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Visual stimulation: is this an equal pull for men and women?
Posted on 11/13/21 at 10:14 am
Posted on 11/13/21 at 10:14 am
This is an ongoing discussion between my wife and I ….she says women struggle with porn just as much as men do but women know how to better control it
She says that years of teaching in conservative churches have led men to believe that they are powerless to control their thoughts/ instincts over porn (or how women dress etc) and this is why 72% of people addicted to porn are men.
She says to believe that only men are visually stimulated would mean that God created men/ women differently…
Obvs i counter with…we are all created differently- diff sex drives etc- it doesn’t speak to how God is unequal in his creation.
I am now reading a study on visual stimulation between sexes (published through NIH) to prove her wrong by science
I mean, i have a friend (woman) at work and we have talked about what porn we normally watch so i know women watch porn but i can’t accept that the only reason i believe that men look at porn is bc i was raised in a church that taught me that men are powerless ../.i wholeheartedly accept that men are just wired differently
Also/ no photos of my wife or my friend at work
Anyone have any thoughts/ opinions?
She says that years of teaching in conservative churches have led men to believe that they are powerless to control their thoughts/ instincts over porn (or how women dress etc) and this is why 72% of people addicted to porn are men.
She says to believe that only men are visually stimulated would mean that God created men/ women differently…
Obvs i counter with…we are all created differently- diff sex drives etc- it doesn’t speak to how God is unequal in his creation.
I am now reading a study on visual stimulation between sexes (published through NIH) to prove her wrong by science
I mean, i have a friend (woman) at work and we have talked about what porn we normally watch so i know women watch porn but i can’t accept that the only reason i believe that men look at porn is bc i was raised in a church that taught me that men are powerless ../.i wholeheartedly accept that men are just wired differently
Also/ no photos of my wife or my friend at work
Anyone have any thoughts/ opinions?
Posted on 11/13/21 at 10:16 am to 850SaintsGator
Sounds like your wife watches a lot of porno Bc you can’t satisfy her
Posted on 11/13/21 at 10:16 am to 850SaintsGator
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mean, i have a friend (woman) at work and we have talked about what porn we normally watch
That sounds like a wild lunchtime discussion
Posted on 11/13/21 at 10:18 am to 850SaintsGator
Porn is to men as Hallmark movies are to women.
Posted on 11/13/21 at 10:20 am to 850SaintsGator
Imagine being married and watching porn lolololololol
Posted on 11/13/21 at 10:23 am to 850SaintsGator
While I think men and women are generally wired a bit differently in that they enjoy different kinds of porn, I think the larger difference is cultural, though I don't think your wife is correct. I think it's less that culture teaches that men can't control themselves and more that culture shames women for their sex drive, at least historically. When you spend your formative years being told that having a strong sex drive makes you a slut/whore/etc, that's going to take a toll, even once those pressures have been removed.
Feel free to google it, but poll after poll have shown that women are vastly more likely than men to have feelings of shame/sadness/etc after sex/orgasm. Sure, some of them might have been disappointed by your performance, but I can't imagine you've had sex with all of them. Regardless, those same feelings are going to manifest in watching porn for most women.
Feel free to google it, but poll after poll have shown that women are vastly more likely than men to have feelings of shame/sadness/etc after sex/orgasm. Sure, some of them might have been disappointed by your performance, but I can't imagine you've had sex with all of them. Regardless, those same feelings are going to manifest in watching porn for most women.
This post was edited on 11/13/21 at 10:24 am
Posted on 11/13/21 at 10:24 am to 850SaintsGator
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Anyone have any thoughts/ opinions?
She's wrong.
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She says to believe that only men are visually stimulated would mean that God created men/ women differently…
No...it's that males evolved differently and have different things which attract them. Men tend to be attracted to physical traits more, where as women tend to be attracted the traits which make men be protectors and providers. Some of those MAY be physical attractiveness, but many are not. There's a reason men buy nice cars, get good jobs which earn lots of money, etc.
Men look for young, pretty, physically fit, because they ultimately would make a good mate.
Posted on 11/13/21 at 10:30 am to 850SaintsGator
Your wife is wrong, very wrong and study after study shows this. Women are more emotionally oriented when it comes to sex and men are more visual/physical oriented. This is why men have absolutely no issue sleeping with a wide range of women and women are more selective.
