re: Did you ever lose someone that you thought would be your wife?

Your last three topics are pretty concerning

And yeah I’ve been through a couple breakups with someone who I thought I’d end up with. Bummed me out for a few weeks each time but learned from it and found someone nearly perfect for me

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Boring

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Username checks out.

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The success rate after the first breakup has to be less than 10%. You remember that you really care for each other and haven't seen one another in awhile, but after the newness wears off again the same problems are still there

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Yup. It’s almost always a desperation move.

Also the success rates of relationships after a relationship like that are probably 10% as well

I was ready to marry this chick once and I was thinking long term.
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Bitch ripped out my heart and ran it through a meat grinder.

I was fricked up for a while but found some solace in whiskey and strippers.

Several years later I now realize that it was the best thing that could’ve happened. I would NOT have been happy with her and am glad I realized what a succubus she was before we did anything permanent.

Last I heard she’s still being led on by her douchbag boyfriend who refuses to buy her a wedding ring. A mutual acquaintance I saw at a party about a year ago told me that she’s stopped taking birth control in hopes of getting pregnant and forcing him to marry her. Bitch is crazy.

Yeah that would be a wrap for me

Dated a girl off and on for a few years. Started when we were kids. I honestly thought we would get married. But my drinking and lack of direction got the better of me.

I treated her simultaneously like a queen and like shite. And she stuck around even though she was clear that I was just an amazing friend who she was dating and liked to frick... But couldn't see a future with me.

Looking back I realize she just wanted me to grow up.

I broke it off by diving head first into a barrel of psychosis that I married and was with for 10 years. She called a few months in begging me to come back... I stupidly did not.

She married a guy who looks like a feminine version of me.

I'm with someone else and we haven't talked in more than a passing manner in years. But any time I see her randomly at the grocery store or target, it's clear I fricked up. We pick up conversations from years ago effortlessly.

She's a mom now. Three beautiful kids who weirdly look like me.

I'm the guy who buys bourbon in bulk and smokes a cigar on the porch every night. There's always a woman in my life, but I have no doubt she was the one I was meant to marry. It's a disheartening thought.

I remember going into a coworkers office, a few days later, I had to talk about a project.

I had become a completely different person. She took my arm and stared into my eyes. Are you okay?

People were genuinely concerned.

It was that way for the first month. A part of you dies, and you just have to live with it.

Thought I had a good one over the summer working in Fayetteville.

Felt it going down hill with her. Got a job offer in back in BR. Probably the toughest decision I've ever made.

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She fell in love and got engaged in less than a year.

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Translation, she was getting porked on the side while dating you.

It happens.

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Messaging me behind her now husband's back.

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This happens too, especially once the limerance phase wears off in a new relationship.

I was engaged to be married then I met my wife.