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re: A friend of mine is getting disowned by some family members for divorcing wife that
Posted on 10/30/23 at 8:35 am to Dawgfanman
Posted on 10/30/23 at 8:35 am to Dawgfanman
quote:Some on this board..."Single parent homes and divorce are destroying this country and creating criminal little shits. This country is going to Hell."
Based on this thread I’m assuming most people who would leave their wife if she Got fat would leave for a whole host of other reasons. It can certainly get a lot tougher than that in a marriage.
Later...
"She gained 100 pounds??? GTFO, you can't be attracted to that, you can't have sex with that. You can't keep your kids around that unhealthy lifestyle example, it's awful for them."
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Posted on 10/30/23 at 8:36 am to Dawgfanman
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I watched my mother in law stay by her husband of 50 years side when he had lost the ability to tell what day it was, was mean and dangerous, couldn’t control his bowels, didn’t know who she was, and literally tried to eat a stick. She never waivered, she never lost patience, she simply continued the ACT of loving him. Love isn’t a feeling, it’s a conscience choice in how you act toward and treat another human being. I hope to be as strong and loving as she was if ever I am needed to do so.
I like that we apparently are apparently equating dementia with being a fat, lazy load.
Posted on 10/30/23 at 8:37 am to LNCHBOX
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I like that we apparently are apparently equating dementia with being a fat, lazy load.
If you can’t handle having a fat wife, you certainly aren’t capable of sticking around for a battle with dementia.
Posted on 10/30/23 at 8:38 am to Dawgfanman
If you say so.
Posted on 10/30/23 at 8:40 am to Dawgfanman
Being fat is a personal choice. Dementia is not
Posted on 10/30/23 at 8:43 am to TheOcean
quote:So is being a good parent and putting the well-being off your children ahead of your personal desires.
Being fat is a personal choice.
This selfish mom and dad are not to be admired or emulated for their choices here.
This post was edited on 10/30/23 at 8:44 am
Posted on 10/30/23 at 8:43 am to Jake88
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You can't keep your kids around that unhealthy lifestyle example, it's awful for them."
It is
By the way, I love how you rattled off 100 lbs like it’s nothing. Shows how accustomed to a shitty lifestyle we’ve become.
This post was edited on 10/30/23 at 8:45 am
Posted on 10/30/23 at 8:43 am to Dawgfanman
The OP is correct. 50+ lbs is inexusable. It is literally free to lose weight; simply eat less food and lead an active lifestyle (walking and bodyweight exercises). It is a total disregard for her relationship and her husband. Demonizing sexual attraction as "shallowness" is a cope. The foundation of healthy relationships is based on sexual attraction to each other. Kids are secondary to this fundamental feature.
Posted on 10/30/23 at 8:44 am to WDE24
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So is being a good parent and putting the well-being off your children ahead of your personal desires.
Staying together in a shite relationship just for the kids doesn't mean the kids have a better life.
Posted on 10/30/23 at 8:45 am to molsusports
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The part of this story that relates to just being attracted to her sexually is somewhat shallow but 100 pounds is extreme and shortens lifespans and destroys quality of life.
I didn't read through the whole thread so maybe it's been discussed, but this could easily be much deeper than just weight gain & current physique/look. If she put on that kind of weight and is not actively doing anything about it then there's also a good chance that she is not mentally the same woman either. Lots of times people that put on significant weight, let alone 100lbs, tend to shelter in and don't go out and do things in public like they used to and in general become less happy & partially depressed essentially not being the same person you married. Having a spouse turn into a hermit can be more of a marriage killer than weight gain itself.
This post was edited on 10/30/23 at 8:46 am
Posted on 10/30/23 at 8:46 am to LNCHBOX
quote:So work on the relationship. Still, this is the part of the op that I take issue with
Staying together in a shite relationship just for the kids doesn't mean the kids have a better life.
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Good for him. More guys out there should have the balls to do the same.
Nothing commendable about how other parent has been described.
Posted on 10/30/23 at 8:46 am to WDE24
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So work on the relationship.
Doesn't sound like the wife is willing to
Posted on 10/30/23 at 8:47 am to LSU Warren
Your friend needs to get his priorities straight and think about more than his short term happiness. Are you sure he doesn't have a side chick or potential side chick?
Posted on 10/30/23 at 8:47 am to LNCHBOX
If it fricks, flies or floats, rent it.
Problem solved
Problem solved
Posted on 10/30/23 at 8:49 am to Dawgfanman
They aren’t the same thing
Posted on 10/30/23 at 8:49 am to Odysseus32
quote:I don't know. I don't know him, her, his story, their starting point, expectations for each other, or if these people even exist. Neither do you.
Then why did he get married?
That has nothing to do with the point of my post which was that wanting to be physically compatible with your wife isn't necessarily based on vanity as many in this thread have implied.
Take two hypothetical people: one enjoys spending their time working out, jogging, hiking, playing sports or otherwise engaging in physical activity. They value their health so they avoid fast food and 3000 calorie restaurant meals so they prefer to cook healthy meals at home most of the time.
The other enjoys Netflix, day drinking, 'staycations', and apps, dinner, and dessert at Applebee's followed by a night at the bar drinking Long Islands.
I mean, maybe they both share a deep love for Russian literature or something, but, otherwise, these two people have little to spend time doing together.
Maybe they started out with interests that are more compatible but people change and they don't always follow the same paths.
My post wasn't about the couple in the OP. I haven't offered up any advice or suggested he leave her. It was simply a response to all the people suggesting that someone having an aversion to their spouse gaining 100 lbs is strictly superficial and cosmetic. You don't gain that much weight in a vacuum and the fact that one person is packing it on like that and the other isn't can be a sign that their priorities in life are wildly misaligned.
Posted on 10/30/23 at 8:50 am to LNCHBOX
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Staying together in a shite relationship just for the kids doesn't mean the kids have a better life.
Except for every single study they do that proves this wrong 100% of the time
Posted on 10/30/23 at 8:50 am to LNCHBOX
A man is only as good as his word, you can’t break your vows. Period.
However, a woman gaining that type of weight means she is no longer engaged in the marriage. She has a duty to her family and to her husband to take care of herself and she is intentionally not doing it. She needs to be set straight by her family and community. Unfortunately, we don’t live in that type of world anymore.
However, a woman gaining that type of weight means she is no longer engaged in the marriage. She has a duty to her family and to her husband to take care of herself and she is intentionally not doing it. She needs to be set straight by her family and community. Unfortunately, we don’t live in that type of world anymore.
Posted on 10/30/23 at 8:50 am to Doug_H
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Having a spouse turn into a hermit can be more of a marriage killer than weight gain itself.
for sure. especially for people that cant stand being stuck in a house all the time watching tv.
Posted on 10/30/23 at 8:51 am to AlterDWI
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Except for every single study they do that proves this wrong 100% of the time
This sounds legit
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