re: why millennial/gen Y dads are the best

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Why are you talking in the past tense in respect of Gen X parenting?

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This is what I was thinking. I'm gen X and my two children are 5 and almost 2.

I have to admit my dad was a great man but he did work hard nearly 6 days a week and had to rest in the afternoons and Sundays.

He worked for his family when families only had one income coming in those days. Now both parents work so men do more at home to help the wife.

There is a reason for this. Now both parents work, so its whoever finds time to get kids to their events.

Used to back in the day the woman didnt work. She stayed home all day, so when the dad got home from work he could sit back and relax on the couch while the mom took the kids to events and parent teacher meetings

Say's the 21 year old with little to no life experience.

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for the most part, gen X and baby boomer dads took no real part in their kids life. if they did it was only activities the dads were interested in

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Although my dad was a good provider, this pretty much describes him to a tee. I don't remember my dad teaching me anything about life stuff in general whether it be sex, money, relationships, work related issues, etc. Everything that I've learned along the way, I learned by messing up and getting burned by it. This is a very hard way to learn about life. To this day, my dad isn't one who I feel comfortable calling and talk to about anything. I really don't have that strong of a relationship with any of my parents. Neither one of them actually go out of their way to spend time with my kids. If I don't physically bring my kids over to see them, they don't put forth any effort with trying to build a relationship with them. Although I would love for it to be different, it takes both parties to put forth effort for it to change. I can't force them do it.

I'm the complete opposite with my kids. I try my best to make every last one of their events. I sit and talk to them almost every night so that as they grow older they will be comfortable talking to me about anything. I just make sure that I'm present in every aspect of their life, not just as a provider like my father was to me.

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Why are you talking in the past tense in respect of Gen X parenting?



This is what I was thinking. I'm gen X and my two children are 5 and almost 2.

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gen X begins in 1961 unless i'm mistaken

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if they did it was only activities the dads were interested in....fishing, hunting, sports, etc. much different nowadays.

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And if there was some drastic economic downturn, or terrorist act, todays shitty fathers haven't prepared their kids to survive

Throwing your ballet slippers at the bad guys isn't very effective, fyi

My dad did all of that stuff for me. I didn't realize until a few years ago that what he did wasn't the norm

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And if there was some...terrorist act,

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dafuq?

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hacking of the power grid, bombing of a power plant, disruption of the food supply chain

You know all the things that TERRORISTS sit around and actually think about doing

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yeah man, im gonna pull my 6 year old out from all her activities so we can run simulations in the bomb shelter.