What was the lowest/darkest/toughest time in ur life & how did u pull yourself out of it?

Let's see, love of my life decided to cheat so I took a ton of pain meds and and I psych meds. I woke up the next day as of nothing happened. Decided after that frick here and started living my life for myself

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Motivate me

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That's loser talk. The best advice I can give you is to become your own coach. There is 1 person who is largely responsible for you having a good or bad day - you, the guy in the mirror.

So, have your pep talk with that guy every morning - it should go like this:

"Superstar? You are the motherfricking man. Go out there and grab a great day."

Sounds corny, but it is win-win-win. Folks who observe you having a great time will largely fall into 3 camps -

1. Friends/folks who like you and want you to have a good day, too.

2. Folks largely indifferent to you, and

3. Folks who are your antagonists, whether in life, business or otherwise adverse to you in some way.

Merely going out and acting like you're having a great time will bolster the 1s (and, in turn, this may bolster you, creating a positive feedback loop). Most of the 2s will think better of you, because positivity is, generally, contagious. And it will eat the 3s up, as living well is the best revenge.

It took me a long time to sort out this secret. It really is the key to unlocking a lot of great times.

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What was the lowest/darkest/toughest time in ur life & how did u pull yourself out of it

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Every time I accidentally click on a DavidTheGnome thread I sink lower

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I am currently in that weird quarter life crisis part of my life where I am reevaluating my life choices

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25ish?

If there's a decision or a choice you have to make that you think might better yourself in the future, make it.

Even if it doesn't immediately work out, you know you've grown the balls to take on anything.

How old are you?

I'm 25. I just try to make the best choices I can with what information and knowledge I have at the time. Even if it does turn out wrong I try not to have regrets because I did my best.

I just celebrated two years of sobriety yesterday.

After my second deployment in 2009, I developed a heavy drinking problem, consuming 14-18 beers per night, every single night, 365, for 8 years straight. Short stretches of not drinking we’re involuntary due to Uncle Sam. I didn’t want to live anymore, or rather just numb everything. I wasn’t going to die by my own hand, so I chose alcohol to do it for me.

I came out of the closet in March, 2017. I wasn’t planning to that evening. It happened while having drinks on the patio with my wife. I sat there in silence for a minute, when my body started Into choking sobs and tears. I couldn’t control my thoughts and words, ugly crying in a way I had never done. I came out to my wife as trans after dealing with it for nearly 35 years.

I quit smoking two packs a day, cold turkey on July 5th.
I quit drinking cold turkey on July 31st.
I retired from the Army, September 2018.

I’m still here. Sober, happy, at peace. Transitioning is the hardest thing that I’ve ever gone through. I am still married. My sons still love me, my family still loves me. My friends are still around and supportive. I am blessed and incredibly fortunate.

I know some of y’all don’t understand or agree with what I am. I’m trying to live my life just like everyone else.

God
Then you, take care of YOU
Family is next and they will always be there
Friends, keep your circle tight
Don’t trust anyone

I was 25 in 2014 when I moved here