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re: It’s weird seeing your parents get old
Posted on 11/11/23 at 4:56 pm to Hawgnsincebirth55
Posted on 11/11/23 at 4:56 pm to Hawgnsincebirth55
It's also the same getting old..
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Posted on 11/11/23 at 5:00 pm to LSU Neil
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Your father is about my age. You need to have him go to the doctor, he should not be out of breath that bad. Get his heart checked. Seriously.
This. Gramps was skinning bucks and filleting specks until he developed Azheimers around 75
Posted on 11/11/23 at 5:05 pm to Aubie Spr96
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I’ve made up my mind to age as well as possible. Neither of my parents have managed their health well in their later years.
Same here. I encourage anyone - especially those over 35 - to listen to a few Peter Attia interviews. His entire podcast catalog is great, but a few of his interviews regarding healthspan longevity is life altering.
We pretty much have the info we need to know how to live a long, active life without mobility issues, deterioration of movement and strength, or unnecessary disease. I’ve really been dedicating my health and fitness to optimizing for the next 40 years (I’m 39).
Posted on 11/11/23 at 5:08 pm to Hawgnsincebirth55
My "old" moment was with my grandma in 2021. She is in her 80s but since I was little we went to almost every single home LSU football game. In 2019 we went to Atlanta with my cousins and all of sudden she was struggling to walk as fast so I slowed down. We enjoyed the game and same thing going back to the car. Fast forward through covid and in 2021 we went to the Arkansas game and about halfway I had to help her get to the stadium/seats. Obviously after that we realized that was the last game she'll be able to attend. I'm 31 so that's been tough. So after last season I decided to let go of my season tix to watch the games with her since she can't walk that far. That game though definitely made me realize that father time is getting the better of her. Definitely lucky to enjoy all those games while growing up.
Posted on 11/11/23 at 5:13 pm to Hawgnsincebirth55
My father was dying. He had tubes sticking out of his mouth and nose, so he couldn't talk. He was drifting in and out of consciousness. His time was getting short. We all said our goodbyes. I walked up to his bed and I told him I loved him and thanked him for the wisdom he left me. I wasn't sure if he heard me. It was then I saw it, he opened his eyes as his blue eyes welled up with tears. I saw love in my Father's tears. Now I am old myself - soon I hope to join him in that Happy Place.
Tell your Father you love him, and before you drift off to sleep tonight and every night, say a prayer for him.
Tell your Father you love him, and before you drift off to sleep tonight and every night, say a prayer for him.
This post was edited on 11/11/23 at 5:20 pm
Posted on 11/11/23 at 5:18 pm to Zarkinletch416
Haven't talked to my dad in years. It's just not worth it. He's got his ideas and you're gonna live em or he's gonna remind you about your "shortcomings" every time he can. Been that way my whole life and I'm 43.
Posted on 11/11/23 at 5:18 pm to Hawgnsincebirth55
Nope he’s over 60 and will still kick my arse, but yeah I get it with my mom…
Posted on 11/11/23 at 5:26 pm to Hawgnsincebirth55
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and he’s 58
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Seeing him as an old man
Posted on 11/11/23 at 5:28 pm to Hawgnsincebirth55
I see my dad once, maybe twice a year.
At around 70, I thought “he’s starting to get old.”
Then three years later he looked just like my grandpa. It was pretty quick and drastic.
At around 70, I thought “he’s starting to get old.”
Then three years later he looked just like my grandpa. It was pretty quick and drastic.
Posted on 11/11/23 at 5:43 pm to Hawgnsincebirth55
If this is disturbing to you, think of how he sees things.
Posted on 11/11/23 at 5:48 pm to Hawgnsincebirth55
Wait to the get real old and you have to sometimes help them get dressed and shower and crap like that.
Posted on 11/11/23 at 5:51 pm to Hawgnsincebirth55
My dad didn't take care of himself and passed at 63. When he go this first heart stints in his early 50s it was the first time I realized he was mortal. Tough moment for me
Posted on 11/11/23 at 5:56 pm to Hawgnsincebirth55
It's weird and then it's worse. When you see things undone around their property.
I lived in Texas at the end of my parents' lives in Virginia. Twice as I left home, I knew I'd seen each parent for the last time. I bawled almost the whole way to Washington national for the flight back 'home' that didn't feel like home.
I lived in Texas at the end of my parents' lives in Virginia. Twice as I left home, I knew I'd seen each parent for the last time. I bawled almost the whole way to Washington national for the flight back 'home' that didn't feel like home.
Posted on 11/11/23 at 6:05 pm to Aubie Spr96
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I’ve made up my mind to age as well as possible. Neither of my parents have managed their health well in their later years.
