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re: What's been the toughest emotional struggle of your life?
Posted on 6/20/19 at 12:29 am to Pandy Fackler
Posted on 6/20/19 at 12:29 am to Pandy Fackler
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You need to emotionally toughen up. My guess is you were fricked with from time to time because you're a little soft around the edges. It was/is obvious to your black compadres you've never struggled with Jack shite.
You must not have grown up around working class whites. From my ken, poor country folk, black or white, have a different cut of their jib than urban folk. You grow up country poor and you’re gardening and raising animals and out foraging. You get a different kind of hard. Working man hard.
I didnt grow up in the city and understand it’s a different sort of struggle for the urban poor, but denigrating and painting a whole damn race as “soft” shows a dire lack of understanding.
It’s not a condition of white or black. It’s class and geography. People that grow up working class, city or country, learn what it is to have the odds against you. The value of the hustle. The motivation of a hungry belly and hand me downs.
Boys grow up soft when they don’t have the edge put to them. A sword will always be dull if it never knows the crucible of the forge and the grindstone.
But it isn’t specific to any one race. At all
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Posted on 6/20/19 at 12:30 am to Pandy Fackler
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I don't believe that happened to you "on a daily basis"
it's immaterial to me what you choose to believe
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Like I said you sound white, meaning you sound soft and drama laden
i'm not sure what one has to do with the other, but your thought process is revealing
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Your "greatest struggle in life" is having a loving, caring family and people not of your own race treating you with respect and dignity.
i don't think you can rank struggles as callously as you're doing. a death may not affect one person as much as something else does another. when you struggle with your personal identity, there's not much that shocks the psyche more than that.
losing a parent or child to an early death i would imagine be tougher, but i'm not trying to one up anybody so i'm not sure why you're making this a competition.
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It's a wonder alot of these folks haven't told you to go frick yourself.
now your true colors come out. but i'm not going down that road with you, buddy. sorry.
Posted on 6/20/19 at 12:35 am to Pandy Fackler
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Nowadays? Like this.
So the young man has some questions. At least he’s asking them. Shows he’s dealing with an internal struggle.
And maybe my experiences have colored me. I remember when I was teaching, Broadmoor high, African American history. Most of the class didn’t give a shite, but there was one bright young lady, always tried hard.
One day after assigning some group work, I found her by herself crying. I asked her what was wrong and she told me “I try to do my best, try to learn, and the other kids tease me and say i’m ‘acting white’”.
It’s sad. And indicative of a failure as a community to instill the will to strive. All by design of course. Dependence unto doom.
This post was edited on 6/20/19 at 12:45 am
Posted on 6/20/19 at 12:40 am to Paige
I wanted to tell you how much I appreciate your posts on these topics. My mother has borderline. My daughter has borderline.
My toughest emotional struggle has been trying to raise my daughter. At nearly 22 years old, it’s still a struggle but it’s getting better with therapy and medication.
My toughest emotional struggle has been trying to raise my daughter. At nearly 22 years old, it’s still a struggle but it’s getting better with therapy and medication.
Posted on 6/20/19 at 12:45 am to fr33manator
he's gonna believe what he's gonna believe. like i said, dude wouldn't last two days with me out on a backpack hunt or a week's worth of cutting and bailing in july
i raised and slaughtered chickens and picked peas and worked on a hog farm all summer growing up, i'm sure mr. tough guy was playing video games.
i raised and slaughtered chickens and picked peas and worked on a hog farm all summer growing up, i'm sure mr. tough guy was playing video games.
Posted on 6/20/19 at 12:47 am to cusoonkpd
I couldn’t imagine...
Posted on 6/20/19 at 12:50 am to Masterag
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Posted on 6/20/19 at 12:55 am to Masterag
I’ve led an...interesting life. My journey has taken me all sorts of places and found me in the company of all sorts of folks.
