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re: Today’s the day I’ve been dreading for months
Posted on 8/24/23 at 1:49 pm to deathvalleyfreak43
Posted on 8/24/23 at 1:49 pm to deathvalleyfreak43
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How do you process this and move on, I have no appetite I got the shakes. I’m just at a loss for words boys. I love her.
Sorry to hear this and know what you are going through. No matter what anyone says, only time will make it better.
Women think they want the next best thing until they get it. Eventually the newness will wear off, his faults will become more apparent, and she’ll lust for the next new thing.
This post was edited on 8/24/23 at 2:01 pm
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Posted on 8/24/23 at 1:50 pm to deathvalleyfreak43
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2 sons down the drain
Not a fricking chance.
Chin up for them
Posted on 8/24/23 at 1:50 pm to Fun Bunch
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Why were you "dreading it for months"? Something is up with that...
Because deep down you know something isn't right. Your heart is telling you, but it's too hard to listen. The writing is on the wall, but you can't bear to read it.
Posted on 8/24/23 at 1:51 pm to Mid Iowa Tiger
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First thing first. Whatever city your are in make a list of the top 10 - 15 divorce attorneys and go in for an hour to talk about your case.
That will tie the best ones up and make them conflicted for her to use.
Something tells me this isn't Shiv and Tom on Succession getting divorced.
I don't think that's necessary for a normal, run of the mill divorce.
Posted on 8/24/23 at 1:51 pm to deathvalleyfreak43
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10 years and 2 sons down the drain
Those sons aren't down any drains, bruh. Live your best life for them and make them your focus.
Losing your lady sucks, but if she was cheating on you then I'd bet my next paycheck you're gonna be much better off in the long run. I bet you'll be surprised with how quickly you get over her.
But the key is to not lose focus on your boys and be the absolute best dad you can be for them. The rest of that shite will fall into place. Good luck, man.
Posted on 8/24/23 at 1:53 pm to deathvalleyfreak43
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they had sex on the first night and have been soul bonded she says.
He’s gonna drop her nutty arse like a bad habit just as soon as that new pussy charm wears off. Dude banged some married chick from work and now she thinks they’re soulmates. He prob already knows it’s a red flag.
For the love of god, don’t take her back.
Posted on 8/24/23 at 1:53 pm to deathvalleyfreak43
You can still try to win her back, go to the gym and provide compliments to her
I think if you really listen to her she will come back to you bro.
I think if you really listen to her she will come back to you bro.
Posted on 8/24/23 at 1:54 pm to SloaneRanger
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Don't tell your sons that their mom is a whore. As others have said, take the high road as hard as that might be. Be truthful with your sons. They can and will draw the correct conclusion.
I get not using those exact words, but they will need to figure out a way to let the kids know it is not their fault. And simply saying it is not their fault without giving them specifics could fall on deaf ears.
Posted on 8/24/23 at 1:54 pm to MyRockstarComplex
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He’s gonna drop her nutty arse like a bad habit just as soon as that new pussy charm wears off. Dude banged some married chick from work and now she thinks they’re soulmates. He prob already knows it’s a red flag.
100% THIS.
Dude was like hell yeah, getting some married puss.
He thought he was having fun and was going to do it for a few months and no consequences.
Now she's left her husband and thinks they are in love. That will not last with this dude.
Posted on 8/24/23 at 1:56 pm to tigertrueAU
This! Lawyer and document!
Also, do not agree to anything or offer anything! It's not casual now. Any time she asks about anything, it goes through the lawyer. Don't move out until you really and truly have spoken with a lawyer, it impacts the house and custody.
Just say "you've got no words and need time to process", you need a lawyer. It's expensive but worth it.
Also, do not agree to anything or offer anything! It's not casual now. Any time she asks about anything, it goes through the lawyer. Don't move out until you really and truly have spoken with a lawyer, it impacts the house and custody.
Just say "you've got no words and need time to process", you need a lawyer. It's expensive but worth it.
Posted on 8/24/23 at 1:56 pm to deathvalleyfreak43
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I’m just at a loss for words boys. I love her.
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I’m just at a loss for words boys. I love her.
Your anger and sense of self preservation should overshadow your hurt.
Where do your sons stand on this?
I'm sorry this is happening, FWIW.
Posted on 8/24/23 at 1:57 pm to deathvalleyfreak43
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2 sons down the drain
First and foremost - - change you thought process as to this. You are their father and not being her husband changes nothing about that. In fact, it is an opportunity to recreate your relationship with them and to bond closer.
Posted on 8/24/23 at 1:58 pm to LSUnation78
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2 sons down the drain
Not a fricking chance. Chin up for them
Yup. They need you now more than ever. You've gotta be strong for them, even when you are weak. Find people to lean on.
This is a storm, and you'll take some damage. But you won't sink.
The storms always pass. Always. There's new adventures out there. Find them. For you and your sons. You are not alone in this.
Posted on 8/24/23 at 2:00 pm to deathvalleyfreak43
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How do you process this and move on, I have no appetite I got the shakes. I’m just at a loss for words boys. I love her.
Been there. You get through the physical part.
Get yourself the most a-hole attorney you can find who will find every single way to frick her over. As I said, been there. The initial discussions always included "we need to be civil for the kids". Don't believe that any more than when you asked her what was wrong and she said "Nothing". It's all bullshite from her mouth from here on. She's probably thinking she's done you a favor by telling you about it rather than hiding it and making you find out on your own. I know you say you love her still but one day that switch will turn and you'll be glad you treated her the same way she acted.
Posted on 8/24/23 at 2:04 pm to deathvalleyfreak43
Sorry. This is the norm now. People seem to need constant attention in a relationship now.
Posted on 8/24/23 at 2:06 pm to ZenFNmaster
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Hire an attorney, treat her like she is an enemy behind your gates. Do everything your attorney says, and do it today.
If the attorney says don't have sex with her ever again, especially during the separation process, DON'T SLEEP WITH HER AGAIN.
Posted on 8/24/23 at 2:06 pm to deathvalleyfreak43
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How do you process this and move on, I have no appetite I got the shakes. I’m just at a loss for words boys. I love her.
you need to stop this shite right now. frick that bitch. If she's going betray her family she isn't worth a second thought.
you also didn't lose 2 sons down the drain either.
Posted on 8/24/23 at 2:07 pm to Trauma14
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If the attorney says don't have sex with her ever again, especially during the separation process, DON'T SLEEP WITH HER AGAIN.
yep...its a trap...her attorney is actually telling the opposite
Posted on 8/24/23 at 2:09 pm to TigerTerd
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Paging Fr33manator. Dude's a wizard
I don't know about a wizard, but I got the house, the nicer vehicle, 50/50 custody, no alimony and no child support.
And she split the cost of 700 with me.
So...no lie, I paid 350 for it.
Now, that requires a decent woman to do. So I won't speak ill of her in the least. Coparenting, can't ask for a better one. We are flexible and work with each other. Do what's best for the kids.
Not getting raked over the coals (which she could have done) makes it a lot easier in the long run.
It was a hard hard thing to do to forgive, but life is a lot better because of it. Resentment is poison and hurts the ones you love the most. Let it go. It will only drag you down. I know many will disagree, but it was freeing to be able to accept it, let it go and move on with life.
I spent too many years bitter and angry and hateful.
Posted on 8/24/23 at 2:10 pm to deathvalleyfreak43
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