re: Son might not make a team.

Get him a hooker to show how we adults deal with our problems.

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Baseball?

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shite. I’m a dumbass.

It’s basketball. Junior high basketball.

You have a good plan. Some advice would be to work with him on goals ensure he writes them down. Make sure they are calculable and have a due date. For instance, if he doesn’t make basketball. Create a goal of making x amount of shots per day, x amount of times per week, until a month from now. Perhaps run or agility drills x amount of time this month. Give him something that he knows he accomplished to reach his big goal, to make the team.

What grade is the kid? Plenty of time for him to close the gap if it's his passion and he has a clear idea of where he is lacking. If it's baseball, he can spend this year building quantifiable bat speed /exit velo and throwing velocity. He will need to make it his job as well as lifting and eating. If he isn't willing to do that then he was fine a favor by not making the team.


If he's a 5'7" white kid who thought he was gonna make the basketball team, then it's time to have a blunt conversation with him. No amount of development is gonna close that gap.

Teach him to work harder. Adapt and overcome.

Or maybe find other interests he is better at.

Just send him to his room and have Andrew Tate motivation videos on auto repeat

He will lol and get motivated to work harder

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The coach had them practicing three hours a day 4-5 days a week

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So just like every high school program in the south?

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Correct.


I know he’s young. But sometimes that makes it worse. He’s more dramatic.

And another parenting note, basketball is one of very few things that voluntarily gets a device or PS controller out of his hand. So the stakes are higher. Just as a dad who cares about his son and a dad trying to raise a non couch potato.

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My youngest is starting his senior year and remember vividly the nervousness of waiting to see if he made the team. Fortunately he did but looking back on the ones who didn't there were different paths that worked out for most.

Some loved sports and went to something else they excelled at; baseball, cross country, etc. Some even went to band and loved it and have scholarships.

A few dedicated themselves, got bigger and stronger and made the team the following year.

Great advice is ask to be a manager and ask what he can do to get better for next year. I'd bet he would get a little practice time. Of course this path takes into account he loves the game.

Lastly, others didn't make it, felt bad for a few days, and went on their way. Some of them (friends of my son) look back now and chuckle saying thank goodness. They see the 6am weight lifting during the summer and school year etc.

I know here once jr high teams get started rec leagues also get going with the local parks and rec. He could play here to keep him in the game.

My son got cut from track and field his freshman year. He still showed up to practice and worked out with the team and the seniors even questioned why he keeps showing up. Season got cut short due to Covid and he ran everyday while the country was shutdown. He quickly learned to outwork everyone else on the team. Made the team every year since then, helped contribute to a state championship team, but most important learned work ethic.