It’s easy to have a prejudiced, and I mean real prejudiced, point of view of others if you’ve never been in their shoes. But it’s a little harder to hate once you’ve broken bread with people, really gotten to know them.
More than once i’ve Been the only honky or gringo in a crew. And there’s the awkwardness at first, but then you come to realize that you are all working men. Trying to provide, struggling but pushing onward in spite of it. If you let yourself find commonalities you’ll realize we aren’t so different.
Now I still can’t stand the ghetto thug culture that glorifies indolence and ignorance. I hate baggy pants and obnoxious bass at the gas station. It troubles me to see able bodied men not willing to work and able to thrive in spite of it.
But I realize that it’s by design. They are puppets caught up in a system that makes the tit more comfortable than the struggle.
It’s easy to have a prejudiced, and I mean real prejudiced, point of view of others if you’ve never been in their shoes. But it’s a little harder to hate once you’ve broken bread with people, really gotten to know them.
More than once i’ve Been the only honky or gringo in a crew. And there’s the awkwardness at first, but then you come to realize that you are all working men. Trying to provide, struggling but pushing onward in spite of it. If you let yourself find commonalities you’ll realize we aren’t so different.
Now I still can’t stand the ghetto thug culture that glorifies indolence and ignorance. I hate baggy pants and obnoxious bass at the gas station. It troubles me to see able bodied men not willing to work and able to thrive in spite of it.
But I realize that it’s by design. They are puppets caught up in a system that makes the tit more comfortable than the struggle.
Posted on 6/20/19 at 12:56 am to Paige
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Life was hell in the period just before I was diagnosed as borderline and started dbt
Holy shite, borderline females are GF/wives from hell. To be fair so are dudes.
Got any pics?
Posted on 6/20/19 at 1:25 am to fr33manator
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But I realize that it’s by design. They are puppets caught up in a system that makes the tit more comfortable than the struggle.
yeah, it disgusts me to see what the "black community" has become. i don't think there is much of one anymore, just a bunch of people who rob and kill and steal from and don't trust each other and the rest who want to get the hell out. it's a shame black people refuse to see how identity politics and redistribution degrades us from the bottom to the top.
nobody's problems ever got solved by giving them money because you don't learn the lesson that comes with the struggle. i find it interesting that homeboy didn't share anything about himself, being so hard and all.
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I’ve led an...interesting life. My journey has taken me all sorts of places and found me in the company of all sorts of folks.
yeah, you're an interesting dude for sure. i appreciate your candor.
Posted on 6/20/19 at 1:58 am to Masterag
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it's a shame black people refuse to see how identity politics and redistribution degrades us from the bottom to the top.
Plenty of “black people” see past the charade to the damage being done. It’s just that when you subsidize the breeding of the irresponsible they outnumber you before long and scream the loudest.
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nobody's problems ever got solved by giving them money because you don't learn the lesson that comes with the struggle. i find it interesting that homeboy didn't share anything about himself, being so hard and all.
If you didn’t earn what you have you’ll never respect anything.
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yeah, you're an interesting dude for sure. i appreciate your candor.
Man, i’m Just a peckerwood that’s seen too much to hold a narrow view.
Posted on 6/20/19 at 1:59 am to Masterag
Fiancée dying sucked pretty bad. Had been with her almost 8 years. That was 4 years ago now so I’m waaaay past the mourning stage, but I still haven’t bothered to date anyone else. Once I realized they all either cheat on me or die I was like “screw this, I’ll just have frick buddys from now on”. It’s worked out pretty well so far.
Posted on 6/20/19 at 2:11 am to kingbob
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Definitely the long slow burn of my excruciatingly slowly deteriorating marriage, finishing law school, lengthy divorce process, my dog’s long battle with cancer, living with my parents as an adult, extra long wait to take the bar, job search, and the continued daily battle with the urge to kill myself out of a combination of self-loathing, hopelessness, fear, impatience, and sheer boredom.
sounds like life
Posted on 6/20/19 at 2:14 am to Masterag
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What's been the toughest emotional struggle of your life?
