re: Is there anything more pathetic than a Man staying with a Woman that has cheated on him?

I think its pathetic to judge someone that is hurting

Close family of mine is doing just that. He doesn’t want to split time with his sons mom and he doesn’t really give a shite what she does anyway. At least this way he’s with his son every night.

Happened to one of my friends. They have a 2 year old and she cheated on him 3 months after they got married. They were together for 6 years prior to that. When he told me he isn't filing for divorce, I couldn't believe it. I guess kids do change the way you look at the situation.

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he has got a free pass now.

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F that.
And still go home to your slut wife and sleep in the same bed ?
She would be dead to me, zero chance I stay.

Does he have young children? Do you know everything about his situation? Maybe it's the best thing for his kids. Idk. You don't have to understand but don't assume he's pathetic without all the facts.

He probably isn't telling you everything, but if they go to counseling, the wife will likely have selected the counselor and during the sessions, the husband could end up being the reason she cheated.. he wasn't "emotionally available or attentive," etc. He could be labelled the bad guy, say something dumb or angry, and create a record to be used against him in divorce/custody proceedings.

I made the "cheating-marraige will end" philosophy very clear to my wife up front. After 8 years of marriage and 3 kids, she began having an affair with a long distance man she met on the net. I heard her on middle of the night calls, found gifts for him in the trunk, hired a PI, etc. I ultimately filed for an at-fault divorce based on adultery and it was granted in my favor 30 days later. I got custody and she had a visitation schedule, which was up to me basically (but I was always fair) and paid me a lot in child support (often through a wage assignment order) for 14 years. The divorce and custody arrangements were best for my kids, who are now in their early-mid 30's and very well adjusted and successful...all happily married with kids of their own.

A man needs to pay attention to what's going on with the marraige and family to get in front of such bs, never stay married for the kids (cut your losses) and always do what's best for your kids. Man up...if you wait to act, it usually gets much worse for everyone, especially the kids.

If the shoe were on the other foot she would be gone with half his shite in a heartbeat. He’d get to see his kids every other weekend.

Nope

but don't assume he's pathetic without all the facts.
That's a bitch move no matter what the facts are