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re: Question for OT Parents
Posted on 5/21/26 at 1:23 pm to SaintlyTiger88
Posted on 5/21/26 at 1:23 pm to SaintlyTiger88
You can never be totally ready. It's more of a leap of faith.
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Posted on 5/21/26 at 1:24 pm to SaintlyTiger88
I love all 3 of my kids greatly, but one child is plenty. With one child y life won't change greatly. Kids don't get expansive until college
Posted on 5/21/26 at 1:25 pm to SaintlyTiger88
Prayers your journey is as fruitful and amazing as ours has been. Children are a blessing.
Posted on 5/21/26 at 1:25 pm to Alt26
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There have been very few moments in my life that I knew within the moment my life had changed. Seeing my oldest child open her eyes for the very first time was one of those moments. I was immediately hit with an overwhelming feeling of love I was not expecting, nor had ever felt before.
This!!!
Posted on 5/21/26 at 1:26 pm to Salmon
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when she comes strutting in house with several bags from Lululemon and Kenda Scott.
Wait up Salmon, my daughter was at your house today? LOL
Seriously, being a parent is like nothing else in the world. Be prepared to bring them up with the highest of morals and virtues and love. You will not regret it.
Posted on 5/21/26 at 1:28 pm to SaintlyTiger88
The cost is immeasurable depending on the realities of your situation but while I remember my life before my kids, it was not complete, wasn’t as messy and not nearly as fun..
Kids are unique but will take on the habits of the parents.
Remember … you want organized kids.. you better be organized, you want respectful kids… show them the way. They will mimic your behavior until they begin to test their independence but the lessons and habits you show and display will be the underlying foundation.
Kids are unique but will take on the habits of the parents.
Remember … you want organized kids.. you better be organized, you want respectful kids… show them the way. They will mimic your behavior until they begin to test their independence but the lessons and habits you show and display will be the underlying foundation.
Posted on 5/21/26 at 1:41 pm to SaintlyTiger88
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take on maybe things you wish you had known before having kids and what advice you would give to first time parents.
1. Don't listen to everyone else (for the most part) about what you should and shouldn't do. Your experience will be your experience.
2. Splurge on the things you will use often. That cheap stroller is ok, but if you plan on using it, get one that will hold up and be comfortable for you and the baby. The rest of the stuff doesn't matter. The kid will play with an empty water bottle for 3 hours and never touch the $50 toy you bought.
3. Be on rock solid ground with your wife and try to have a plan for as much as you can. Those first few months will be hell on you guys so having a plan on how you can support her, the baby, and yourself while not getting enough sleep is key.
4. Childcare. Figure it out early.
5. Money. I just dropped $400 at walmart to restock and less than $100 was not baby involved.
Seriously, just plan to spend more than you think at every turn. Ours has turned out to be a big arse baby and has grown out of every single thing we had planned for the first two years of his life. He grew out of the infant carrier around 3-4 months so we had to buy car seats way ahead of schedule. Diapers, swaddles, wipes, formula, food, toys, clothes. Never ending. 6. Enjoy it. The firsts are the most amazing thing. I look at ours every day and can't help but be amazed that my wife and I created this tiny human. He learns something new everyday and I can't wait to teach him the rest.
Posted on 5/21/26 at 1:41 pm to SaintlyTiger88
Thank you for wanting to make a family. People are shaped more by the parenting they get at home from birth through adolescence than any other factor. I'm grateful you have chosen to do that and take it seriously.
Logically - Get settled into a job or career path, pay off debt, and save up a few months worth cash. However...
The problems with parenthood often aren't centralized around money or the lack of it. It has more to do with parenting styles of the mother and father -- and how those mesh with the advice and expectations of friends and family. I would spend as much time talking to each other about how you plan to raise the child. Feeding, diapers, sleeping, visits to and visits from, vacations -- everything. Outside activities, alone time, daycare. Get all of those arguments out of the way before you bring the baby home from the hospital. There will be plenty more heartaches to fight through. But it will also warm your heart more than you thought anything in this world could.
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(Personally, I would also teach them about Jesus and take them to church as well. But that's just my beliefs - I'm not trying to push it on anyone else, or derail this topic)
Logically - Get settled into a job or career path, pay off debt, and save up a few months worth cash. However...
The problems with parenthood often aren't centralized around money or the lack of it. It has more to do with parenting styles of the mother and father -- and how those mesh with the advice and expectations of friends and family. I would spend as much time talking to each other about how you plan to raise the child. Feeding, diapers, sleeping, visits to and visits from, vacations -- everything. Outside activities, alone time, daycare. Get all of those arguments out of the way before you bring the baby home from the hospital. There will be plenty more heartaches to fight through. But it will also warm your heart more than you thought anything in this world could.
