re: Those of you who married money, tell me how this works...

I have no idea, I married for love.

That is what I have seen as well.

Sole exception I know of was a guy two houses down from me who married a girl who was the only child of a big LA oil company owner from the 80’s. Her father sold out to Exxon or BP and the family had legit frick you money. This girl was head over heels for this middle class dude and he married her but told her up front he wasn’t having anything to do with her families money. They both worked, lived the middle class life and had two kids. Husband finally relented and let Grandpa set up trusts for his kids but, as far as I know, he never took a penny of the old mans money.

I pay my way but don’t think I could have stuck to my principles like that guy.

I wish I could contribute to the conversation

You gotta knock up the wife and have her whine about how the house is too small now that you have a kid etc. Then her parents buy yall a huge house, but have a lawyer draw up paperwork making sure you'll never get the house if you get divorced

Buddy of mine from school married into some old New Orleans money... Old like her great great grandmother founded McGehee. He did ok, but not like she was used to. Her parents bought her a huge house, a 4 Runner for the baby, private pre School tuition etc etc... I'm sure there was a prenup, but he was bitching about how they make him sign something before every big purchase.

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If she doesnt demand a pre nup she's not rich.

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I’ll bite....this isn’t how it works as everything is in entities outside of my wife’s name...cause old money.

Father in law is cheap and wife is not a money grabber. But we both work on our own and make a comfortable living.

Most of the benefits come from things like use of private jet for a funeral. Multiple vacation homes, a lot of nice dinners paid for by the family.

Biggest thing we got was a sizeable down payment for our first house when there was a tax loophole back like 8-10 years ago.

Most benefits you get are not every day things. Given we don’t live close to the FiL. It’s more extracurriculars.

My wifes parents are rich and it has been pretty great. We are literally the only two that work, except for her parents, so I am her parents favorite. We pay are own bills so we never ask for money (her dad jokes that I got her off his payroll). In turn, we get random gifts. They bought us a new house when we got married and recently bought her a car. Also, they take us on random vacations throughout the year. Since being married to her I haven’t paid for clothes, toiletries, etc. The only problem is my wife has no concept of money.

I have a buddy who’s parent are well off. He and his wife have “family” credit cards that the parents pay. For big ticket items, his wife just bought a Land Rover Discovery, he has to ask his parents.

Its really not too much but piece of mind and some great vacations and meals. My wife comes from a great deal of money, but she has never been overly interested in it. She is happy in our middle class life and proud of the things we have worked for. Her Dad would probably give us anything we were ever to ask for, but we have no desire to and would never. I think her dad respects this and we have a great relationship. He built his empire from the ground up with zero handouts and we have zero entitlement to his fortune.

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Its really not too much but piece of mind and some great vacations and meals. My wife comes from a great deal of money, but she has never been overly interested in it. She is happy in our middle class life and proud of the things we have worked for. Her Dad would probably give us anything we were ever to ask for, but we have no desire to and would never. I think her dad respects this and we have a great relationship. He built his empire from the ground up with zero handouts and we have zero entitlement to his fortune.

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This. I'm in a similar situation. My wife has no concept of money cause daddy always gave to her most of her life. Now that she is living middle class, she appreciates what we have and are working for. I know that one day we will reap the benefits (inheritance), but for now, I'm happy working for what I want.