re: Neighbor Delimma want some opinions

Call a landscaper and get a quote on fixing ruts and re-sodding that section of your yard.

With quote in hand, tell the neighbor you are worried this will affect your yard and your friendship. Tell him that you would normally say “No”, but since he’s a good friend, you’ll allow it if he puts up the cash up front for the repair.

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My yard got pretty messed up after the hurricanes but is now starting to come back together even though the grass is not there it is regradedd, aerated, and ready to seed which I am doing in the next week or so.

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Are you using a yard guy? If so, you can always just tell your neighbor your yard guy said it would mess things up and he couldn't guarantee his work if you let your neighbor drive over it.

If push came to shove, your yard guy would probably back your play on that one.

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guess if you live in a subdivision with manicured lawns, I guess it would be an issue.

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We do live in a subdivision and my yard was messed up because I allowed 2 14 yd dumps in my yard while my neighbor and I were cleaning up as there was no need to destroy both our yards. I ended up grading and fixing the damage myself so there's also that open sore.

Tell them to use Georgia buggies to haul the concrete and use his own driveway. No way I would destroy someone else's yard for my own benefit.

You sound very cuckish. Tell him no and be done with it.

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No thanks. Tell him to pay the real cost of doing it correctly... when the equipment is available.

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This here is the issue.

If he wants to get his ideal time, with no risk to his belongings, then he will need to assume the costs of making that happen. Whether that’s other equipment or making you whole - it’s not your obligation to take the brunt for his convenience.

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He asked and you said no. You don’t need a reason to say no but you do have one.

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Wrong! This is the way a dick would handle it. You have something very valuable to lose: your neighbor’s friendship. However, you should not have a messed up yard when this is over.

I would tell my neighbor what my concerns are, and I’d tell him that the “contractor would fix it” is acceptable if we all agree what that means. I’d propose that the contractor, or the neighbor, will pay a landscape company of my choosing to return the lawn to the original condition.

This is a reasonable position that would protect your relationship and your lawn.

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Tell him to buy enough plywood to make a road in your yard. He must fix any damages.


That’s going to cost 8x what his driveway would cost.

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There is a place here that you can rent mats just for this sort of thing. The same type of mats that logging companies use. The only issues are set up and delivery is expensive. Much cheaper to rent a pump truck and be done with it.

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It is just dirt.

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frick you.
People like you think others owe you something for some reason. The man bought his dirt and kept it up. Who are you to think you are entitled to tearing someone else's stuff up?

ETA: you likely have culverts that will probably be crushed under the weight of the truck in your or anyones yard. Those things usually aren't as deep as they are supposed to be.