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(Personally, I would also teach them about Jesus and take them to church as well. But that's just my beliefs - I'm not trying to push it on anyone else, or derail this topic)
Posted on 5/21/26 at 1:53 pm to SaintlyTiger88
Four kids here. Ages 8 to 1. My serious advice is, just go for it. There is NEVER going to be a “good” time to have kids. The truth is, it is an enormous, almost incomprehensible imposition on your life to have kids, but it is also the greatest thing you will do in your life as a man. Your kids are your legacy. DO NOT WAIT to start your legacy until things are perfect. Things are NEVER going to be perfect in this broken world. Embrace life. It will be the best decision you and your significant other will ever make.
Posted on 5/21/26 at 1:56 pm to SaintlyTiger88
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Before having children, what do people need to ask themselves?
Why would I care what other people think? You're gonna hear all these people around you chirping constantly about how your kid needs to do this/that/the other to get to college/make the team/ etc. frick all that.
Posted on 5/21/26 at 2:00 pm to Oilfieldbiology
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Definitely do not let your wife participate in the new mommy forums. They are fricking toxic.
Posted on 5/21/26 at 2:00 pm to SaintlyTiger88
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My wife and I are going to a fertility specialist next month and am hoping it leads to us finally having our first child
My wife and I are going through the same process. We are hoping that something happens soon. My wife had to have a polyp in her uterus removed and they think that was stopping eggs from attaching properly. Hoping it can happen before we have to take more expensive steps. I'm glad you started this thread, I'll be reading through it for sure. Good luck to y'all.
Posted on 5/21/26 at 2:01 pm to SaintlyTiger88
Best thing that ever happened to me was becoming a father. Like most men I only wanted to practice roughing them in without any consideration for trimming them out but once I actually roughed in the first one I went all in on trimming him out and wouldn't change a thing. When the second one came, after soundly cussing our German neighbor, I went all in again on trimming her out also and so far so good. Most rewarding and frustrating and scary and fun and infuriating experience imaginable...and that can all happen in a matter of seconds. Good luck and have a houseful.
Posted on 5/21/26 at 2:04 pm to SaintlyTiger88
You're never really "ready"
There will never be enough money or time
Turning a child/teenager into a decent person in 2026 is more of a challenge than keeping a baby alive.
*4 kids, 45 years old, so so tired
There will never be enough money or time
Turning a child/teenager into a decent person in 2026 is more of a challenge than keeping a baby alive.
*4 kids, 45 years old, so so tired
Posted on 5/21/26 at 2:09 pm to SaintlyTiger88
you really gotta have confidence in your genetics to make it worth while. Spitting out an adhd alcoholic who can't bat .200 or throw 80+ velo or act below 20 is not really worth procreating and all the expense and fuss over.
Posted on 5/21/26 at 2:11 pm to SaintlyTiger88
Your going to experience a level of tired you can’t imagine, then the baby will start sleeping through the night, then all of a sudden they will go through a regression and you will wonder why they are built this way. it’s the greatest joy in life.
it’s the greatest joy in life. 
Posted on 5/21/26 at 2:12 pm to Shexter
I have 1 and never stop and am always broke. with 1 you want to give them everything because you know you won't have more.
Posted on 5/21/26 at 2:14 pm to SaintlyTiger88
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My wife and I are going to a fertility specialist next month
Good luck with the triplets.
Posted on 5/21/26 at 2:18 pm to SaintlyTiger88
Just muddle through. That’s what we all do. Anyone who tells you differently is not being honest.
The only way to actually fail as a parent is if you drive your kids away to the point that they no longer want to talk to you or see you when they are adults.
The only way to actually fail as a parent is if you drive your kids away to the point that they no longer want to talk to you or see you when they are adults.
Posted on 5/21/26 at 2:21 pm to SaintlyTiger88
Jump in- the water’s fine.
No one is ever ready… whether they have a surprise pregnancy or a planned one.
My advice is to hear all advice, but pick and choose what works for you and you owe NO ONE any explanations, not friends, not grandparents… just do you.
You’ll be great!
No one is ever ready… whether they have a surprise pregnancy or a planned one.
My advice is to hear all advice, but pick and choose what works for you and you owe NO ONE any explanations, not friends, not grandparents… just do you.
You’ll be great!
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