Both my parents died in their early 60's from cancer. I'm approaching that age and for the last 2 years been overall eating better, get plenty of walking and other exercise and staying as active as I can.
Posted on 11/11/23 at 6:06 pm to Hawgnsincebirth55
I'm the same age as your dad. My mother is deceased and my father is in his mid-80s with dementia. My dad used to have a cell phone and I would call him to say hello and see how he was doing. Gradually, it got to the point where it was clear that he didn't know who I was but was still cordial. He no longer has a cell phone and I live out-of-state. I saw him this past summer but I'm quite sure that he didn't know who I was. The shell of my father is still physically living, but the person I've always known has died. It's not a fun place to be for me, my siblings, and my dad.
If you get together with any of your family for Thanksgiving and/or Christmas, make it a meaningful visit. Spend time visiting with them, laughing with them, and just chatting about anything. You never know when it'll be the last time you see them. Make it count. Make it special. Take family photos and share them.
If you get together with any of your family for Thanksgiving and/or Christmas, make it a meaningful visit. Spend time visiting with them, laughing with them, and just chatting about anything. You never know when it'll be the last time you see them. Make it count. Make it special. Take family photos and share them.
Posted on 11/11/23 at 6:10 pm to Hawgnsincebirth55
You know what's more weird than that?
I'm in my middle 60s. My friend, who is in his middle 80s had a plumbing emergency the other day. He asked for my help and had a young guy about 30 to be there to do the hard work.
The young guy didn't even know how to use a shovel. I asked him how that was possible, and he told me that he grew up very poor, so nobody ever taught him anything. I noticed though, that he had several thousand dollars worth of tattoos.
Just before lunch time, he started having a psychotic episode and was imagining snakes everywhere.
My old friend called his mom to come get him, and she did, in a new SUV.
I had to do the whole job by myself and it wasn't pleasant.
I'm in my middle 60s. My friend, who is in his middle 80s had a plumbing emergency the other day. He asked for my help and had a young guy about 30 to be there to do the hard work.
The young guy didn't even know how to use a shovel. I asked him how that was possible, and he told me that he grew up very poor, so nobody ever taught him anything. I noticed though, that he had several thousand dollars worth of tattoos.
Just before lunch time, he started having a psychotic episode and was imagining snakes everywhere.
My old friend called his mom to come get him, and she did, in a new SUV.
I had to do the whole job by myself and it wasn't pleasant.
Posted on 11/11/23 at 6:11 pm to Hawgnsincebirth55
My dad is getting angrier as he gets older. Honestly our relationship has strained the last few months because he just couldn’t grasp anything I was saying and started being an arse. That’s been annoying
This post was edited on 11/11/23 at 6:14 pm
Posted on 11/11/23 at 6:13 pm to Hawgnsincebirth55
This is a bittersweet thread and some stories on here made me thank GOD for the relationship I now have with my Dad, who is 73.
My Dad went to prison when I was young and I lost many years with him. I recently had the privilege to spend a couple weeks with him and was blessed to be able to humble myself and see him with grace and mercy.
I was able to actually listen to him and see him for the hurts and pain he experienced as a boy with his own father and though we’re both on the back end of life on this earth, I saw him as an emotionally wounded son of an emotionally wounded WW2 combat veteran and ultimately, as a son of GOD.
My Dad has never said a cross word to me in the last 10 years he’s been back in my life and I thank GOD for this time to be of assistance to my Dad in loving him and showing him the forgiveness, mercy and grace of CHRIST.
We as sons need to look at our aging fathers as men and not idols, as men who need the grace and humility we also desire from others and to ask GOD for His grace and mercy daily.
My Dad went to prison when I was young and I lost many years with him. I recently had the privilege to spend a couple weeks with him and was blessed to be able to humble myself and see him with grace and mercy.
I was able to actually listen to him and see him for the hurts and pain he experienced as a boy with his own father and though we’re both on the back end of life on this earth, I saw him as an emotionally wounded son of an emotionally wounded WW2 combat veteran and ultimately, as a son of GOD.
My Dad has never said a cross word to me in the last 10 years he’s been back in my life and I thank GOD for this time to be of assistance to my Dad in loving him and showing him the forgiveness, mercy and grace of CHRIST.
We as sons need to look at our aging fathers as men and not idols, as men who need the grace and humility we also desire from others and to ask GOD for His grace and mercy daily.
Posted on 11/11/23 at 6:14 pm to Hawgnsincebirth55
Getting that winded at 58 isn't old age. There is probably something wrong and he should get checked out ASAP.
Posted on 11/11/23 at 6:14 pm to Hawgnsincebirth55
Even stranger is that in three months I will have outlived my dad. 45 years and 9 months.
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