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re: Last night i found out my 68 year old dad has a mistress...
Posted on 1/16/18 at 9:10 am to GeorgeQGlass
Posted on 1/16/18 at 9:10 am to GeorgeQGlass
quote:if your ole lady was getting side dick and your friends/family knew about it, would you want to know?
GeorgeQGlass
let us assume that you had no clue about any of it.
The point of "this is between them" is not really between them if one party has no idea
now OP could make up some story about wanting to cheat on her husband, share that with the mom, and see if she divulges any info. definitely share this plan with the husband first
This post was edited on 1/16/18 at 9:12 am
Posted on 1/16/18 at 9:12 am to ladyluckUGA
At least he confessed. My FIL has a mistress and thinks it’s okay because no one has a video of him penetrating her. He is in complete denial of the truth and continues to perpetuate lies to everyone around him. He has destroyed his relationship with his wife, kids, and grandchild because he lies at every opportunity.
Your mom will need your support. It’s a sickening feeling to see someone you care about go through something like this.
Your mom will need your support. It’s a sickening feeling to see someone you care about go through something like this.
Posted on 1/16/18 at 9:14 am to GeorgeQGlass
quote:Is this dad?
Why the frick would your dad bring his side piece around your son? Your son is 7. In 7 years has your dad bought his slampiece around his grandkid?
You stand to lose out on your inheritance for what? What if you found out your mom got railed many years back by the pool boy? Then what?
Honestly, who gives a shite? Side pieces are way more rampant than most believe
Posted on 1/16/18 at 9:14 am to ladyluckUGA
quote:
and guys... I'm a chick. so no "mistress" for me.
Oh, no fricking surprise there. See my above post. fricking nailed it.
I said, "like a woman, you're too clouded by emotion."
Female rationality seems to be influenced more by what you guys feel, which turn, makes y'all throw logic and reason out the window.
Right now, you're all fueled by your emotions and are too blinded by reason. And reason says to just stay the frick out of it.
Oh, and great job and being the stereotypical woman....this was about your dad having a side piece and somehow, just like a woman, you make it about yourself and your son.
Posted on 1/16/18 at 9:15 am to ladyluckUGA
Your mom honestly most likely won't leave your dad, my wife's dad cheated on her mom and then cheated on that wife. My MIL would still get back with him.
Someone that's been with someone for 50 years will likely stay unless it's been very bad, as in not just a short term sex thing.
I would talk to your dad about his long term plans, and if he can stop then have him see a counselor and consider not telling your mom. Or telling her down the road once it's done.
A 65 year old divorce is very tough and is gonna devastate your mom for years. So consider that before jumping in to letting her know right away if it's just a short term thing. I'm not saying don't tell her, I'm saying consider trying to let her know by it being as easy as possible.
Someone that's been with someone for 50 years will likely stay unless it's been very bad, as in not just a short term sex thing.
I would talk to your dad about his long term plans, and if he can stop then have him see a counselor and consider not telling your mom. Or telling her down the road once it's done.
A 65 year old divorce is very tough and is gonna devastate your mom for years. So consider that before jumping in to letting her know right away if it's just a short term thing. I'm not saying don't tell her, I'm saying consider trying to let her know by it being as easy as possible.
Posted on 1/16/18 at 9:16 am to ladyluckUGA
Give your dad a well deserved smile and high five for the sex.
Posted on 1/16/18 at 9:16 am to baldona
It's also possible mom knows, or knows of similar things in the past.
I'm not one to say "oh well just let this shite go" but it could be a viable option. I think there is a reasonable chance your mom came to grips with this issue a long time ago, and having her daughters get into it would only bring her more grief and embarrassment.
I'm not one to say "oh well just let this shite go" but it could be a viable option. I think there is a reasonable chance your mom came to grips with this issue a long time ago, and having her daughters get into it would only bring her more grief and embarrassment.
Posted on 1/16/18 at 9:17 am to ladyluckUGA
Say goodbye to your inheritance.
Posted on 1/16/18 at 9:18 am to Pettifogger
quote:
It's also possible mom knows, or knows of similar things in the past.
I'm guessing dad would have said something if mom explicitly knew.
I'm curious what kinds of pics a woman old enough to bang a married 68 year old man sends. I can't imagine it's pretty.
Posted on 1/16/18 at 9:18 am to ladyluckUGA
Congrats on receiving a text with pics of your dad's penis.
Posted on 1/16/18 at 9:19 am to ladyluckUGA
Steps you should take.
A. Never tell your mother. Even if she knows, it will embarrass her. If she wants you to know she'll tell you herself.
B. Tell Dad that you are disappointed in his life choices, but that he's a grown man, capable of making decisions and mistakes without your consent. Tell him that no matter what that you love him, but that he has lost your respect and he has to re-earn your respect.
C. Don't dwell on it. It does not have an immediate impact on your own family life, your job, or your social life. Anything you feel about the situation is clouded by disappointment and emotion. You can pray and find peace.
D. Let your Dad sort this out on his own. He's getting some strange and this new woman isn't the woman who has nagged him for 50 years, not given him what he wanted sexually or argued with him until she's blue in the face. He may think he's found someone who doesn't do those things. Direct your Dad to the OT. He'll learn that every woman (not your Mom, of course) is a gold-digging whore who will stop giving blowies once the wedding night is over, and who is irrational, crazy, fricked-up and can't drive worth a frick. They load the dishwasher stupid crazy, get pissed off at the drop of a hat, and think their cooter is worth the price of gold. Who he thinks she is now is not who she really is. She's a whore who is fricking around with a married man. If your dad has any semblance of morality, he knows what he's doing is wrong and eventually, he'll feel the uneasiness of it and make an adjustment. Nothing you say or do is going to help. Let it be.
