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Bank Accounts
Posted on 9/23/22 at 10:01 am
Posted on 9/23/22 at 10:01 am
Trying to decide what the best plan is for bank account(s) with my fiancé. We got engaged a few months ago and the wedding isn’t far off. We live together so naturally we have bills that require us to split such as rent, wifi, power, water, etc.
I have considered doing 2.5 bank accounts for each of us ex: a personal checking/savings and a joint account which we both put a % of our paychecks in to use for paying bills and other house needs. But recently I’ve had a few people tell me we should just have 1 joint account and do everything out of that, I’m not a huge fan of that idea but wanted to get some more opinions on what the right game plan is
I have considered doing 2.5 bank accounts for each of us ex: a personal checking/savings and a joint account which we both put a % of our paychecks in to use for paying bills and other house needs. But recently I’ve had a few people tell me we should just have 1 joint account and do everything out of that, I’m not a huge fan of that idea but wanted to get some more opinions on what the right game plan is
Posted on 9/23/22 at 10:02 am to Ag_16
I know it’s a bit wordy, but appreciate any advice I can get
This post was edited on 9/23/22 at 10:08 am
Posted on 9/23/22 at 10:05 am to Ag_16
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But recently I’ve had a few people tell me we should just have 1 joint account and do everything out of that
Only Boomers that are leveraged to the tits and will never be able to retire say this
Posted on 9/23/22 at 10:06 am to Mingo Was His NameO
You hit the nail on the head there lol
Posted on 9/23/22 at 10:06 am to Ag_16
We have 4 accounts. Individual checking, a joint checking and joint savings. It works for us for the most part. She gets to keep Target and Amazon in business and I get to live like a pauper
Posted on 9/23/22 at 10:10 am to Drunken Crawfish
The main issue is she doesn’t make as much as me. So she’s worried that if we do the joint account she won’t have much left for her other accounts, she said she’d just rather put her whole paycheck in the joint account instead of a %
Posted on 9/23/22 at 10:16 am to Ag_16
My late wife and I had 2 accounts. A joint checking and a joint savings. It worked well for us, and when she passed it was a very little bit less to deal with. I think completely joint finances are good for a marriage. Two are supposed to become one. This whole my money vs. your money thing only breeds problems imho, but others feel differently.
This post was edited on 9/23/22 at 10:24 am
Posted on 9/23/22 at 10:20 am to Ag_16
When my wife and I got engaged, everything was still separate. We bought a house together. This is back in 2013.
At the time, I made more, she wrote me a check for half the Mortgage payment (full with PITI, even PMI). Honestly, I don’t completely recall what we did for utilities - probably some on her CC, some on mine.
Now married, we have joint checking and joint savings.
At the time, I made more, she wrote me a check for half the Mortgage payment (full with PITI, even PMI). Honestly, I don’t completely recall what we did for utilities - probably some on her CC, some on mine.
Now married, we have joint checking and joint savings.
Posted on 9/23/22 at 10:35 am to Ag_16
Don’t let money get in the middle of your new life partner. Get that joint account.
Then have your own too.
Then have your own too.
Posted on 9/23/22 at 10:51 am to Ag_16
I'm in separate accounts with a joint account for household expenses.
Wife and I are in the same boat. We put all of our expenses in a spreadsheet to annualize our expenditures, then divided by 21 to get the monthly amounts. We then added our take home pay and used a weighted average to determine how much each should put in the joint account. At one point, I was making 65% of the take home; as a result, I was responsible for 65% of the expenses/savings.
I agree that this can, but the theme I see more often is the wife/husband feeling ashamed to need to ask to spend XXX for something they wanted personally because all money went into a shared account. Then leading to resentment because they cant go buy that nice TM iron set that just went on sale
Wife and I are in the same boat. We put all of our expenses in a spreadsheet to annualize our expenditures, then divided by 21 to get the monthly amounts. We then added our take home pay and used a weighted average to determine how much each should put in the joint account. At one point, I was making 65% of the take home; as a result, I was responsible for 65% of the expenses/savings.
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This whole my money vs. your money thing only breeds problems imho, but others feel differently.
I agree that this can, but the theme I see more often is the wife/husband feeling ashamed to need to ask to spend XXX for something they wanted personally because all money went into a shared account. Then leading to resentment because they cant go buy that nice TM iron set that just went on sale
Posted on 9/23/22 at 10:51 am to Ag_16
If you both make roughly the same and are both very involved with finances, maybe go for separate accounts if that's important to you.
I make a lot more than my wife does and she has zero interest in our finances. She probably couldn't tell you which bank we use.
Personally, I would recommend joint. I could see separate accounts leading to some trust issues, justified or not. Maybe not a great foot to lead off on in a new marriage. And as someone else said, I also would not advise keeping the mindset of your money vs. her money. It's yall's money now. GL
I make a lot more than my wife does and she has zero interest in our finances. She probably couldn't tell you which bank we use.
