re: Pondering Life With My Situation

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Find a different doctor who will get to the root of your medical issues
Find a hobby & give dating a chance
Life is what you make it, 40 is too young to give up
I sincerely hope you get help & are able to find happiness

What do you do that you actually enjoy?

Focus on that. frick all the rest.

ETA: And look into the indoor air quality at your house/work.

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Good advice and I know I just need to do it. I've heard it all before. I'll admit though I disagree with the last part. I really hope we get more than one shot at life. I hope in my next life I'll have a better body. One can hope right?

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Hey, why not. If anything, that should give you more incentive. Most belief systems that believe in reincarnation judge what you do in this life in determining what kind of life you get in the next. Make this life everything you can make of it under the circumstances and build up that sweet, sweet karma

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I have some heart issues that keep getting worse.
Fearing a shortened life I separated from my wife so I can just travel and have fun.
No sense in being in a miserable relationship if I will never reach retirement age.

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I've seriously considered this as well Just leaving my job and traveling as much as I can with my condition as I don't think I'll reach retirement age. Spend all my money and then go out.

Everyone's life has value. Someone seeing you deal with your medical issues may have given hope to someone you don't even know. I've gone though a bunch of medical problems since February - indeed, seeing another doctor tomorrow. There are people who are dealing with far more serious problems. It keeps me grateful.

I agree with the suggestions that perhaps you move to a place which will be easier on your breathing problems. Get outside of yourself and help one less fortunate. You will appreciate your life more.

Prayer can't hurt and I'll say one for you. Best wishes.

Be a man

Control your own destiny.

God bless your path

Sell everything, move to Thailand, and find you a hot Asian wife. Life will get better

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get out and get living. Get into some good hobbies and look for a release. Golf, fishing, shooting, bowling, hiking, jogging.

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No. Hell no! This is what you are running from. This is a prescription for a meaningless life, and that’s what you already have. Start helping other people. This is what will make you happy.

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Get a hobby, get in the gym as much as your illness allows try to get in the best shape of your life. Go to church, try being more social and find a support base.

Listen man, as somebody who has been around somebody who struggled with similar issues, your attitude is the most important thing. Be positive, be active. Life changes quickly, but you have to take the first steps.

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And maybe that's the worst part of all. I hate myself. I'm my own worst critic. I'm sure my mental health doesn't help my physical health. I just feel so defective. Like I'll always be different. Like I'll never be normal. I just feel like I lost the genetic lottery and internally yes I do whine and cry about it like I'm some kid. I know I shouldn't and I know there are people younger than me who have things like cancer, heart attacks, heart conditions, ALS, things that are scarier than what I have, but I just feel so alone and like I can't do this myself anymore. But unlike cancer or heart conditions there aren't really support groups for what I have. It's horrible when you're out somewhere and cough a few times and everyone looks at you like you have the black plague. I understand it but I feel powerless.

As an introvert I love being by myself by nature but I know it doesn't help me long term. I want to feel like some of my best days are still ahead of me and that my best days aren't all behind me. I guess I just feel like no one cares and the few people that would care (some family and close friends) I don't want to a bother to. Plus I live away from family so there's not much they can do and I'd never move back to where I'm from. I guess at the end of the day I need to figure out how to attack this thing instead of letting it define me. That's the thing, I feel like I'm so defined by my medical conditions now. I don't feel like I'm anything else anymore and that's what I need to defeat.