I haven't had it yet, my life has been pretty easy. I'm not looking forward to it. I'll check back in when it happens.
Posted on 6/20/19 at 2:33 am to Klingler7
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Greatest emotional struggle for me was dealing with sexual abuse when I was a kid. I carried guilt with me even though it was not my choice. I think my dad being an alcoholic didn’t help me when I was growing up.
damn that's a shame, man.
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I still graduated college and have a nice career but I have had a lot of difficulty connecting with women for some reason. It breaks my soul being alone.
good for you. get out and walk in the park and speak to people, it'll make you feel better
Posted on 6/20/19 at 2:35 am to 4LSU2
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’m currently going through my toughest emotional struggle
Me too
Watching my wife's heartbreak has been the worst part of all of this. I've never seen somebody sit and sob all day. It's like ripping my heart out of my chest. I love my wife more than anything in this world.
I worry about her and what she's going to do when I'm gone. She'll be ok financially. I have decent life insurance. After that I don't want to leave this world. There's nothing I can do about it though. All I can do is do the best I can to make sure my loved one's will be ok and try to face it with as much dignity and humanity as I can.
Posted on 6/20/19 at 2:41 am to bencoleman
Hang in there Ben...
Posted on 6/20/19 at 2:45 am to Masterag
As far as the roughest time in my life...
In a 6 month span I had a child, a month after he was born my wife left me for someone else, I lost a lucrative career, then my younger brother died a week after that.
There were dark times within that span that I had a barrel in my mouth. I was completely and utterly broken.
But if you just keep sailing, you’ll find your way out the storm. As long as you stay afloat, new horizons will find you. Life is rough, but there’s happiness to find even if you don’t believe it at the moment.
I went interesting places, met interesting people and found love again, against all odds.
And there’s adventures yet. Keep sailing. I’m a testament to not giving up hope and sinking into the despair.
This bit of wisdom helped me get through some rough seas
In a 6 month span I had a child, a month after he was born my wife left me for someone else, I lost a lucrative career, then my younger brother died a week after that.
There were dark times within that span that I had a barrel in my mouth. I was completely and utterly broken.
But if you just keep sailing, you’ll find your way out the storm. As long as you stay afloat, new horizons will find you. Life is rough, but there’s happiness to find even if you don’t believe it at the moment.
I went interesting places, met interesting people and found love again, against all odds.
And there’s adventures yet. Keep sailing. I’m a testament to not giving up hope and sinking into the despair.
This bit of wisdom helped me get through some rough seas
Posted on 6/20/19 at 3:03 am to bencoleman
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I love my wife more than anything in this world.
I'm so sorry for where you are Ben,
I'm going to share something that I've never shared with anyone other than my wife.
I really think the first time I witnessed real love was when my grandfather passed. This was in the early 2000's, I was in my very early 30's.
I work out of town like you did and I had left my phone in the living room and woke up and went looking for my phone. My wife had called 10 times and I knew something was wrong.
I called and she told me that my grandfather had been taken to the hospital by ambulance and they didn't think he was going to make it(heart attack).
I threw on some clothes and hauled arse home(130 miles away). My grandfather didn't survive but I will always remember my grandmother going into the room after they cleaned him up and just laying across him calling out his name.
I think that etched love into my brain that early morning.
I hope you can beat this but remember you and Crissie have left a lasting impression on thousands of people.
Love is an amazing thing. It tends to bring out the best in most of us.
Posted on 6/20/19 at 4:50 am to Lsupimp
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Bi-Racial kids usually subconsciously “ choose” a race.They Identity more one way or the other. My girls Identity more asian than white because of strong Asian family influence. My son maybe a bit more Identifying white like his Pops. Which isn’t a problem for any race except for blacks, because blacks uniquely have bought into phony race consciousness . All that is garbage. You just keep being you, man.
Asians are smarter than whites, good choice by your daughter.
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