re: When did society normalize standing people up?

I was hanging out with a cool girl for a while a few months ago. Took her out to dinner a couple times, bought meals and drinks for a few of her friends, we spent one entire night and the next day together. Went to a bar after dinner and it was like she flipped a switch. Said her "anxiety spiked" at the end of dinner and that was the only explanation I really got. She told me a lot of nice things I already knew and told me I'd do fine. She was right.

Georgia grad, btw.

I ended the night last night making out with a cute woman 10 years younger than me Had a date Saturday with a cute vascular surgeon 6 years younger than me, and am meeting another girl tonight to take the dogs for a walk along the water who is an absolute smokeshow (9 years younger than me).

She is non-confrontational to her detriment

Instead texting or calling to say she was too anxious or nervous or tired or scared to go out, she decided that the least confrontational route would be to ghost, to just avoid that conversation altogether and ignore texts and obilgations, ignore the immediate discomfort of disappointing you last minute and having to face it head on

Unusual that she would even text you the next day, but i am sure she spent much of the night of your date formulating her excuse, what she would say, and when she would say it. Even if what she said was not much

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I can tell you as a single mid 40's guy that it is absolutely pointless to try to date in this age bracket now. Every average looking woman has had their egos inflated so much by social media that they're deserving of a millionaire soap opera actor or doctor that will spoil her and her 3 bastard children. They don't show up to see if you have anything in common with her, they show up to scrutinize your life to see if you're "good enough". I gave up trying to date - it was really just a waste of time, energy, and money. If I die alone, so be it - at least I'll have some peace and quiet.

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Absolutely agree here. Like fishing in the sewer if you are looking for something serious.

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It's definitely something with younger people nowadays.

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I had a partner in an accounting firm show up an hour late to an interview. Dude was like 60 and was aghast when I told him no thanks.

It’s not just young people

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It means that the person who you've been in contact with is not actually that person. It's either some morbidly obese woman or a dude who gets off on flirting with guys, often scheduling meet ups but never actually meeting up because it would blow up their whole charade. If they still try to continue to talk to you and flirt, then that's a pretty big giveaway. I assume you never face timed this person? How many pics have you seen of her? Maybe try a reverse google image search and see where that takes you.

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Oh we FaceTime multiple times and her FaceTime matched with her pictures on FB and instagram.

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single mid 40's guy that it is absolutely pointless to try to date in this age bracket now.

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Its super easy if you aren't on dating apps. Go to places where women are. Talk to them. Don't dress like a slob, be in decent shape, have a decent career, and have a personality. Its not rocket science. I think the main thing stopping most of you is you are 5'10 220 and think you "just need to lose 20 pounds". Almost anything is fixable these days. If I was overweight, broke, etc. I would work on getting those things fixed before I tried to start dating.

That's not normal at all. Sounds like you dodged a bullet

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She sent nudes

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Also, they ain't loading pal

Oh damn. Then that it pretty odd. May be a good thing that she didn't show. She sounds nuts.

The last 1.5 years of dating this had happened to me twice. One girl an hour before said she was showing up and when I got there and waited and had no response, the next day said she fell asleep throughout the night. The other one very late responded with a head ache and didn't feel like going out.

To answer OP's question, can't really tell you exactly when it started but it really has been going on for a while. Probably since dating apps started getting popular I guess. At least from my experience, women in general can't even show the slightest bit of decency or communication which I assumed was a basic human action. It's just awful.

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“I caught a weird vibe while getting ready and decided not to show.”

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Meaning: X showered up swinging helicopter dick at the front door and she couldn't resist