A. Never tell your mother. Even if she knows, it will embarrass her. If she wants you to know she'll tell you herself.
B. Tell Dad that you are disappointed in his life choices, but that he's a grown man, capable of making decisions and mistakes without your consent. Tell him that no matter what that you love him, but that he has lost your respect and he has to re-earn your respect.
C. Don't dwell on it. It does not have an immediate impact on your own family life, your job, or your social life. Anything you feel about the situation is clouded by disappointment and emotion. You can pray and find peace.
D. Let your Dad sort this out on his own. He's getting some strange and this new woman isn't the woman who has nagged him for 50 years, not given him what he wanted sexually or argued with him until she's blue in the face. He may think he's found someone who doesn't do those things. Direct your Dad to the OT. He'll learn that every woman (not your Mom, of course) is a gold-digging whore who will stop giving blowies once the wedding night is over, and who is irrational, crazy, fricked-up and can't drive worth a frick. They load the dishwasher stupid crazy, get pissed off at the drop of a hat, and think their cooter is worth the price of gold. Who he thinks she is now is not who she really is. She's a whore who is fricking around with a married man. If your dad has any semblance of morality, he knows what he's doing is wrong and eventually, he'll feel the uneasiness of it and make an adjustment. Nothing you say or do is going to help. Let it be.
Posted on 1/16/18 at 9:20 am to cssamerican
quote:
Keep it a secret. I doubt this is new behavior. Why ruin your mom’s life.
Agree with this, but it's probably too late if your dad also told your sister. She'll side with your mom.
Posted on 1/16/18 at 9:20 am to Evil Little Thing
quote:41-49 year old women can still be relatively hot.
I'm curious what kinds of pics a woman old enough to bang a married 68 year old man sends.
Posted on 1/16/18 at 9:21 am to ladyluckUGA
quote:
she doesn't deserve this.
You don't know that. Maybe she has been giving it to every man except him for 50 years.
Posted on 1/16/18 at 9:21 am to lsusportsman2
You probably don’t know what is going on behind closed doors. Maybe they have had issues for years and stayed together just for the kids’ sake. If he is that unhappy in his marriage that he is now willing to tell your mom, be prepared to have a very depressed mother. And if your dad decides he’s happier to be with the new woman, so be it. You can’t stop him. Not sure how keeping your kids away from him is going to make things better, but oh well. If you don’t want your kids to be around new woman, just tell your dad. I’m sure he will understand
Posted on 1/16/18 at 9:22 am to ladyluckUGA
This is alarming to the son to find out but I bet dad had honed his bone away from home before this scenario. For this to go on 10 years and momma doesn’t know tells me that she may know something and accepts it.
I had a distant relative tell me that his dad was going to visit this trailer park sloot over a couple of years every couple of weeks for some fantastic blow jobs. He wasn’t getting that at home. A family friend saw him a few times in and around the TP and asked the wife about why he was out in that area. Sleuth friend was asked to note the time and place next time she saw him. Wife went to the place and said sloot said she started sucking his root a couple of years ago. Basically, her extra income was old men who needed blowies and the word was out among a circle of old men friends. When confronted with data the dad confessed. After a cold shoulder from the wife for a year or so, things went back to normal for them. So, the OP’s scenario may end up similarly.
I had a distant relative tell me that his dad was going to visit this trailer park sloot over a couple of years every couple of weeks for some fantastic blow jobs. He wasn’t getting that at home. A family friend saw him a few times in and around the TP and asked the wife about why he was out in that area. Sleuth friend was asked to note the time and place next time she saw him. Wife went to the place and said sloot said she started sucking his root a couple of years ago. Basically, her extra income was old men who needed blowies and the word was out among a circle of old men friends. When confronted with data the dad confessed. After a cold shoulder from the wife for a year or so, things went back to normal for them. So, the OP’s scenario may end up similarly.
Posted on 1/16/18 at 9:22 am to ladyluckUGA
You are going to get a lot of bad advice on this topic so let me try and be helpful.
Your parents have problems in their marriage or Dad would not be stepping out. Both he and mom need to seek a therapist to fix these issues and any marriage can be saved. But your Dad has to want to save his marriage.
It is not fair of Dad to expect you to keep this secret for him. Give him a week to come clean and break off the affair or tell your Mom about it. You are betraying your Mom every minute you don't tell her and that is not fair to you or her.
Lastly, I see that you are a female so can I get a few pics of you in yoga pants?
Your parents have problems in their marriage or Dad would not be stepping out. Both he and mom need to seek a therapist to fix these issues and any marriage can be saved. But your Dad has to want to save his marriage.
It is not fair of Dad to expect you to keep this secret for him. Give him a week to come clean and break off the affair or tell your Mom about it. You are betraying your Mom every minute you don't tell her and that is not fair to you or her.
Lastly, I see that you are a female so can I get a few pics of you in yoga pants?
Posted on 1/16/18 at 9:24 am to Rouge
quote:
Rouge
I think you and I had an interaction on here before about infidelity.
Bottom line, hoss...I've been married for probably longer than you've been alive.
If my old lady is gonna cheat, she's gonna cheat. Now, don't go and misconstrue what I'm saying. I'm certainly not going to warrant any actions to push her out the door, but if she's gonna get side-dicked, well, she just will.
What the frick am I gonna do about it? Put a chastity belt on her? I feel I have shown, done, and told her I've love her more that anything during our entire life together. And if she strays okay, well that's on her.
And if she does, and my family knew about it, I would prefer she be the one to tell me.
I try not to let my emotions blind me in scenarios such as this.
You seem very emotional for a man....let me know how close I am to pegging you: Middle-aged, never married, no kids, talk like you know some shite.
This post was edited on 1/16/18 at 9:24 am
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