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re: UPDATE: Last minute parent advice?
Posted on 2/4/18 at 11:55 am to TheDeathValley
Posted on 2/4/18 at 11:55 am to TheDeathValley
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This is our first, a baby girl, any last minute advice for a new Dad?
Your life will change and if having a daughter doesn't change your perspective on the attitude a lot of guys have about women on this board, I'll be surprised.
Enjoy it while it lasts, my baby girl has 1 year of high school left and it flew by. Make sure you tell her you love her as often as you can. Good luck, it is both easier and harder than you can ever imagine. I can't explain how that is possible but it is.
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Posted on 2/4/18 at 11:55 am to lsunurse
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2) I don't know if the hospital you will have the baby allows this anymore (as I know many have moved to baby always being in the room with mom). However...if they have an option to send the baby to the nursery at night...take advantage of it so mom (and you) can get some sleep. You won't have that nursery option at home.
Womans doesn't allow this anymore. They told us it's baby in the room the whole time because too many people would send their babies to the nursery and then have no clue what they were doing when it was time to leave the hospital. I guess I see the positive and negative from both.
Posted on 2/4/18 at 11:55 am to Cocotheape
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Rock and play sleeper is the GOAT (Like all baby things though, I'm waiting to find out the rock and play is bad for the baby somehow)
He is absolutely right. Baby girl is asleep in her’s right now.
To the OP. Don’t be afraid to hold her too much. For the first few months she will be too young to self soothe. If she wants to be held, hold her and comfort her.
Posted on 2/4/18 at 12:00 pm to TheDeathValley
Just had my first 6 weeks ago. No advice will fully prepare for the birth of your child. Elation and fear......and then elation.....and then fear again. I cried like a baby watching my wife and baby boy sleep our first night in the hospital. Didn’t sleep at all in the hospital, FYI. And for the first time in my life and our marriage, we have a routine.....that we HAVE to follow now because of how much we value whatever little sleep we can get in. But it has without a doubt been the best thing to ever happen to me. It’s only been 6 weeks, but time flies by and he’s already grown so much.
Enjoy every moment!!!!
Enjoy every moment!!!!
Posted on 2/4/18 at 12:01 pm to HoustonChick86
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They told us it's baby in the room the whole time because too many people would send their babies to the nursery and then have no clue what they were doing when it was time to leave the hospital
Sounds like a really nice way for them to say that getting rid of the nursery is an easy way to save the hospital a lot of money. In the end...it is sadly ALWAYS about what will save the hospital the most money long term. They are still a business trying to make money...don't ever forget that.
When I worked at the old Womans that newborn nursery would easily have 30-50 babies in it every night. You had to pay extra staff just for the nursery. And it doesn't make them any extra money.
ETA: Our hospital does the same. Now when you have a mom that was in a lot of pain so took her pain meds that night and really sleepy so sent baby to the nursery for the night...you are forcing her to have baby in the room with her(and there usually isn't family staying with her) and risking her falling asleep with baby in her arms. But hey...that is one less nurse or two they have to hire to staff the nursery that night so totally worth the risk to them.
This post was edited on 2/4/18 at 12:07 pm
Posted on 2/4/18 at 12:05 pm to TheDeathValley
Ask for an extra stitch
Posted on 2/4/18 at 12:06 pm to HickoryofOld
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Take all advice with a grain of salt. Every kid is different, so what worked for some, won’t work for others. It’s a great, rewarding ride that can bring you and your wife even closer. Just know that if they don’t sleep, they eventually will. If they don’t eat, they eventually will. If they’re sick, they won’t be forever. I wish you the best.
This is great advice. Well said.
Posted on 2/4/18 at 12:09 pm to TheDeathValley
she's going to be a hormonal wreck, be there for her oh and rub her feet, if i would have done that maybe i wouldn't have had to start a thread saying i dislike her 40 percent of the time.
gl tho, its life changing
gl tho, its life changing
Posted on 2/4/18 at 12:15 pm to TheDeathValley
Wife is about to go full retard. Buying expensive childrens bedroom furniture is a waste of money. I only buy cheap diapers. Baby powder won't give them cancer. Your wife is about to go full retard. Your savings account is about to go away. And finally, your wife is about to go full retard.
Posted on 2/4/18 at 12:24 pm to TheDeathValley
Posted on 2/4/18 at 12:24 pm to AUCE05
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Baby powder won't give them cancer
You shouldn’t use baby powder on a baby anymore because they can breathe in the powder into their tiny lungs and it cause respiratory distress.
Posted on 2/4/18 at 12:27 pm to TheDeathValley
Make the moment about you, your wife, and your new baby.
We didn't allow visitors until the day after our girl was born. It made things so much less stressful not having to entertain family/friends while having to keep a tiny human alive for the first time.
Be very patient with your wife. Her emotions will be all kinds of messed up for awhile.
Take all advice with a grain of salt. Every nurse/doctor/lactation consultant will come in and tell you something slightly different than about the "right" way to do everything (swaddle, breast feed, etc).
Lastly, and this is purely personal preference, but the hospital where we had our daughter let's you keep the baby with you at all times from birth to discharge. While a little break may have been nice, it was wonderful being able to hold and comfort her ourselves without passing her off to strangers right after she was born.
