re: What was the lowest/darkest/toughest time in ur life & how did u pull yourself out of it?

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37 years is one long-arse phase ;)

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Statistics show that things don’t tend to get better even after transitioning. Good luck though

I have 2 times I can think of.


My parents divorced when I was a young teenager and I could legally choose which wanted to live with. I got so stuck squarely in the middle of the divorce and had to endure my parents shite talking each other. My mom put a restraining order on my dad and he was arrested once for just coming to football practice. After a few years of this, I became severely depressed and considered suicide. Nothing really inspirational here, I just ultimately decided that wasn't the answer and waited it out. Moved out as soon as I finished technical college.

2nd lowest point was a series of events in late 2010/early 2011 related to my weight at the time. I was nearly 400 pounds. At Thanksgiving, my aunt pulled me aside to tearfully express how she would love for me to lose weight because she was worried that if I kept eating like I was I was going to die young. At Christmas a family friend pointed and laughed at me while I was laughing and said "he looks like a little pekingese!" And laughed at me because I was so fat that when I laughed my cheeks covered my eyes. Then, in April, one day I was feeling particularly bad about myself and walked up a flight of stairs. When I got to the top I was so exhausted I had to stop and catch my breath. That's was my catalyst and spurred me lose weight.

When you get older, you'll realize that everyone you meet is fighting a battle.

Sometimes that someone is you.

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When you get older, you'll realize that everyone you meet is fighting a battle.

Sometimes that someone is you.

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Yep

My lows were a divorce (self inflicted) and then subsequent battle with alcoholism. Lost everything, twice. Alienated everyone, drifted a bit and all the general stereotypes of a alcoholic showed up.

The last day was the worst. Lost job, LSU lost to Arkansas, My dog was taken to doggie jail, a relative crashed my car and destroyed it. I quit drinking that night.

There's no one to save you. No one will drag you out of it. It's up to you to make decisions and follow through with them. We are the kings of the kingdom we create.

All and all it was a blessing and I wouldn't change a thing.

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God is the answer

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I went through a bad patch in 99-04 dealing with death and terminal illness of dad and mom. Simultaneously, starting a business in 97 and raising our daughter were challenges enough...

Again in 2016,17 some difficult health and personal challenges...

Even being in the faith is no guarantee that you won't face difficult trials, in fact the Bible guarantees you will face significant challenges.

When these storms come you can have confidence that you will get to the other side.

Don't stop helping others,even when you are facing difficulties, as many have it worse off than you. This also reminds you that life is not just about you.

I am third.

Well said, Roger.

Getting older puts a lot of hard bark on a man.

Ours has been well documented on here already. We are already 5 months without our angel. We are both doing better but we still have no answers to what happened and we will never know"why?".

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There's no one to save you. No one will drag you out of it. It's up to you to make decisions and follow through with them. We are the kings of the kingdom we create.

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This

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while waiting for the wave of good days to finally hit me in my life.

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I had to purposefully change my thought patterns and way of thinking. The transformation has been incredible. Anxiety, depression etc..are virtually non existent. I still have some major life challenges (some not revealed here, some I have) but life's good every single day.

I had to let go of a lot of things I held close and embrace a new way of thinking.

Once I realized that no one, no thing, no circumstance could make me happy or depressed, I got on with reshaping my life.

For me I think what makes my darkest days worse is that is was all my own fault. I created them.

Even though I’ve been through a lot of crap lately...,none of it was of my own creation. Just stuff happening to me (and my family). No one to blame, just life happening.

When you frick up your life it leaves you with years and years of self loathing, regret, guilt, and shame. I could forgive everyone else that had ever wronged me in life. But I couldn’t forgive myself for years. Thankfully my faith led me to being able to finally forgive myself. After all....if God can forgive me....I am certainly not above God and can forgive myself for my mistakes.