re: What was the lowest/darkest/toughest time in ur life & how did u pull yourself out of it?

I’ve been pretty lucky in life. I just tell myself that if it can’t kill me, it’s something that will pass in time and I can handle it.

I was on a 3 day dry spell once and had to settle for banging an OT8 to get my confidence back up

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So you identify as a woman, and are attracted to men and women, so you say you’re bi.

What does that make your wife?

Oh and pics of your wife??

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That’s honestly and very good question. To say it’s complex is an understatement.

To make a long story short, I was going to move out of the house last May. She didn’t want to be with me anymore after almost 20 years. We had bought nearly everything for me to live on my own again. But the January prior to that, she sat me down and asked me if I would stay.

What has happened has very much changed what our definition of love is. I can’t put love in a box and slap a label on it, what I find attractive in people is much deeper than ever before. She and I take things week by week. We know there are some very tough discussions we’ll have in the future regarding intimacy.

She and I love each other deeply. We are the best of friends and talk about our future and retirement often. I hope we’re one of the rare couples that make it through this.

No pics, She’s attractive though ;)

Coulda been death of my father a month before my birth.

Coulda been we were poor all the time.

Coulda been my crack addiction.

Coulda been the death(s) of my immediate family and having no close "blood" left.

Will be the cancer that kills me though so while it has not been the lowest or the darkest, above covers those, it is the toughest as the one I won't beat at almost 52.

Point? Keep going as long as you wake up. Live until you don't. Whatever you face today may or may not be worse tomorrow. Better enjoy today even if it's shite.

Remember there was a lady who disappeared and her body found finally in the dump south in the orchard mesa around the dump.

Was a 48 hours show on it.

She was leading a double life without anyone knowing long before these date sites were so popular. They found the guilty guy eventually I believe.

Staff at work told me all about it. I watched the episode and it was crazy as hell. I told my family I believe the are a is cursed by the Indians like the Unitah Area of Utah Northwest of there.

It was tongue and cheek of course but man there were some crazy things about that area.

Many , many years ago, i married a woman who had 3 kids by different living and employed dads who refused to pay one penny of childsupport. So from toddlers to teens i paid for their every need and want as with my own child for over a decade.

Their mom was a chronic cheater but i loved the kids amd fully financially suported them and made sure they had what they needed/ wanted. i always took her back because i love the kidstook her back because of the kids. Their mon never worked so contributed no $$ for their care.

Once again, she cheated and this time her kids blantantly lied to me for her and denied it.

So i immediately cut off all utilities, terminated the lease and they were evicted in our home. She used the kids to call me to beg for the me to turn the light back on and let them keep the house. Request denied. She also stole my late mothers posessions.

Many many months pass and by accident ( or divine intervention) i met the wife of the man my ex was cheating with. We became friends.

We fell in love ,and have a great life together. Without our parasitic financial vacuums that are the exes, we have so much more money and are living a good life in our dream home on the water while the exes live in a 40 year old trailer

Nb4 the comment of trashy. We are thankful our exes did what they did because my wife and i would have never met without them. hilariously they are furious that we are so happy and they are so broke and unable to use us as their personal atms

The stepkids still hit us up for money and we remind them that they all have living fathers and a living mom. One kid totally ignored me and blamed me for his mom cheating but yet still expected me to buy him a $5000 truck.Request denied!!

So from the garbage they heaped upon us, we turned it into a great life and are thankful they cheated because it led us to a the the great life we have now.

Sometimes what seems to be the worst of times changes your life and only later you realize that it put you on a path to greater happiness

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Had a stroke than my wife of 18 years leaves me two months later. Put all my energy into rehab my ex. Started fricking fitness models

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Story reminds me of a fictional story I had to read in English II in college.

Woman is at the deathbed of her dying husband of 30 plus years..

Family drops by and friends giving condolences before he passes. Story begins transitioning to the wife's point of view. She is sad, but a sparkle of freedom peaks in. She cries but the final line has her smiling as she looks out the window and sees the sun rising for dawn.

While class was up in arms. Young folks like myself was offended. We didn't know life yet.

Seems it almost happened to you. Frick the models.

That's pretty amazing.

Mine isnt that bad at all compared to some. All of my problems have been self-inflicted for the most part. Bad childhood experiences set me up for it, but I made all the choices myself.

Ended up basically homeless at 26 due to addiction. Even with a valuable degree. Spent the next year slowly getting sober in treatment. Then got out, got my own place, and eventually found who was to be my wife.

Except then I decided to use again and started the downward spiral all over again. I hadn't really been ready to give it up the first time around. Spent the next four years in and out and putting incredible strain on my marriage, as we had gotten married in the midst of all of this.

Finally got sober/clean for good in 2014, but a lot of damage had been done and the marriage probably wasnt even salvageable at this point.

Spent the next 2 years continuing to do immature things until the wife finally had enough in 2016 and divorced my arse. Deservedly so. All of a sudden I was scrambling yet again, trying to figure out which was was up and how the hell I was going to manage life on my own now.

Spent the next years again resurrecting my career and it finally paid off. Still sober from 2014 and career has never been better. Got to date a beautiful, understanding woman along the way a year or so ago.

Then life moved us in opposite directions and that ended. Moved out of state back to Alabama and worked a year, then landed a much better job earlier this year.

Still struggle a lot with loneliness. Recently have attempted to start dating a girl from work, but it may or may not happen. Would guess not happen at this point, though whatever God there is seems to do strange things at times.

See, I thought this current possibility was kind of an answer from God. Matched up with a lot of my thoughts and prayers on who would be a good mate. But it hasn't worked at all yet. But I will survive in the end and need to keep my side of the street clean in the process. I guess the moral of the last part of the story is we're all still going through things that help us grow. My sponsor says it's a great opportunity for spiritual growth. I tell him to kiss my arse. (Only jokingly)

All of the darkest things have led to brighter days so far. And it's always worse before it gets better. It's hard to see it when you're in the midst of it. Feels like a bottomless pit of hopelessness and despair. Many people have survived some truly horrific things and not of their own making like mine. How you guys have done it is beyond me. Hats off to you.