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ABearsFanNMS
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Male Depression....is an epidemic
So recently I have had some major issues that have really impacted my personal life. One involved a mental health crisis with my son. I got him help and therapy but it may have helped me as much as it helped him. His counselor met me once and identified something. Later he tricked me into buying/ reading a book called “I Don’t Wnat to Talk About It” by Terrence Real to help my son. I got a couple chapters into it and realize I was suffering from depression. Men don’t suffer the same way as others. It is not laying in bed and not being able to function. We just stay silent and suffer alone in shame.

Then last night I sat down at a bar to get dinner and struck up a conversation with the guy on the stool next to me. We had a ton in common like being former Veterans and I a point I felt compelled to admit my struggles with depression. He explained he does too and there are plenty others suffering silently to do stigma. In fact 22 US vets and service people are committing suicide daily.

Long story short, if we don’t admit that this is an epidemic and make it “okay” not to be “okay” it will continue.


finchmeister08
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re: Male Depression....is an epidemic
it's because more and more women are withholding.

eta: i made this comment before i read the OP. whoops.
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777Tiger
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if we don’t admit that this is an epidemic and make it “okay” not to be “okay” it will continue.

oh jeez, really? it's called life, everyone has problems, we don't have to give it a label and become victims, just grow a pair and deal with it, like everyone has always done


TheWalrus
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re: Male Depression....is an epidemic
I’m pretty sure my depression involves laying in bed and not being able to function.


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777Tiger
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I’m pretty sure my depression involves laying in bed and not being able to function.

twss


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TH03
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re: Male Depression....is an epidemic
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oh jeez, really? it's called life, everyone has problems, we don't have to give it a label and become victims, just grow a pair and deal with it, like everyone has always done


This is exactly why this is a problem. This line of thinking prevents men from getting the help they need.


BobLeeDagger
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re: Male Depression....is an epidemic
I think a lot of men are going through a similar scenario. Never underestimate the feeling of getting something off your chest. Also, running has helped me tremendously during my low times. I used to hate running, but created a habit out of it. Now I have a way to relieve stress that benefits my health. I encourage everyone to do the same. Nothing takes your mind off of suffering like breaking a sweat doing something that is fun.

Also, the thing that helps me the most is celebrating even the smallest achievements. Once you accomplish something, immediately set a new goal. You will feel this inherent need to snowball each and every achievement. However, know that it is ok to rest, just don't quit. Every attempt to get better matters, even if it results in failure. You'll look back and say, "Damn, I'm glad I stuck with it." Because ultimately, each 1% of work that you put in everyday will always add up to 100%. But you can't get there without doing your 1% today.
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Rouge
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re: Male Depression....is an epidemic
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One involved a mental health crisis with my son.
that sucks. i cannot relate to hard hard that must be

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Then last night I sat down at a bar to get dinner and struck up a conversation with the guy on the stool next to me. We had a ton in common like being former Veterans and I a point I felt compelled to admit my struggles with depression. He explained he does too and there are plenty others suffering silently to do stigma. In fact 22 US vets and service people are committing suicide daily.
are you a combat vet?


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Caplewood
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re: Male Depression....is an epidemic
Hell ya brother. Only pussies acknowledge mental illness


Brosef Stalin
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You can't be that depressed if you're going out and socializing.


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GreatLakesTiger24
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re: Male Depression....is an epidemic
Let me tell ya something. Nowadays, everybody’s gotta go to shrinks, and counselors, and go on “Sally Jessy Raphael” and talk about their problems. What happened to Gary Cooper? The strong, silent type. That was an American. He wasn’t in touch with his feelings. He just did what he had to do. See, what they didn’t know was once they got Gary Cooper in touch with his feelings that they wouldn’t be able to shut him up! And then it’s dysfunction this, and dysfunction that, and dysfunction vaffancul!


Rouge
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re: Male Depression....is an epidemic
whatever happened to drinking and ignoring your family like real men have done for generations?


Pettifogger
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I want men with genuine depression to get professional help

But I also want social media/mainstream media/scientific community/etc. to stop pretending there aren't inherent differences with how men and women struggle. Men suffer in silence, often, not because we feel we'll be ostracized by other men or because men are supposed to act a certain way. We do it because it comes naturally to us and we prefer it.

I don't think I've ever had anything beyond situational depression, but I suspect a lot of men don't want the attention or the sympathy that seems inherent in some of the "men won't let men be depressed" messages. They want to get help privately, get better, and get on with their professional and family lives with as little fuss is as possible.


Salmon
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whatever happened to drinking and ignoring your family like real men have done for generations?



still alive and strong in the Salmon house


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CoachChappy
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Then last night I sat down at a bar to get dinner and struck up a conversation with the guy on the stool next to me


That's how I work out most of my issues.


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50_Tiger
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re: Male Depression....is an epidemic
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Let me tell ya something. Nowadays, everybody’s gotta go to shrinks, and counselors, and go on “Sally Jessy Raphael” and talk about their problems. What happened to Gary Cooper? The strong, silent type. That was an American. He wasn’t in touch with his feelings. He just did what he had to do. See, what they didn’t know was once they got Gary Cooper in touch with his feelings that they wouldn’t be able to shut him up! And then it’s dysfunction this, and dysfunction that, and dysfunction vaffancul!



I was wondering the same thing.


If im having a bad day, ill get on my city simulator, drink a cold one, and turn off the analytical part of my brain (the one I use 99.9% of the time).

It helps a ton.


Landmass
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re: Male Depression....is an epidemic
Drinking at a bar on a Monday night? Sounds like the therapist is doing well.

Honestly, look at the world. People are so pissed about everything. You have politics, vaccines debates, jobs that you can't get away from thanks to cell phones, problems that you can't get away from thanks to social media... No many people focus on living a good life and keeping a positive attitude anymore. Plus, our diets are crap, people are FAT FAT FAT and unhealthy.

We just all need to quit trying to worry about things that we have no control over and concentrate on the good things in life. We need to quit looking at TV shows and social media to find out the materialistic things that we need to be happy. If you wait on happiness, it will never come. The best thing is to wake up in the morning, thank God for the day, live in the moment and make a choice to enjoy your life for what it is. Be thankful for what you have. Love others for who they are. Do not engage in petty debates. Choose to be happy and take care of yourself and your diet.

That in and of itself will help most people. I realize that there are still those with brain chemistry issues that simply will be depressed. But for most people, eating right and staying positive will help alleviate the depression.
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Collegedropout
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re: Male Depression....is an epidemic
Quit chasing pussy and try to find a girl to raise a family with.


RogerTheShrubber
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re: Male Depression....is an epidemic
Because men have let women and low T males shame them into being afraid of manliness.



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