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re: This is the hardest thing I have ever been through.
Posted on 8/12/22 at 5:04 pm to Hoova1202004
Posted on 8/12/22 at 5:04 pm to Hoova1202004
Man, I can not even begin to imagine how you feel or what you are dealing with. The closest person I ever lost was my dad and that was 23 years ago.
From my experience all I can say is that time allows you to build a life without them. I am not going to say time heals because I don't think anyone truly heals when losing a loved one. I think its more accurate to say we adapt.
You will probably have a lot more moments like today and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that at all. If anything, its a good thing. I've always been the type to hold in my emotions so I think its good for your kids to see you that way. They understand you truly loved their mother. And hopefully they are able to turn to you to properly mourn. That's something I didn't have and part of the reason I kept things bottled up.
There isn't anything that anyone can say that will help you feel better about the hurt you feel from losing a loved one, but as time goes on you will establish a different life. And there will be things that will allow you to feel happiness again. I wish you the best.
From my experience all I can say is that time allows you to build a life without them. I am not going to say time heals because I don't think anyone truly heals when losing a loved one. I think its more accurate to say we adapt.
You will probably have a lot more moments like today and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that at all. If anything, its a good thing. I've always been the type to hold in my emotions so I think its good for your kids to see you that way. They understand you truly loved their mother. And hopefully they are able to turn to you to properly mourn. That's something I didn't have and part of the reason I kept things bottled up.
There isn't anything that anyone can say that will help you feel better about the hurt you feel from losing a loved one, but as time goes on you will establish a different life. And there will be things that will allow you to feel happiness again. I wish you the best.
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Posted on 8/12/22 at 5:07 pm to Hoova1202004
If this helps, keep it up man. My mom has weeks to live now but she is 86, that is hard enough, can't imagine losing my wife and especially as young as I expect you are.
If anyone is an arse, just ignore them.
Thoughts and prayers your way, don't be afraid to se a therapist.
Let your son know how much you appreciate his concern, that you love him and he doesn't have to be a grown up now. He sounds like a great kid.
As for the room being dark, think of it as her being able to rest rather than her being in the dark.
If anyone is an arse, just ignore them.
Thoughts and prayers your way, don't be afraid to se a therapist.
Let your son know how much you appreciate his concern, that you love him and he doesn't have to be a grown up now. He sounds like a great kid.
As for the room being dark, think of it as her being able to rest rather than her being in the dark.
Posted on 8/12/22 at 5:07 pm to Hoova1202004
This site is a very tough place, and even here, you have strong support and prayers.
You are not alone, my friend…
You are not alone, my friend…
Posted on 8/12/22 at 5:09 pm to Hoova1202004
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I lost it earlier today while taking down our bed and my son said Dad everything is going to be ok.
Nah man, today you found out how much a damned fine job you've done.
I can't imagine your loss, but I sincerely wish you nothing but good things from now on.
Posted on 8/12/22 at 5:11 pm to Hoova1202004
Today's my 18th anniversary. I couldn't imagine. Prayers
Posted on 8/12/22 at 5:12 pm to Hoova1202004
I could momentarily feel your pain just reading that. Man, I hope and pray that you are given strength that is beyond what you think you possess.
Posted on 8/12/22 at 5:14 pm to Hoova1202004
my most sincere apologies for your loss
Posted on 8/12/22 at 5:14 pm to Hoova1202004
I’m so sorry for you loss, I mean that. God bless you and your children, together you’ll get through this.
Posted on 8/12/22 at 5:17 pm to Hoova1202004
So sorry for your loss, I can't imagine how hard it must be. Praying hard for peace for you - it will come in time for sure.
Posted on 8/12/22 at 5:19 pm to LSU alum wannabe
So sorry for your loss. I pray for God's peace and understanding over your life.
Posted on 8/12/22 at 5:19 pm to Hoova1202004
Sorry for your loss brother. One day at a time with the support of family and you will get on the other side of it. It happened for a deeper reason.
Posted on 8/12/22 at 5:20 pm to Hoova1202004
Damn. Wasn’t ready for this on a Friday afternoon.
Post like this always remind me to tell the people in my life that I love them and hug them a little tighter while I still can.
Post like this always remind me to tell the people in my life that I love them and hug them a little tighter while I still can.
Posted on 8/12/22 at 5:22 pm to nitwit
quote:this place is great when you need it to be
This site is a very tough place, and even here, you have strong support and prayers.
Posted on 8/12/22 at 5:22 pm to Hoova1202004
I’m going thru the same with my dad. Passed June 10. I haven’t been able to go thru everything. I’ve gone over there multiple times and have tried, but break down & can’t get it done. I’m not a pansey cuck either, & not much of a crier, but this has been difficult, more so than I thought it would be. I can’t imagine dealing with the passing of a spouse, whew. Bless you bud.
I too find this helpful to discuss it, I’m just not a problem sharer, but maybe should be. My dad & I fished a lot, & found some pics of us with our catch. Stared at it for several mins & fell asleep with it, very comforting. Just try to find things to comfort you, & the the OT is always here. Good luck, prayer for you & yours, & God Bless.
I too find this helpful to discuss it, I’m just not a problem sharer, but maybe should be. My dad & I fished a lot, & found some pics of us with our catch. Stared at it for several mins & fell asleep with it, very comforting. Just try to find things to comfort you, & the the OT is always here. Good luck, prayer for you & yours, & God Bless.
Posted on 8/12/22 at 5:24 pm to Hoova1202004
Damn man, that was very tough to read and hits close to home. Praying for you and your family's healing in this difficult time. May God bless you and your family.
Posted on 8/12/22 at 5:25 pm to Hoova1202004
Loss like yours is the single most difficult chapter of life. She will be with you in many small ways and details as you mentioned, but just be assured that as time goes on you will find a place to keep those memories that will allow you to go on sharing your future time with your family and loved ones. Expect that it will be difficult and the grief you experience is part of what makes you a human being in the journey we call life.
Posted on 8/12/22 at 5:27 pm to Hoova1202004
Godspeed brother… 
Posted on 8/12/22 at 5:27 pm to This GUN for HIRE
Praying for the strength of you and your family during these extremely tough times.
Posted on 8/12/22 at 5:29 pm to Hoova1202004
Best thing you've decided on is to leave and start fresh elsewhere, both for you and the kid. Stay strong through this, the pain will ease and memories will be with you forever.
Posted on 8/12/22 at 5:30 pm to Hoova1202004
It's hard right now for sure. The memories are fresh and they rip your heart right out. But, the same memories that rip you to shreds today, in time, will be the memories that bring you happiness and strength. Time will turn it around for you. Just keep going and don't listen to anyone who says it's time to move on with your life - do that on your own timeline. Prayers brother.
This post was edited on 8/12/22 at 5:31 pm
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