re: 14 year old son has stopped eating

Someone may be giving him a hard time and he’s stressed. Get him in BJJ or karate, it really is a good confidence builder.

I lost like 30lbs sophomore year after getting friendzoned by a girl I put on a pedestal. I would suspect social or mood as cause.

My youngest son was a little chunky and smaller than most of his friends from about 11-13 years old but he was active in sports. I still remember him asking me when he was going to grow and if he needed to be on growth hormones or something like that because he was not like most of his friends. It was funny to me internally at the time but to him i am sure it was disheartening especially when he started taking interest into girls. Fast forward two years and he shot up to 6 foot and lost his baby fat and it was never mentioned again. OP just be supportive and don't beat yourself up about this but i would suggest you get it out of him through counseling or just asking him straight to his face WHAT'S going on? I raised three teens and they all turned out just fine.

My son was fat in 5th/6th/7th grad and lost all of the weight and stopped eating as much by 9th. He later admitted it was because of being teased and said “I’ll never be fat again” he’s a Sophomore in college and still thin. He eats, just not as much. If your child is still healthy then just keep an eye on him.

Reach out to his teachers. Besides in the classroom, most of them observe and keep in the know about social issues and current gossip.

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He still eats, but very little protein and nibbles on shite carbs

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Sounds like a pretty typical 14 year old boy

My son went through eating a ton to eating little cycles at that age and usually was related to upcoming growth spurts. It wasn’t until he got into body building at 15 that he was motivated to care about what and when he ate.

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Sounds like anorexia. You might want to add a psychologist into the mix.

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OP said “doesn’t eat”

I thought anorexics eat, and then self induce a purge?

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thought anorexics eat, and then self induce a purge?

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Bulemics eat then purge. Anorexics don’t eat.

Neither make sense in this thread as losing 10 lbs over several months don’t indicate an eating disorder.

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He may be on a hunger strike for trans rights or some other liberal issue.

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Waiting for neurologist, but is it possible it’s a social issue?

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Yes of course. Seems like the most likely explanation, especially his reluctance to discuss with a parent.

Do you have any other kids you can ask? Maybe take one of the other kids out for something they enjoy. Then lead in to conversation about enjoying life. Then ask about brothers or sisters and what they do to enjoy life. See where the conversation goes.