re: Anyone else not on speaking terms with a parent?

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Haven't talked to my mother in almost 2 years after she got her feelings hurt when I caught her trying to rob me of my father's inheritance.

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Was she successful? I like rich broads...

Depressing thread this is

My mother and I have a pretty fragile relationship. As long as my dad was alive she would only agitate me a limited amount. Since he passed away, we will have weeks or months we barely speak when she is being difficult. When she plays nice, we get along okay until the next meltdown. What makes it complicated is that we are both part of a family owned business. She primarily does the payroll while I run the day to day operations. She is north of 80 so I don't see her changing anytime soon. I just deal with it because I know she won't be here forever and despite her having the ability to be an absolutely toxic person, I will miss her when she is gone. After all, she raised me and took care of me when I was too young to take care of myself.

have a great relationship with both my parents and my in-laws - both handle inheritance the same way and I agree with it - separate property ownership goes to kids with usufruct to wife - community property goes to wife - dad picked mom a long time ago - hopefully for the right reasons - he made a promise (again hopefully) to her dad - just has always been my belief that mom gets everything and what's left after that is for the rest of us so it's my responsibility to assume I get nothing and what I do get is gravy but maybe that's just me - don't let money ruin a family - they are worth much more that that

eta - have watched my parents get stronger with more adversity - love them wholeheartedly and hope to provide the same example to my children

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What's the reason you don't speak to yours?

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Drives six hours to see friends within an hour of our home, complains that i wont put three kids in the car and make that trip myself to see her..

getting very close with my father. He was minimally present during my childhood which I mainly came to terms with...until I became a father. That has dredged up some complicated feelings to say the least so I find my tolerance for his normal bullshite is lower.

Recently he started becoming hell bent on phone calls when he never cared literally my entire life. Now he will call in the middle of a day with my 2 year old son who obviously does not like when I take attention off him to talk on the phone...I work my arse off all week so I'm not going to do that to chit chat with a dude who wasn't interested in talking to me for years so I generally ignore the call and text back...I make efforts to text him pictures of his grandson which usually go ignored or a one word response. I will try to call him back and get sent to voicemail.... then I'll get another call again when I'm spending time with my family and get a snarky voicemail... "guess you don't have time for me" "got tired of waiting for a call back" etc.

shite has me boiling...I think in part because again..complicated feelings and part because I know it's not out of any desire to actually communicate... its just his current thing he's doing when it's a good time for him and he's been an executive long enough he's used to just bullying people.

Anyway...that felt good to rant out...but I'm pretty close to saying talk when I have time, take your retired arse off the golf course and come visit or get fricked

Mom - I am not a phone person, so we text very frequently and typically have lunch once a week. She aggravates me because she needs to be involved in everything and know what everyone in the family is doing to the point of annoyance, but that's just how she is :)

Dad - My dad, brother and I own a company together and for the past 5 years or so he has been 95% out of it. He has a very old school method of management so we butt heads on how the company should be ran. He has a sense of entitlement and treats people as such, even making remarks when he does come in to people that "you don't know who I am ?!?!". Whenever he calls me, it's only to talk business. He has made several remarks to my wife that are very uncalled for, he cannot control his temper and whenever we're all together something is bound to happen that we all roll our eyes. When we sell the business, which hopefully is soon, I do not think I will talk to him very often. I do everything I can to ensure I am not like him.

nope, couldn't imagine not speaking to the ones who raised me