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re: What would you do with a son who doesn't want to play basketball anymore?
Posted on 11/8/23 at 10:17 pm to Cajun Tiger 4
Posted on 11/8/23 at 10:17 pm to Cajun Tiger 4
He’s what, a sophomore or junior and he’s complaining he’s not in the starting 5?
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Posted on 11/8/23 at 10:28 pm to Ash Williams
Finish this season, as he made a commitment to the team and there is still much to happen. Then he can decide whether or not he will play next year. Be a sounding board, encouraging him to give 100% to everything he does. Encourage good grades, working out if he likes it and having a part time job. I think it helps kids to have a schedule to follow and work to do, rather than just going to school and having too much "free" time, if they aren't active in athletics.
Posted on 11/8/23 at 10:29 pm to Cajun Tiger 4
My suggestion is to make sure he finishes out the season then just don't mention it for a while, decent chance by the time next season rolls around he's ready to play again. If he's super young compared to those that are playing ahead of him maybe make sure he understands that his time will come to be on the court more
I absolutely would not force him to play, that won't end well
I absolutely would not force him to play, that won't end well
Posted on 11/8/23 at 11:32 pm to LaLadyinTx
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I would have never let either of my children quit during the season. It’s possible he made the team and took a spot from someone else. Also, if he gets some playing time he most definitely should not quit till the season ends. He may improve or he may still want to quit, but that’s a commitment and there is a lot of value in sticking with something when you are not the best and still giving you 100% effort. I’d allow him to quit at season end, but he would need to replace it with an extracurricular in addition to a part time job. In my family, we required some activity, whether it was a club, a sport, volunteering, etc.
All of this, and I would make it his responsibility to tell the coach he is not coming back. He needs to own the decision either way and learn how to have those hard conversations.
Posted on 11/8/23 at 11:40 pm to Cajun Tiger 4
Forcing him to play is a mistake you don't want to make. You'll be blamed for all that doesn't go his way-don't do this.
Posted on 11/9/23 at 12:02 am to Tyga Woods
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Letting him quit when things aren’t going his way isn’t a good idea
He is going to finish the season and not play next season. That isn't quitting, that is not starting.
Posted on 11/9/23 at 12:11 am to KennabraTiger
There it is.
Posted on 11/9/23 at 4:26 am to Cajun Tiger 4
If he has ability and is underachieving which lead him to want to quit then he is not having fun playing ball. Find out why it isnt fun for him
Posted on 11/9/23 at 4:46 am to Cajun Tiger 4
Work harder. It will work out
Posted on 11/9/23 at 5:15 am to Cajun Tiger 4
I got burned out on baseball by the time I was 15, it just stopped being fun. What is the point of playing a sport when you're a kid if you're not enjoying it? Scouts were not following me around, I had plenty of other physical activity in the spring, I wanted to try running track.
If the idle time turns into sitting on the couch playing video games, then you have an issue. But if he's used to being active there are a lot of choices, lacrosse, tennis, golf.
If the idle time turns into sitting on the couch playing video games, then you have an issue. But if he's used to being active there are a lot of choices, lacrosse, tennis, golf.
Posted on 11/9/23 at 5:37 am to Cajun Tiger 4
I have a younger cousin in middle school who quit volleyball. Mom is okay with it.
Idk she's a quitter and that's not good either. You commit to something and see it through
Idk she's a quitter and that's not good either. You commit to something and see it through
Posted on 11/9/23 at 6:32 am to Cajun Tiger 4
Then allow him to complete the season and be done with it. There is nothing wrong with that decision. I always told my kids that when they are done, be done and move onto the next thing that interests them. Certainly, honor the commitment to the team, but after the season is over you can stop playing, doesn’t make you a quitter.
Posted on 11/9/23 at 6:35 am to Cajun Tiger 4
If he likes working out tell him to do the power lifting team at school. Working out and being a team still.
Posted on 11/9/23 at 6:36 am to Cajun Tiger 4
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think athletics are good for him. I am torn. I might just make him play. What the heck does a teenage boy know about what is best for him. I am worried idle time will lead to bad things.
Make him do another activity. Jujutsu, baseball, football, cross country, track... The activities are endless.
Posted on 11/9/23 at 6:40 am to TCO
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You’re saying a teenager should be beat with a belt if they lose interest in a sport? Amazing parenting there.
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TCO
Member since Jul 2022
1.3333333333333 years isn't long enough?
Posted on 11/9/23 at 6:41 am to el Gaucho
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Back in my day we had this thing called a belt. But I guess parents these days don’t know about that since I see so many sagging pants around
Really...a belt? That's your advice to the poster. So you would beat the kid into submission and force him to play basketball?
Back in my day, and still today..we have this thing called STUPIDITY! and you appear to be suffering from it.
Posted on 11/9/23 at 7:43 am to Cajun Tiger 4
It is early in the season. Does he play at all? If so, he is just an injury or a coaches whim away from getting more playing time. Teams need subs and backups also - he is important to the team. What year is he? He may get more playing time in the future if the other players graduate and he becomes a more senior player.
That said, a parent forcing him to play is not the way to go. He needs teammates egging him on to keep playing. Having a job is a good alternative to sports though. Working out for working out’s sake is not.
That said, a parent forcing him to play is not the way to go. He needs teammates egging him on to keep playing. Having a job is a good alternative to sports though. Working out for working out’s sake is not.
Posted on 11/12/23 at 7:50 am to Havoc
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I totally get that; however, it’s not like he signed a contract or will “let the team down” (from what it sounds like), so who's the injured party here, you?
We’ll considering I’m not the dad I’m not the injured party.
But the ones let down really are the coaches and players. Just because he’s not playing in games does not mean he’s not contributing. He still is important to the team for practice and drills. They need bodies for that. He did make a commitment to the other players and coaches that he will be there helping along the way.
You need to sign a contract to hold to your commitment? Remind me never to do business with you.
Secondly, what if a player gets hurt down the stretch and they could have used him. Well now he’s not there and the team is in even bigger of a problem because he quit on them. You don’t think depth is important?
You obviously have never really understood sports or played sports at a high level have you? Let me help you out. Every players/person matters. Especially when shite hits the fan.
This post was edited on 11/12/23 at 7:50 am
Posted on 11/12/23 at 7:55 am to el Gaucho
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el Gaucho
Posted on 11/12/23 at 8:11 am to Cajun Tiger 4
He needs to play out the season. You finish what you start because you don't know what will happen in a month.....or next week. You have teammates that will rely on you.
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