UPDATE: Difficult news regarding unborn child

Wife and I were ecstatic to learn we were expecting our first child earlier this year. When the Dr’s office said insurance only covered 3 sonograms, that it wasn’t a big deal, and that they recommended waiting until 20w to do the first one, we didn’t know any better. Looking back I wish I would’ve paid out of pocket for an earlier one to get a precise age/conception date, because now it’s causing all sorts of problems.

We chose to pay for the genetic testing at 10w vs an early sonogram. It was supposed to give much more info and the baby’s sex much sooner. We learned we were having a boy and that he had a clean bill of health! Then at 20w they told us he was looking small for his expected age and that we’d need a follow up visit with a specialist.

Today the specialist confirmed he was smaller than he should be (if our date of conception is correct, but hell all we are going off of is some conception app), but that the base of his neck is wide and his intestines show up too bright. Now they are telling us there is a high chance he not only could have Down’s (though he tested negative at 10w), but also cystic fibrosis and/or multiple sclerosis. They tell us he could be developmentally delayed, blind, deaf, or still born. That he could die an early incredibly painful death. All sorts of horrific shite.

I don’t know how to handle the news. Don’t know if I’m in denial, but can’t help but to think they are putting us on somehow. I don’t even know why I’m posting this here beyond hoping some of you have been in a similar scenario only to find the Drs were FOS.