re: Sort of related to Valentine’s Day: Marriage question

Exactly. Make sure the agree to disagree items are not deal breakers.

And effective communication and zero passive/aggressive attacks solve most issues that arise.

Marriage is a completely new phase of life you've never experienced (not including those whose marriages have ended for whatever reason and they try again). Hard to hold reasonable expectations for something like that.

It's definitely important that you find a partner you are compatible enough with on a personality level. Too many differences can be tough at times, but if you hold similar morals and principles, those differences are what keep the marriage alive in my opinion.

One of the most important things I think people need to consider when getting married is that you will have to look in the mirror and REALLY admit to yourself the selfish qualities the single life has created in yourself. I don't say that negatively. It's only natural to be self centered and do the things you want to do whenever you want to do them as a bachelor/bachelorette. If you are ready to bring someone else into your life then you need to be ready to set aside your selfishness and be open to the idea that you're just not living for you anymore.

I think a lot of negative outlooks and complaints about married life are from those who have not been truly honest with themselves. Meaning, what are THEY doing to improve the negatives they complain about. I find myself getting very irritated at certain things but deep down I know I am being selfish by just being irritated and not communicating the root of the irritation. Nobody is a mind reader so don't treat your partner as if they are one. It's easier to be petty and blame the negatives on something, or someone, else instead of taking action and start the process on your own.

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I think being in a happy marriage involves self reflection and respectful communication. Treat your partner how you want to be treated. Talk to your partner how you want to be talked to. And above all else, love them how you want to be loved. Don't do things with the purpose of being rewarded. If you are looking to be rewarded for being a husband or wife, then you may not be ready for that life long partnership.

My wife is the sweetest, most beautiful and kind person I know. I’m the lucky one.

Idk

It sucks often times
Good other times

Fact is you can’t control how another person acts or feels.


I find women for the most part annoying. They think differently than we as men do.


If it weren’t for pussy would we collectively as men tolerate them to the degree which most of us do?


I doubt it.
I love my kids though and they provide that.

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Would you still recommend marriage?

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Do you have a girlfriend?

Marriage counselor told me "It's not 50/50 to make 100%. You can give 100% all day long, but if she isn't giving it 100%, it's over."

Married almost 30 years. Absolutely no regrets. Every day isn’t perfect because we’re imperfect people. The key is to keep working at it. It’s important to remember to not only grow as a couple, but also continue to grow as an individual. After all, it’s what you brought to the relationship as an individual, that makes you work as a couple.

I have never regretted my marriage for one solitary moment. My husband said recently that he would change things in his life, but never his marriage to me. We have always liked as well as loved each other. Been married 30 years, known each other almost 40.

I think we are fortunate, because I have a good many divorced friends and others who are in marriages they do not enjoy at all.

Choose wisely and for the right reasons, and marriage can be the best thing in your life. Don’t think you are going to change a person, and assume anything that bothers you at all before marriage will be magnified tenfold later, so be sure you can live with that.

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A drinking buddy of mine calls divorce a "stock split".

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If he knew stocks at all he’d be embarrassed about calling it that

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For those who are married, are you happily married? Or do you regret it? Would you still recommend marriage? I’ve seen so many terrible marriages that it has given me a very bleak outlook on the future of marriage in general.

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depends...has it always been your life long desire to have kids and a family.....if yes, then yea i recommend it, just be smart on how you choose. choose the one that treats you well and almost worships you and respects the effort you put in as a father and husband.

if you are just going to choose the hottest piece of arse you can find or the best lay.....good luck with that

also always best ask them their expectations. you dont want to go in and marry a girl that wants a man the is in great shape, works 8-5 and makes 6 figures if none of them apply to you. you want someone that is going to stick by you and support you in all things in life, not a gold digging whore.

i also have seen, if they have their own career, like really a career not just a job, they tend to not be gold diggers even if they become a shm.