Male Depression....is an epidemic

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if we don’t admit that this is an epidemic and make it “okay” not to be “okay” it will continue.

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oh jeez, really? it's called life, everyone has problems, we don't have to give it a label and become victims, just grow a pair and deal with it, like everyone has always done

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oh jeez, really? it's called life, everyone has problems, we don't have to give it a label and become victims, just grow a pair and deal with it, like everyone has always done

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This is exactly why this is a problem. This line of thinking prevents men from getting the help they need.

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One involved a mental health crisis with my son.

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that sucks. i cannot relate to hard hard that must be

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Then last night I sat down at a bar to get dinner and struck up a conversation with the guy on the stool next to me. We had a ton in common like being former Veterans and I a point I felt compelled to admit my struggles with depression. He explained he does too and there are plenty others suffering silently to do stigma. In fact 22 US vets and service people are committing suicide daily.

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are you a combat vet?

Let me tell ya something. Nowadays, everybody’s gotta go to shrinks, and counselors, and go on “Sally Jessy Raphael” and talk about their problems. What happened to Gary Cooper? The strong, silent type. That was an American. He wasn’t in touch with his feelings. He just did what he had to do. See, what they didn’t know was once they got Gary Cooper in touch with his feelings that they wouldn’t be able to shut him up! And then it’s dysfunction this, and dysfunction that, and dysfunction vaffancul!

I want men with genuine depression to get professional help

But I also want social media/mainstream media/scientific community/etc. to stop pretending there aren't inherent differences with how men and women struggle. Men suffer in silence, often, not because we feel we'll be ostracized by other men or because men are supposed to act a certain way. We do it because it comes naturally to us and we prefer it.

I don't think I've ever had anything beyond situational depression, but I suspect a lot of men don't want the attention or the sympathy that seems inherent in some of the "men won't let men be depressed" messages. They want to get help privately, get better, and get on with their professional and family lives with as little fuss is as possible.

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Then last night I sat down at a bar to get dinner and struck up a conversation with the guy on the stool next to me

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That's how I work out most of my issues.

Drinking at a bar on a Monday night? Sounds like the therapist is doing well.

Honestly, look at the world. People are so pissed about everything. You have politics, vaccines debates, jobs that you can't get away from thanks to cell phones, problems that you can't get away from thanks to social media... No many people focus on living a good life and keeping a positive attitude anymore. Plus, our diets are crap, people are FAT FAT FAT and unhealthy.

We just all need to quit trying to worry about things that we have no control over and concentrate on the good things in life. We need to quit looking at TV shows and social media to find out the materialistic things that we need to be happy. If you wait on happiness, it will never come. The best thing is to wake up in the morning, thank God for the day, live in the moment and make a choice to enjoy your life for what it is. Be thankful for what you have. Love others for who they are. Do not engage in petty debates. Choose to be happy and take care of yourself and your diet.

That in and of itself will help most people. I realize that there are still those with brain chemistry issues that simply will be depressed. But for most people, eating right and staying positive will help alleviate the depression.

Because men have let women and low T males shame them into being afraid of manliness.