- My Forums
- Tiger Rant
- LSU Recruiting
- SEC Rant
- Saints Talk
- Pelicans Talk
- More Sports Board
- Fantasy Sports
- Golf Board
- Soccer Board
- O-T Lounge
- Tech Board
- Home/Garden Board
- Outdoor Board
- Health/Fitness Board
- Movie/TV Board
- Book Board
- Music Board
- Political Talk
- Money Talk
- Fark Board
- Gaming Board
- Travel Board
- Food/Drink Board
- Ticket Exchange
- TD Help Board
Customize My Forums- View All Forums
- Show Left Links
- Topic Sort Options
- Trending Topics
- Recent Topics
- Active Topics
Started By
Message
re: Check-in if Christmas has become too stressful
Posted on 12/26/19 at 12:56 pm to bouefbengal
Posted on 12/26/19 at 12:56 pm to bouefbengal
Why do grown ups continue to buy gifts for each other at extended family gatherings. Grow up. Just buy presents for kids 12th grade and under. Why add stress to families with kids
1
Posted on 12/26/19 at 1:00 pm to Tiger Ryno
I agree the gift mentioned was a card with cash in it
Posted on 12/26/19 at 1:00 pm to LouisianaLady
Never heard of that term. I’m already trying to think of my plan for next year—maybe with help from the OT. But I need him to help. If I don’t think of or do it, it simply won’t get done and if it pertains to the kids, I’m not going to not do things that are part of their Christmas.
Maybe tell him I’m absolutely not buying a gift for his entire family and if he doesn’t handle it, they won’t get gifts. It isn’t that I don’t want to do it for them, but in addition to everything else, it’s too much.
I hate to make a rigid “you do this, I do that” list because I prefer to work off mutual understanding and partnership. But I can only carry all the weight so long until my own body is worn down and I get sick.
/whiny arse rant
Maybe tell him I’m absolutely not buying a gift for his entire family and if he doesn’t handle it, they won’t get gifts. It isn’t that I don’t want to do it for them, but in addition to everything else, it’s too much.
I hate to make a rigid “you do this, I do that” list because I prefer to work off mutual understanding and partnership. But I can only carry all the weight so long until my own body is worn down and I get sick.
/whiny arse rant
Posted on 12/26/19 at 1:04 pm to tigerbandpiccolo
LINK
^ This is a good read re: your situation. Scroll down a bit to the comic. It is called You Should've Asked.
^ This is a good read re: your situation. Scroll down a bit to the comic. It is called You Should've Asked.
This post was edited on 12/26/19 at 1:05 pm
Posted on 12/26/19 at 1:06 pm to tigerbandpiccolo
Throughout the year I carry the load but I told my husband at Christmas it is about the kids. I left it up to him to buy gifts for adults on his side of the family.
Posted on 12/26/19 at 1:10 pm to madamsquirrel
I do 100% of the gifts and holiday planning/food, but he does a huge % of the housework (all year long, really) so there's a balance. I would be pretty resentful if I did the holiday-specific stuff and still had to do everything else while he just sat there.
One chick on another message board was saying her husband leaves all the gift stuff to her (and doesn't help in other ways) so she did't buy for his family and he tried to blame her when nobody had anything
One chick on another message board was saying her husband leaves all the gift stuff to her (and doesn't help in other ways) so she did't buy for his family and he tried to blame her when nobody had anything
This post was edited on 12/26/19 at 1:12 pm
Posted on 12/26/19 at 1:10 pm to LSUFanHouston
With divorced parents, Christmas and every other holiday is an overbooked and chaotic shuffle. Feel bad leaving one to make the other, especially when I sense competition which makes things uncomfortable. Have a baby on the way so we’re looking forward to starting our own traditions and enjoying not having to rush from place to place. Fortunate to have the family I do but damn.
Posted on 12/26/19 at 1:10 pm to madamsquirrel
Man I’m in the middle of nowhere in a foreign country and in-laws don’t speak English. Just have a beer.
Posted on 12/26/19 at 1:15 pm to kfaulk03
Online shopping saves Christmas from being very stressful for me. If I had to go into busy shopping malls & deal with that still I would be mental.
