re: Wanting To Give Up and let the Coronavirus Defeat Me

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Beautiful no doubt but just a reminder of what I'll never have, lol.

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10% of the OT will never have a woman like her either. You are not alone.

The great thing about life is that those of us who are lucky enough to live in nations like the USA get to choose our purpose. At 35, it's not too late for you to make whatever you want out of your life, including a wife and kids if you choose to do that. I've faced similar struggles to what you're going through. My problems improved a lot once I started viewing my life as an opportunity to live out my values and make a small, positive change. Like you, I will probably never be remembered by history, but I'm happy knowing that I live in a way that makes me feel good about myself.

Try to spend some of this extra time thinking about what you value, what your skills are, and how you can use those skills to live a life that affirms who you are as a person. Try to reach out to others as much as you can right now too. Call or video chat or play an online game with a friend. Let your parents know you're thinking of them, and ask if they need anything.

When this crisis is over (and it will end, we just don't know exactly when), I'd encourage you to find a good mental health professional. Getting specialized help made such a tremendous difference in my life. There's no more shame in it than going to a doctor for a broken leg.

Be safe and healthy, brother. We all need one another.

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Where ya at Baw?

Take a walk, get fresh air

Do you gave any friends?
You can still meet up & hang out

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Florida. Tampa area specifically. Heck at least over the weekend I hung out on a beach area on Tampa Bay but now the governor has us all on lockdown.

Of course they still want us to work but they've taken away all the fun stuff in our life.

I’m really sorry you’re having a tough time. Please know that you and what you do DOES matter. You’re only 35, you still have plenty of time to meet someone special and have kids if you want. It sounds like you have what a lot of people have, the signs of depression. Do you have a doctor that you could maybe call and do a telephone appointment with to let know how you’re feeling?
I’m also 35 but a female, and I’ve never married and felt the same things you’re describing a few years ago so I understand. It WILL GET BETTER!!
Maybe try to force yourself to exercise and workout even if it’s a little just to help you accomplish something. Listen to music while you do it.
Since your alone, maybe adopt a pet or donate a little money to St. Jude’s or a food pantry. It doesn’t have to be anything big.
Please take care of yourself, because you matter, and we’re here for you!!

Honestly I’m feeling the same way, it’s hard when you are alone
I am an introvert but being cooped up is getting to me
I am growing a few container veggies & just sitting outside to get fresh air

Do you have any interest that you can turn into a hobby?

Get some fish or a cool reptile, practice taking care of something,

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Depression is a liar.

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Wrap your head around this, OP.

My friend it's never too late to find love. You're still a relatively young man. I mean 35 years old may be old in your mind but trust me you're still a young man. Bottom line I'm sure there is a nice young woman out there just a lonely as you are, and most likely she wishes she could meet a special person.

Have you considered joining a Church community? Many Church communities have a singles club. They socialize and do all kinds of fun things. In time you will form lasting friendships and you'll begin to feel much better about yourself and your situation. Also I found that working in social ministries at my Church has given me many many wonderful hours of peace and happiness. I moved around a lot in my job and the first thing I did when I moved to a new town was seek out the local Church, and their social ministry. The most recent ministry was working in a ministry that provided free meals to the homeless. Trust me, there are people out there who are really suffering, lonely, and feel abandoned.

Besides as you get involved in ministry you will acquire a reputation as a good compassionate person and that gets around a community. Then most likely that "special person" will one day appear out of the mist (figuratively speaking). But most important you will find there are people who are just as lonely and hurting as you are.

You're honest and you're hurting. I'm sure there is a young lady out there more than willing to love and affirm you. A person who needs you just as much as you need her.

Good luck!