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re: How do elderly come to better terms with the finality of death?
Posted on 9/16/21 at 8:51 am to Chad504boy
Posted on 9/16/21 at 8:51 am to Chad504boy
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Posted on 9/16/21 at 9:01 am to J_Hingle
I am old and the thought does cross my mind from time to time.
I have had a handful of near death instances in my life and was damn happy to get past them.
My goal now as I continue to work way past retirement age (I've retired twice from other jobs) is to pile up as much as I can for my wife to live comfortably and for my kids and grandkids to not have to go to a bank and borrow money to bury both parents as I had to.
Born poor, raised poor, did without for many years so I want to leave my grandsons a head start on college or whatever they choose along with my baseball card collection from the late 40s on.
My mother and grandmother taught us from an early age about redemption, salvation, and the Golden Rule was pounded into our heads from an early age. If they were wrong, so be it, what have we lost?
I have had a handful of near death instances in my life and was damn happy to get past them.
My goal now as I continue to work way past retirement age (I've retired twice from other jobs) is to pile up as much as I can for my wife to live comfortably and for my kids and grandkids to not have to go to a bank and borrow money to bury both parents as I had to.
Born poor, raised poor, did without for many years so I want to leave my grandsons a head start on college or whatever they choose along with my baseball card collection from the late 40s on.
My mother and grandmother taught us from an early age about redemption, salvation, and the Golden Rule was pounded into our heads from an early age. If they were wrong, so be it, what have we lost?
This post was edited on 9/16/21 at 9:03 am
Posted on 9/16/21 at 9:08 am to beachdude
Posted on 9/16/21 at 9:12 am to FreeState
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Born poor, raised poor, did without for many years so I want to leave my grandsons a head start on college or whatever they choose along with my baseball card collection from the late 40s on.
What do you have in your collection?
My dad was born in ‘56 and had some good ones from the ‘60s (Mays, Mantle, etc.) but he didn’t take good care of them and didn’t get nearly as much for them as he could have.
Posted on 9/16/21 at 9:12 am to FowlGuy
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There’s no time clocks in heaven, just eternal bliss. No pain, no suffering. As long as I can hunt and fish up there I’m fine, and throw in some Popeyes fried chicken and I wont ever complain!
It amazes me how adults can say things like this. Are you just ignoring logical thinking to keep your mind at ease?
Do you know you're lying to yourself and just choose to not think about that aspect of it, or do you honestly believe what you just said?
I just have a hard time believing how a logical adult in todays world can think this way, and truly believe it.
This way of thinking/believing isn't faith. It's hope.
And i don't say this to be demeaning to you. I have no problem with people being religious and believing what they are following, i just want to know if you are a true believer in what you just said, or if there's a hint of logical doubt about your "faith" that you have that you simply suppress?
Posted on 9/16/21 at 9:19 am to dbeck
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I don't freak out. Will be just like before I was born
For your sake, I hope you're right.
Posted on 9/16/21 at 9:20 am to Chad504boy
Surely part of it is that this Earth comes with so much bullshite and it'll never really get better.
Posted on 9/16/21 at 9:35 am to Chad504boy
"I have competed well, I have finished the race."
Posted on 9/16/21 at 9:40 am to Chad504boy
You’d have to ask them
Posted on 9/16/21 at 9:43 am to Allthatfades
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For Christians, death isn’t the end, only the beginning
I'm Christian, but still struggle with this. Life on earth for all it's flaws is incredible and I can't imagine the day I have to leave it behind
Posted on 9/16/21 at 9:47 am to Chad504boy
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Still gives me anxiety thinking about the thought of being gone from this earth forever.
Its a part of life, just deal with it.
This country has some really terrible thoughts on death and end of life - we waste so much money keeping old people just clinging to life in a miserable existence - a lot of the time essentially only for the benefit of those around them.
We probably had a much better relationship with our own life cycle and end of life when wakes and funeral prep were done in home and the family was able to find closure far more quickly.
Now we just pump bodies full of chemicals so they look somewhat still alive and do our best to avoid having to deal with our own mortality.
This post was edited on 9/16/21 at 9:48 am
Posted on 9/16/21 at 10:18 am to Sneaky__Sally
I am spoiling the hell out of my 2 grand kids, ages 5 & 3. My daughter-in-law laughingly tells me quit, I just laugh back & tell he to "deal with it". There is no value attached to the smiles of my little ones.
Posted on 9/16/21 at 10:21 am to Chad504boy
I'm early 40s, and while I don't want to die, I know there's no alternative.
I don't dwell on it. Make the best of the time you have.
I don't dwell on it. Make the best of the time you have.
Posted on 9/16/21 at 10:22 am to Chad504boy
I personally believe that consciousness survives bodily death. There's a growing body of evidence that supports this. Religion is a manmade concept.. no religion is perfect, but I do believe that it's a vessel to give thanks to our creator, whoever that may be.
Posted on 9/16/21 at 10:22 am to Chad504boy
I mean, our line of work, it's always out there. You probably don't even hear it when it happens, right?
Posted on 9/16/21 at 10:35 am to Chad504boy
It seems like it is easier for the second person in a couple to accept it.
My grandmother died about 2 years ago after many years of illness. My grandfather took care of her the entire time.
He is still around and is in pretty good health. But he tells me all the time that he is ready to go whenever God takes him.
I know many other elderly whom have had their spouse die first, that say basically the same thing.
My grandmother died about 2 years ago after many years of illness. My grandfather took care of her the entire time.
He is still around and is in pretty good health. But he tells me all the time that he is ready to go whenever God takes him.
I know many other elderly whom have had their spouse die first, that say basically the same thing.
Posted on 9/16/21 at 10:40 am to LSUFanHouston
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he tells me all the time that he is ready to go whenever God takes him.
I watched my mom die a couple of months ago, I spent almost every day off for the last couple of years with her as well as her final week, she outlived my dad by 17 years and had a strong will to live, she was prepared and at peace to go, had good spirits and a sharp mind right up to the end, her body just told her "I give up, it's time," and she went almost like flipping a switch
Posted on 9/16/21 at 10:45 am to RogerTheShrubber
quote:A very wise statement, as per your norm.
What you see from people isn't always what's inside.
I am very sad to hear of your medical situation, I always appreciate your contributions and presence here.
I hope for the best for you going forward, my thoughts are with you.
Posted on 9/16/21 at 10:50 am to beachdude
Life's a piece of shite when you look at it.
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