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re: Old friend is in jail. Wants my contact info to call/write me, should I?

Posted on 8/4/17 at 9:25 am to
Posted by DarthTiger
Member since Sep 2005
2758 posts
Posted on 8/4/17 at 9:25 am to
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This post was edited on 1/10/21 at 11:43 am
Posted by Gorilla Ball
Member since Feb 2006
11846 posts
Posted on 8/4/17 at 9:25 am to
I had a college buddy that was arrested in st Tammany for stealing copper wiring. Went to jail, I was completely blown away. I contacted his sister for his information. I think we talked once or twice over the phone, then I wrote him a few times. By the second or third letter he was asking for money to help his wife or whatever with bills.
I didn't write back or accept his calls.
He wrote a few more times, each time the letters were angrier. I didn't open the last two letters. When he got out of jail he sent me a few hate messages over social media.
Posted by maddog201205
BR
Member since May 2017
63 posts
Posted on 8/4/17 at 9:26 am to
I was in a pretty similar scenario to you. Had a real good friend all through high school get locked up in 2013 and I wrote him for his entire sentence which was 3 1/2 years. He did all of his time at the Rayburn Correctional Center. I felt like I kind of owed it to him though just because he would send me king cakes and lots of Saints shite during both of my deployments to Afghanistan before he got into trouble. I actually enjoyed writing him. He would give me the low down every week on what was going on in the prison, who got into fights, etc. He was terrified of his cell mate who was serving life without parole for murder. He would get me to send him cut outs of girls from magazines so he could jerk off to the pictures. This took a lot of trial and error on my end because the first few times I sent him pictures they were straight from a Hustler magazine. I wasn't aware that any photos or pictures couldn't show women naked or posing in a seductive manner and my buddy caught a lot of shite from the guards when I kept sending them. I'd write your friend baw, everybody fricks up and I know writing my old friend helped him a lot while he was doing his time and he's actually doing really now since getting out plus for the years I wrote him it was like watching a crazy prison television show.
Posted by 13SaintTiger
Isle of Capri
Member since Sep 2011
18315 posts
Posted on 8/4/17 at 9:27 am to
quote:

You quit being friends with this guy because he smoked too much weed? Or because he was selling it while living with you? Is he locked up for possession and/or intent/distribution?



Whether he was using or selling makes me no difference because of his carelessness. Just think, to be in jail for possession means you've been caught multiple times. At any rate, it was the latter.
This post was edited on 8/4/17 at 9:31 am
Posted by Tiguar
Montana
Member since Mar 2012
33131 posts
Posted on 8/4/17 at 9:30 am to
Difference between a lot of people on the outside and inside is people on the outside just never got caught. Our criminal justice system turns people who made a mistake into career criminals.

Like I said, he probably is going to end up asking for money or something but I'd feel worse not even giving him a chance.
Posted by JetFuelTyga
Born in desert,raised in lion's den
Member since Feb 2016
1786 posts
Posted on 8/4/17 at 9:32 am to
Dude will be crashing on your couch in 6 months time. Book it.
Posted by GreatLakesTiger24
One State Solution
Member since May 2012
55960 posts
Posted on 8/4/17 at 9:42 am to
Help an old friend out. He needs someone to talk to. Are you scared of saying no if he asks for money or a place to stay?
Posted by DuckManiak
Member since Nov 2011
3738 posts
Posted on 8/4/17 at 9:56 am to
My best friend from HS went to jail for a year. I wrote him 2 letters and he texted me when he got out saying he appreciated it. There's not much in there to do, so he's likely just trying to stay busy.
Posted by Box Geauxrilla
Member since Jun 2013
19120 posts
Posted on 8/4/17 at 10:00 am to
He will ask for money or pics of your wife.

Posted by el Gaucho
He/They
Member since Dec 2010
53319 posts
Posted on 8/4/17 at 10:02 am to
Was he smoking weed and that's why he went to jail? You never know about these potheads, he may lure you into a visit then hold you at shiv point and force the prison into lockdown
Posted by Flashback
reading the chicken bones
Member since Apr 2008
8353 posts
Posted on 8/4/17 at 10:03 am to
Your friend might want some of that arse from u, b/c jail has changed his sexual orientation.
Posted by JW
Los Angeles
Member since Jul 2004
4779 posts
Posted on 8/4/17 at 10:07 am to
I have a HS friend that is currently serving 7 years ... hadn't seen him in a decade, but i reached out to him after seeing it in the paper. Takes a few minutes and makes a big difference to those on the inside. He's not a bad guy just got caught up in a dangerous lifestyle and it caught up with him.

Posted by lsufan112001
sportsmans paradise
Member since Oct 2006
10759 posts
Posted on 8/4/17 at 10:07 am to
People don't change. His problems will become urs.

I went thru the same thing last year after "reconnecting". Ended up pissing in a bottle a few times and loaning money to him.

Of course when my house flooded I never heard a word from him.

It's best to let a dead dog lay. Unfortunately.

Worry and deal with ur own issues.
This post was edited on 8/4/17 at 10:09 am
Posted by kciDAtaE
Member since Apr 2017
15989 posts
Posted on 8/4/17 at 10:11 am to
Just ask his brother for his address and tell him you will send him something. Keep the address somewhere safe and if one day you feel like writing something down, do it and mail it.

It doesn't have to be a weekly correspondence. I have an old HS buddy in prison for drug charges. About once, maybe twice a year I send him a letter. Mainly updating on general BS and talk about the Tigers. I'll get a letter from him a few months later. It's not much effort but means a lot to him.
Posted by OMLandshark
Member since Apr 2009
109748 posts
Posted on 8/4/17 at 10:49 am to
If it's just weed, sure. If it is rape, murder, or theft absolutely not.
Posted by SuperSaint
Sorting Out OT BS Since '2007'
Member since Sep 2007
140462 posts
Posted on 8/4/17 at 10:51 am to
quote:

Is it fricked up if I ignore?
what's your issue with him? Is it only he smoked too much weed and got caught up with it?


Are you his friend or not?
Posted by oleyeller
Vols, Bitch
Member since Oct 2012
32028 posts
Posted on 8/4/17 at 10:56 am to
If you consider yourself a friend still.. give your number. You may be the reason this man gets his life together
Posted by KYINYOI
Lower St. Bernard
Member since Jun 2009
490 posts
Posted on 8/4/17 at 10:58 am to
What happens when Debo gets out and comes looking for you wanting to know why you ignored him?
Posted by tipup
Member since Sep 2005
1649 posts
Posted on 8/4/17 at 11:24 am to
How did his brother contact you?
Posted by LSUintheNW
At your mom’s house
Member since Aug 2009
35762 posts
Posted on 8/4/17 at 11:29 am to
Let him write or nothing. You'll be paying for those collect calls.
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