgiveness is the only way; otherwise you store the rage and anger, and it will affect your health if you don't release it. The Blood of Jesus cleanses all sin and mercy triumphs over judgment. I'm still working on and righting my relationships with my now grown kids. If that's the ONE thing I can do before I die, then I'll accomplish everything. My Mother, Dad, and Step Dad are gone now, but I know I'll see them again, and I look forward to it. But more than that, I long to hear from my Heavenly Father, "well done." . He first forgave us, and so we need to forgive others. It's very hard, but it' means everything. Forget religion. Read John and get to know Jesus. He is the only way. Call on Him to help you and watch what happens.

I had a beautiful stepmom, we video’d much of our time together, and it is available on certain Internet sites

My step dad came in about 3. Perfectly good dude, taught me lessons on how not to make excuses, etc. Wasn't outdoorsy in any way, unlike his dad, so I missed a lot of baw type stuff. However, I just learned what little I know through shop class, and people I met along the way.

Wasn't adopted, but didn't need to be. Him and the rest of my family stayed in the D.C. orbit, so I see them once every two years or so. He sends interesting naval warfare articles, which is exactly on brand. It probably wouldn't work for many, but it works for me.

Had a step-dad growing up since my birth father was killed when I was about 6 weeks old. Mom remarried when i was 4 and he was no prince. Typical step-dad, alcoholic and verbally abusive. He played football with Billy Cannon in high school, went on to play college ball and one year in the pros. All before he came into my life. He was playing semi-pro ball when it was a thing in the late 60's. Mom left him when I was in high school and I was glad to help her pack. She remarried about 7 years later to my current step dad and I only wish I had him in my life earlier. He treated my mom like a queen until she passed 4 years ago. I told my wife that if I could love her half as much as he loved my mom, she would be one lucky lady.

I introduce him as my dad to this day. He is 91 and going strong

My mom remarried when I was 22. When Father's Day would roll around my mom wanted us to call her husband. I did it once, and it just felt absolutely ridiculous. So, I told my mom.... I think birthdays are enough.

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Did you have a step-parent growing up?

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lol, no.

My parents got married and stayed married.

Divorces and children out of wedlock are trashy.

Growing up, I did not have a step parent. Parents were together; Dad was active duty Navy so from the time I was born until I was around 15 he was either overseas or on a ship somewhere 6-9 months out the year.

After 42 years of marriage, they moved into separate homes and filed for divorce 3 months ago. It’s bizarre and weird to process. So maybe I’ll get a “step parent” in the next few years, I’m just hopeful all can be civil and happy.

since i was 18 but was there when i was 14 on. she is my mom and i love her more than i could ever express.

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I’d imagine that’s a pretty good bonding experience for a step son and step dad

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Well I had heard stories of him from back in the day from his friends, I believe everyone of them after that experience.

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If you had or still have a step-parent, what is your relationship with them like? Did having them in your life make it better or worse?

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[HSS:]
SHUT UP!!

[Kids:]
You ain't my daddy!!

[HSS:]
SHUT UP!!

[HSS:]
I'ma call yo mama!!

[Kids:]
Call my mama!!

[HSS:]
I'ma tell yo mama!!

[Kids:]
Tell my mama!!

[HSS:]
You so bad!!

[Kids:]
I'm so bad!! You just mad cuz you ain't my daddy!

[HSS:]
I'ma call yo mama!!

[Kids:]
Call my mama!!

[HSS:]
I'ma tell yo mama!!

[Kids:]
Tell my mama!!

[HSS:]
You so bad!!

[Kids:]
I'm so bad!! You just mad cuz you ain't my daddy!

[HSS:]
I'ma call yo mama!!

[Kids:]
Call my mama!!

[HSS:]
I'ma tell yo mama!!

[Kids:]
Tell my mama!!

[Girl:]
This ain't yo house no way!

[HSS:]
SHUT UP!!

[Girl:]
You ain't my daddy!

[HSS:]
Okay dat's enough!

[Girl:]
I wish my dad wouldn't neva left!!

[HSS:]
WHAT?!?

[Girl:]
I wish we lived here by ourself!

[HSS:]
WHAT!!

[Girl:]
Wash these dishes
take this trash out
Do my homework (I'ma stepdaddy girl)
then I pass out (a steppdaddy!)

Stepdad ain't did nuttin for me!

[HSS:]
Don't talk back! Bet not embarrass me!

[Girl:]
You don't take none of us to the movies

[HSS:]
SHUT UP!!

[Girl:]
You don't take none of us to the zoo

[HSS:]
SHUT UP!