re: Why do women post about having still borns on social media

These types of posts are more understandable than the majority of others.

I don't get the posts of couples telling each other happy anniversary and shite. Like just tell your spouse that you're probably sitting right next to.

Same reason people post on Tigerdroppings. People need a connection to other people, especially in hard times. Sometimes people need to vent. Sometimes they need attention. Sometimes they just need to say stuff and don’t need someone to respond. With social media, our brains get a little dopamine boost every time we get a like or a response. We are social creatures. We need social type things.

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they’re dead and they never really truly lived.

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holy frick shut up

Plenty of babies are alive and moving in utero, the moms (and dads from the outside) can feel it - then something can happen and they’re born dead or die during the child birth

But to say they never truly lived is ignorant

frick you

How a person grieves their loss of a still born child is non of my business.

I deleted FB long ago and have never looked back.

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Hawgnsincebirth55

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That's your opinion, but yeah if you said that to my face I'd probably try to knock a few teeth down your throat. But still, you have the right to your opinion.

I guess my thing is, you say you aren't one of those people who are ok with abortion at anytime, but if that's true, then you must believe that the child is alive and exists in utero. Our twins certainly were alive and existed. We could feel them move, could see them (and their personalities) on ultrasounds. If they had been delivered a few days earlier, they probably would have survived. So until the moment their hearts stopped, they were alive.

Granny doesn't sign grandpa's name to cards because everyone has memories of grandpa. We don't sign the twins names, but we do always have note that says "remembering S & J as they celebrate another heavenly Christmas." Because that is how we remember them, hope that others remember them, and try to make some form of family bond with them. Otherwise, our memories of them are pictures of a belly bump, ultrasound images, the horrible memory of being told they can't find heartbeats with the doppler or ultrasound, waiting for my wife to deliver them, a scan number of hours in a hospital room with lifeless boys in a chilled glass bassinet to actually be able to hold/talk to/parent our boys before the funeral home came to get them, and a funeral.

Yes, it is a harsh reality, and you may not agree, but again everyone grieves and copes differently. Also, I pray that neither you, nor your family or close friends, ever has to experience the harsh reality.

Perhaps it’s a way of letting all friends and family know at once so she doesn’t have to deal with persistent phone calls, texts or people who don’t know bringing up the painful topic. It was stillborn which means she was noticeably pregnant and people in her life knew.

Perhaps it’s a way for her to grieve and “talk” through her grief without the burden of having to console others while she’s just trying to get by every minute, herself.

What kind of sociopath questions how a woman going through such a loss decides to share her news and grief, especially in a way that doesn’t require her to actually talk about it with everyone who j ew she was pregnant?

To get their hit of dopamine. That's what those likes will do. People crave attention, it's like a drug. When you're going through something, your close friends and family will be there. Your "friends" on FB will click that like button just to make you think they give a shite.

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You are a fricking moron. Do you honestly believe that's something a woman would want attention for? I bet you are a prize.

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well you are the attention-seeking expert

Stop it.

Having a stillborn or miscarriage is a big fckking deal.

I didn’t say the guy shouldn’t grieve I said signing their name every Christmas seems weird and probably isn’t helping him move on you retards need to read better.