We didn't allow visitors until the day after our girl was born. It made things so much less stressful not having to entertain family/friends while having to keep a tiny human alive for the first time.
Be very patient with your wife. Her emotions will be all kinds of messed up for awhile.
Take all advice with a grain of salt. Every nurse/doctor/lactation consultant will come in and tell you something slightly different than about the "right" way to do everything (swaddle, breast feed, etc).
Lastly, and this is purely personal preference, but the hospital where we had our daughter let's you keep the baby with you at all times from birth to discharge. While a little break may have been nice, it was wonderful being able to hold and comfort her ourselves without passing her off to strangers right after she was born.
Posted on 2/4/18 at 12:43 pm to TheDeathValley
Lots of good advice ITT, so I'll tell you what a friend told me right before our first:
You won't understand this, because it's not something that can adequately be described, but the rush of emotions you will feel when you hold your first child for the first time will be unlike anything you will ever experience. And that feeling will help to sustain you through all the pain, heartache and anguish you will inevitably go through when raising that child, as well as enhance the joy in the good times. When it happens, you'll know what I'm talking about.
Good luck, and dont dismiss the oft-repeated cliche about how quickly they grow up. I remember every detail about that first childbirth as though it happened a few hours ago. This weekend, we'll be celebrating her 21st birthday.
You won't understand this, because it's not something that can adequately be described, but the rush of emotions you will feel when you hold your first child for the first time will be unlike anything you will ever experience. And that feeling will help to sustain you through all the pain, heartache and anguish you will inevitably go through when raising that child, as well as enhance the joy in the good times. When it happens, you'll know what I'm talking about.
Good luck, and dont dismiss the oft-repeated cliche about how quickly they grow up. I remember every detail about that first childbirth as though it happened a few hours ago. This weekend, we'll be celebrating her 21st birthday.
Posted on 2/4/18 at 12:45 pm to TheDeathValley
As someone else said, take advice with a grain of salt. If you google something, the first 5 results will all be different. They need food, sleep, clean diapers, and your love; the rest is just details.
Bring a big cup of ice chips (or get someone to bring it) to the hospital, the kind at Sonic or Whataburger. Trust me, your wife will think you are a hero.
PJ's/onsies with snaps are the devil. Snapping up PJ's at 3am on a screaming baby with s*** up to your elbows, only to realize you missed a snap and have to start over is a very frustrating moment.
A very strict routine and the 5 S's worked really well for us, dude sleeps like a champ.
Walk out the room if it is getting to you. I can remember a stretch where he didn't sleep well for 3 nights in a row and I thought to myself "I now understand how people can shake a baby", it is extremely frustrating to not be able to calm them. Putting them down to cry for 15 minutes, while you get some fresh air, does not make you a bad parent and the child will be fine.
Good luck, it is a great experience.
Bring a big cup of ice chips (or get someone to bring it) to the hospital, the kind at Sonic or Whataburger. Trust me, your wife will think you are a hero.
PJ's/onsies with snaps are the devil. Snapping up PJ's at 3am on a screaming baby with s*** up to your elbows, only to realize you missed a snap and have to start over is a very frustrating moment.
A very strict routine and the 5 S's worked really well for us, dude sleeps like a champ.
Walk out the room if it is getting to you. I can remember a stretch where he didn't sleep well for 3 nights in a row and I thought to myself "I now understand how people can shake a baby", it is extremely frustrating to not be able to calm them. Putting them down to cry for 15 minutes, while you get some fresh air, does not make you a bad parent and the child will be fine.
Good luck, it is a great experience.
Posted on 2/4/18 at 1:05 pm to TheDeathValley
Have a two year old girl and a one month old girl. It’s the best thing ever. Lots of good advice in here. I’ll leave this advice form tenfoe:
It’s real simple with girls. Be there for them, and love them. They guaranteed will not end up on the pole if you’re there and protect them. If you waver, there’s a 50/50 chance they’ll be on the pole. You have one shot. Don’t frick it up.
It’s real simple with girls. Be there for them, and love them. They guaranteed will not end up on the pole if you’re there and protect them. If you waver, there’s a 50/50 chance they’ll be on the pole. You have one shot. Don’t frick it up.
Posted on 2/4/18 at 1:42 pm to TheDeathValley
Just learn patience.
Count to 5 before making any kind of response that might upset them. You'll catch a few before they come out that way
Count to 5 before making any kind of response that might upset them. You'll catch a few before they come out that way
Posted on 2/4/18 at 2:07 pm to TheDeathValley
Before you leave your house to go have your baby you and your spouse need to just sit for one minute with the house in complete silence. Enjoy it, because it will be the last time.
Seriously, kids are the best thing ever. The older they got the more you love them. You'll be amazed at how much you could actually love someone.
Good luck.
Seriously, kids are the best thing ever. The older they got the more you love them. You'll be amazed at how much you could actually love someone.
Good luck.
Posted on 2/4/18 at 2:09 pm to TheDeathValley
It’s never too early to start cleaning that gun.
Posted on 2/4/18 at 2:12 pm to TheDeathValley
When you hold a newborn, have its head pointing to your left so its ear is over your heart. The baby has been listening to your wife's heart for several months.
Posted on 2/4/18 at 2:12 pm to TheDeathValley
Once it's 4-5 buy a PS4, best babysitter ever.
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