re: Wedding guests paying for honeymoon

Then what the frick is actually about? Are you surprised people want gifts for their wedding? Did you not get anything for yours (or have everything in the world already) and are now pissing and moaning like a child that others don't feel the same way?

You were going to spend money anyway. Well maybe not you because you are a terrible person.

I've given cash for the last few weddings in the northeast. I think it's more of a southern thing to give an actual gift.

Now it wasn't to directly find a honeymoon it was more to pay for my dinner and drinks.

I'm sorry that you cannot fathom that a gift is simply you generously giving something that costs money to someone else. These people decided they wanted that gift to be money towards a honeymoon instead of a pot from Bed Bath and Beyond. Either way it's money coming out of your pocket in whatever dollar amount YOU choose.

Seriously, if it's that big of deal I'd just stay home. That many millennials in one place may cause you to be more irritable than you currently are.

My fiancé and I have lived together for 3 years. We already have everything we need. We have a dog together for fricks sake. The last thing I need is a damn gravy boat.

Is this thread still on track? If so, god damn Joe, you are an out of touch douchecanoe. If not, god damn Joe, you are an out of touch douchecanoe.

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You are very correct with your guess.
I have earned everything that I have, own, etc.

Guessing your a millennial that expects me to give you a another handout because you received a participation trophy for everything you did. Sorry Junior, welcome to real life

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No. Your generation inherited unlimited possibility and, through greed and hubris, has essentially destroyed what once made this country great. Moreover, your own generation raised the very generations after you that you so frequently insult. You and your fellow shitboomers have no one to blame for the problems you perceive in this world but your own selfish, stupid selves.

Your generation is everything that is wrong with this country. Taken from Urbandictionary, because I couldn't have said it better myself:

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Shitboomer (noun)

Refers to the generation of leeches born during the demographic Post-World War II baby boom between the years 1946 and 1964. A generation of draft dodgers who advocated peace, love and happiness and then grew up to wage deadly, never-ending wars in the middle east and abroad. A generation that has shackled their children with a burden of debt that resulted from their own greed and sense of entitlement.

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I'm somewhere in the middle on all this.

First off, I completely understand the shite in society where so many individuals get married later after already starting their accumulation of household items. In that sense of the word I absolutely agree that most traditional gifts are simply about getting a nicer or fancier version of what you already have which doesn't seem right.

So from that standpoint, giving cash or something for a trip makes more sense. Like some mentioned, most have already paid for the trip and these are add-ons like scuba diving outings or couples massages. They're going regardless, but if you want to upgrade their trip instead of giving them a butter knife, go for it!

The problem, however, becomes where does it stop? Everyone is so specific these days and so focused on what exactly THEY want. Gifts should be about what people think you want based off yal's relationship. I understand registries help reduce reducencies, but they also make gift-giving feel oddly impersonal IMO. Everyone in my family tells each other exactly what we want every Xmas except for my brother. He's the only one who gives people gifts every year based off what he thinks they'll like. Sometimes he misses, sure, and I always like what I get from everyone else because I chose it, but sometimes he also nails it and it's awesome.

I think a lot of this is the result of people being so focused on exactly what they want these days and also the explosion in size of weddings and amount of showers / parties leading up to them. People nowadays invite a thousand people to their weddings and have 3 showers and it's to the point where there's so many people and so many parties people don't know what to give you so you have to tell them. Something about it just really doesn't feel right. Fortunately I've never been to the fringe weddings so far, only really close friends. Because of that I never use the registry. I always get them something I feel they'd like based off our relationship. The registry always felt horribly impersonal.

Just my opinion. I completely understand that the amount of money is the same whether it's a gift or a trip, but I do think it's all part of a larger problem that doesn't feel right.

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Your generation inherited unlimited possibility and, through greed and hubris, has essentially destroyed what once made this country great. Moreover, your own generation raised the very generations after you that you so frequently insult. You and your fellow shitboomers have no one to blame for the problems you perceive in this world but your own selfish, stupid selves. Your generation is everything that is wrong with this country.

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Wow...you really are lost