Posted on 12/26/19 at 1:19 pm to CXSteve
quote:
Online shopping saves Christmas from being very stressful for me. If I had to go into busy shopping malls & deal with that still I would be mental.
This is why I don't understand the people who wait until the last minute to buy people's gifts. You basically can't order online at that point, and the malls/stores are WAY more packed than they were a month ago.
Posted on 12/26/19 at 1:20 pm to LSUFanHouston
Pussy
Posted on 12/26/19 at 1:22 pm to LouisianaLady
Only thing I do involving the gifts for my husband’s family is wrap them. He always buys the gifts for his family. Will sign my name to the Christmas cards he buys for them as well. I buy the gifts for my family (when we do exchange gifts) and sign his name to cards I give them.
It’s a small family though for him. Just his parents, his sister and her husband and their two kids.
It’s a small family though for him. Just his parents, his sister and her husband and their two kids.
Posted on 12/26/19 at 1:26 pm to LouisianaLady
MadAm, think this will be my plan next year.
LL, I’m worried about them not getting anything or his problem/crisis becoming my problem a few days before Christmas. I love the idea but think that the aforementioned message board girl’s situation might be mine.
LL, I’m worried about them not getting anything or his problem/crisis becoming my problem a few days before Christmas. I love the idea but think that the aforementioned message board girl’s situation might be mine.
Posted on 12/26/19 at 1:27 pm to Steadyhands
quote:
Get your wife some help. If you get stressed out because of a holiday, especially Christmas....just wow. Can't get so caught up in something that you forget to live life in the process.
Depending on who you surround you self with, there can be a lot of pressure on those hosting to present the “perfect” holiday place to host. Blame it on movies/TV, magazines, stores, whatever but it’s there.
You just have to learn to not give a shite and focus less on upholding some ridiculous standard and instead on making memories with families and friends.
This post was edited on 12/26/19 at 1:28 pm
Posted on 12/26/19 at 1:35 pm to BluegrassBelle
See, we've always done the casual party foods/paper plates where everyone mingles and nobody sits down for a formal dinner.. which makes me want to experience a slightly nicer version.
But not the TV kind. I want the kind that you see chefs/restaurant owners/Bon Appetit type folks having with their families. Still laid back and at home, but badass high end restaurant quality food and tonnnnns of liquor flowing.
But not the TV kind. I want the kind that you see chefs/restaurant owners/Bon Appetit type folks having with their families. Still laid back and at home, but badass high end restaurant quality food and tonnnnns of liquor flowing.
This post was edited on 12/26/19 at 1:38 pm
Posted on 12/26/19 at 1:57 pm to AmosMosesAndTwins
In my book your parents or 8nlaws gave up their rights to bitch about where you spend your Christmas the day they chose to get divorced.
Posted on 12/26/19 at 2:01 pm to LouisianaLady
We had both worlds growing up. One family was buffet style paper plates and casual clothes. The other was place settings and dress clothes. Both grandmas could throw down in the kitchen though so the food was different but all of it was good. And both families drink high end wine and liquor so we are good there also.
Now that my kids are grown but don't have children we opt for the sit down adult holiday meal.
Now that my kids are grown but don't have children we opt for the sit down adult holiday meal.
Posted on 12/26/19 at 2:04 pm to LSUFanHouston
quote:
Check-in if Christmas has become too stressful
This is a major reason why Christmas is not well liked by me
People think I'm being a troll or cheap or something, but there is a reason why suicides and other pathological behavior/reactions increase dramatically around Christmas
A major key to living a happier life is living a simpler life. The entirety of the concept of Christmas has evolved into this super complex event that lasts approximately 3x as long as when I was a kid. Add in social media and the corresponding pressure and Christmas is borderline terrible in modern America.
This post was edited on 12/26/19 at 2:05 pm
Posted on 12/26/19 at 2:06 pm to SlowFlowPro
Did you get to see Wendy yesterday?
Posted on 12/26/19 at 2:06 pm to Rebel
quote:
Wendy
Yuuuup
Page 4 of 7
Popular
Back to top
Follow TigerDroppings for LSU Football News