Yes, there are women who toss their bodies about with many different men, but those women are going far away from their natural instincts and they're usually emotionally wrecked.
I guess if you take the "humans are just unthinking animalistic beasts" view of gender differences you could say she's not totally wrong.
I just think real life shows us women are far more fickle about their sexual tastes.
Yes, there are women who toss their bodies about with many different men, but those women are going far away from their natural instincts and they're usually emotionally wrecked.
I guess if you take the "humans are just unthinking animalistic beasts" view of gender differences you could say she's not totally wrong.
I just think real life shows us women are far more fickle about their sexual tastes.
This post was edited on 11/13/21 at 10:39 am
Posted on 11/13/21 at 10:38 am to 850SaintsGator
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She says to believe that only men are visually stimulated would mean that God created men/ women differently…
your wife thinks penises and vaginas arent different enough evidence to satisfy this view that men and women are made different?
have yall never been around a 5 year old boy and girl? behaviors are very different.
but to be fair women are def visually stimulated too. I think its more a difference in affinity for pleasure seeking behavior
Posted on 11/13/21 at 11:21 am to 850SaintsGator
Women are more stimulated by sound. As soon as they hear you have lots of money they are stimulated.
Posted on 11/13/21 at 11:23 am to 850SaintsGator
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she says women struggle with porn just as much as men do
A few, maybe. Hypersexuals. You don't marry those.
Posted on 11/13/21 at 11:24 am to 850SaintsGator
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I mean, i have a friend (woman) at work and we have talked about what porn we normally watch so i know women watch porn but i can’t accept that the only reason i believe that men look at porn is bc i was raised in a church that taught me that men are powerless ../.i wholeheartedly accept that men are just wired differently
Now this is a thread.
You need to delete this if your wife reads the board
Posted on 11/13/21 at 11:27 am to 850SaintsGator
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to prove her wrong
Your first, of many, mistakes in this story.
Why would you work so hard to prove your wife wrong?
What do you think that will accomplish?
You better get used to watching more porn.
Posted on 11/13/21 at 11:33 am to 850SaintsGator
Religious people use religion to try to explain everything. It’s funny
Posted on 11/13/21 at 11:47 am to 850SaintsGator
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years of teaching in conservative churches have led men to believe that they are powerless to control their thoughts/ instincts over porn (or how women dress etc) and this is why 72% of people addicted to porn are men.
She is attributing involuntary sexual response to decades of teaching? That's ridiculous. If indoctrination could shape male sexual preference then we would prefer fat single mothers.
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She says to believe that only men are visually stimulated would mean that God created men/ women differently
Of course we are different. One can have one child at a time and invests time after pregnancy nursing. WTF. The differences in gestation and nursing alone mean men and women will have different sexual strategies.
It is true that women are highly motivated by appearance. They will preferentially seek out attractive men with muscles, height, good teeth, a full head of hair etc. Tinder selections by women show they tend to be even more discriminatory than men when it comes to rating men for their appearance (rating 80% of men below average) or swiping right (often on on between 1 and 10% of men). In this way the discriminatory nature of their mate selection makes sense for biological reasons.
But women also value social standing and affluence highly in men - things that men do not require to be interested in a woman. And women will happily have sex and even children with attractive alpha males but seek out financial support from reliable, less attractive, beta males who get the bills and responsibilities without the fun.
Posted on 11/13/21 at 12:11 pm to 850SaintsGator
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i have a friend (woman) at work and we have talked about what porn we normally watch
“Hi, I’m Karen from HR. Why don’t you step into my office and have a seat. We won’t be long.”
Posted on 11/13/21 at 12:15 pm to 850SaintsGator
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i have a friend (woman) at work and we have talked about what porn we normally watch
Have y’all fricked yet?
Posted on 11/13/21 at 12:34 pm to 850SaintsGator
quote:New Iberia Haircut is known to cause visual stimulation
study on visual stimulation between sexes (published through NIH)
Posted on 11/13/21 at 1:04 pm to 850SaintsGator
Your wife is being silly. Of course women aren't as visually stimulated, and God did create men and women differently.
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