Personally, I would recommend joint. I could see separate accounts leading to some trust issues, justified or not. Maybe not a great foot to lead off on in a new marriage. And as someone else said, I also would not advise keeping the mindset of your money vs. her money. It's yall's money now. GL
Posted on 9/23/22 at 11:06 am to Ag_16
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The main issue is she doesn’t make as much as me. So she’s worried that if we do the joint account she won’t have much left for her other accounts, she said she’d just rather put her whole paycheck in the joint account instead of a %
My wife and I solved this by simply having more (read: nearly all) of the bills draw from my personal account. In the rare instance one of us has a short term liquidity issue, the other just makes a quick Zelle transfer to them.
Neither of us have to whine about or police the spending of the other, as there’s no joint account to lord over.
This post was edited on 9/23/22 at 11:07 am
Posted on 9/23/22 at 11:34 am to Ag_16
It really depends on you and her, imo.
My wife and I have seperate joint accounts so we can budget ourselves easier, but can see what is going on with the other.
She buys the groceries, stuff for the kids, etc and transfers me half the utilities, mortgage, etc.
Then I save money to invest, make household improvements, repairs, pay for vacations, etc.
It works for us cause she likes to shop and I like to save.
My wife and I have seperate joint accounts so we can budget ourselves easier, but can see what is going on with the other.
She buys the groceries, stuff for the kids, etc and transfers me half the utilities, mortgage, etc.
Then I save money to invest, make household improvements, repairs, pay for vacations, etc.
It works for us cause she likes to shop and I like to save.
Posted on 9/23/22 at 1:03 pm to Ag_16
Wife and I each have our own checking accounts and we have a joint savings account that we both contribute to. The individual checking accounts aren't a problem for us since we make roughly the same amount of money.
Plus there's no way I could stand to see the constant Amazon and Target purchases come out of my account. And she likely wouldn't want to see the amount of money I spend on golf
Plus there's no way I could stand to see the constant Amazon and Target purchases come out of my account. And she likely wouldn't want to see the amount of money I spend on golf
Posted on 9/23/22 at 1:34 pm to LSUcam7
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Don’t let money get in the middle of your new life partner. Get that joint account. Then have your own too.
This.
My wife is terrible with money. fricking awful.
So I have a second savings thru my credit union at work that I put money into every paycheck. So if something serious happens I know I’ve got cash on hand.
I love the woman. But dammit.
Posted on 9/23/22 at 1:52 pm to Ag_16
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So she’s worried that if we do the joint account she won’t have much left for her other accounts
Don't go into marriage like this. It will not be healthy if you have your money and she has her money. You're getting married. Regardless of what you make or what she makes, treat it as a household income and budget equally.
This is just my $0.02.
Posted on 9/23/22 at 2:08 pm to Ag_16
Just my opinion and opposite of some but Keep your shite seperate and continue to split bills.
If it isnt broke dont fix it.
There is zero reason for a joint account unless
1.you're both putting in for the downpayment on a house or something.
2. She stops working because of injury pregnancy raising kids etc.
I had a joint account with my first wife and she analyzed every purchase i ever made. You don't want to get into a situation where you can no longer spend the money you earn as you please. Thats a great way to breed anger and resentment.
I keep things seperate with 2nd wife. She has her money and i have mine. She buys stupid shite / household decorations we dont need all the time and I have probably avoided 100000 discussions or arguments because i dont care, thats her money she earned to spend as she pleases.
I mostly save nowadays but I will never accept someone telling me what to do with what I have earned ever again.
If it isnt broke dont fix it.
There is zero reason for a joint account unless
1.you're both putting in for the downpayment on a house or something.
2. She stops working because of injury pregnancy raising kids etc.
I had a joint account with my first wife and she analyzed every purchase i ever made. You don't want to get into a situation where you can no longer spend the money you earn as you please. Thats a great way to breed anger and resentment.
I keep things seperate with 2nd wife. She has her money and i have mine. She buys stupid shite / household decorations we dont need all the time and I have probably avoided 100000 discussions or arguments because i dont care, thats her money she earned to spend as she pleases.
I mostly save nowadays but I will never accept someone telling me what to do with what I have earned ever again.
This post was edited on 9/23/22 at 2:13 pm
Posted on 9/23/22 at 2:17 pm to Ag_16
Whatever you do, have the account(s) at a credit union.
Posted on 9/23/22 at 2:18 pm to Ag_16
Joint accounts have worked for us. Every dime we spend or save/invest is for us not mine or hers. If anything, I think it kept both our spending down rather than having a me budget to blow (and increase with every raise).
Not a boomer or leveraged to the hilt. In fact, retired early at 45 and was able to do so on a single income since kids were born after 10 years of marriage.
Not a boomer or leveraged to the hilt. In fact, retired early at 45 and was able to do so on a single income since kids were born after 10 years of marriage.
Posted on 9/23/22 at 2:20 pm to elprez00
quote:My wife must be your wife. We have separate accounts as well and I handle most of the bills
This.
My wife is terrible with money. fricking awful.
So I have a second savings thru my credit union at work that I put money into every paycheck. So if something serious happens I know I’ve got cash on hand.
I love the woman. But dammit.
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