re: 14 year old son has stopped eating

You’re a good parent.

Like others have said, he’s at the most brutal of ages. 13-14 is tough. That’s where most of your bullying, fighting takes place. Most of the kids my age didn’t really chill out until we were 16-17. Your son is just at that weird awkward stage at 14 right now. It’s right before a lot of growth mentally and physically. I was chubby AF at 14. Started playing football, basketball and soccer and by the time I was 16, I had lost a shite ton of weight. Tons of other kids my age, girls and boys, were also chubby at 13-14 and didn’t play sports and still got out of that chubby phase around 16-17. Also around 16-17, most of my friends and other people in my class just mellowed out and stopped picking fights, ragging each other and shite. At 13-15, they’re all so hormonal and shite is changing so fast that it’s a miracle none of us killed each other.

If he’s truly concerned about it, keep an eye on it, be there for him, but it’s likely just a phase. I would try to encourage sports but if that’s no bueno then just try to get him involved in something outside of his school, in a gym, in some BJJ or a martial art or hell even disc golf or something where he’s active and can get his mind off the shitbags at his school.

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He has always been a big eater, he used to be overweight for his age. Now, at 14, won’t eat shite. Has lost probably 10lbs in a couple months. I have taken him to cardio dr and run CBC blood test, not showing anything. Waiting for neurologist, but is it possible it’s a social issue? He’s not the most popular kid by any means, I’ve just noticed since school started he has eaten less and less. Of course, he won’t tell me shite. Sorry for the long read, but anyone dealt with this?

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prolly social, get his arse lifting weights and watching youtube videos of how to eat to look like he wants to look

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Unfortunately no, he’s not all that athletic, which I think some of the baws here that recommended he do jiujitsu might be a starting point. Or possibly the wrestling team

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I will say that jiu jitsu has been a good thing for my 9 year old. He still has his frustrations, but it opens the door for us to talk about how things are hard, you have to work hard to get over it, and you will constantly deal with adversity and need to find the best way out. It helped even more when I started a few months back. I think it's a great thing that can extend past just school.

It lacks the team socializing aspect particular to his school, but there is socializing with the other people training. I was a big fan of playing sports in high school. But I was competent and never felt like I didn't belong. From a social/self-confidence perspective, wrestling team may be a lot if he's not comfortable.

14 is old enough to start weight training. Protein powders, a little extra red meat, pastas ect..... Could be the answer to any bullying or lack of confidence he has going on and will help him put on some healthy weight.

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I doubt I’ll get much more out of him which makes me basically useless other than just hangin around in case he does want to talk.

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This doesn't make you useless, it makes you a great parent. Teenagers will open up at some point. Often it's during the mundane activities of daily life, and you just have to be ready when they are.

it's probably some social crap he's dealing with.

BUT, this just happened to my godchild so I'm mentioning. losing weight without explanation. his dad ended up noticing oily residue left in the john after kid does #2. that was the only symptom. kid ended up having some pancreatic disease screwing with enzyme production. caused him to lose weight. They're still learning about what it is exactly; appears to be treatable w/ medication