re: I’m struggling with the breakup of my fiancée

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You can date one for five years, break up, and the next day she will have a new "F$%K Boy".

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Yeah, I noticed a simliar trend.
Im assuming the last 3 Ive had, all had ones they were talking too on the side. When it ended they just slid over.

Just imagine how much harder things would be if you got married and had children in a broken relationship. You'd be on here crying about how your wife doesn't frick you in five years.

Why did you break it off with her multiple times, and then turn around and reconcile? Either there was something about her that a part of you knew wasn’t compatible with the marriage, there is something about you that you know isn’t right for marriage, or you have some fear of commitment. Any of these things could be something that you do t even have conscious awareness of, perhaps because you don’t allow yourself to have that awareness.

If you want to have a healthy future marriage with anyone, you first need to figure out what happened here. Perhaps some counseling would help you identify areas where you have growth opportunities. Maybe not necessary but it’s worth considering. Note- I’m talking about engaging in a process to improve yourself, not going to see someone because you have something wrong with you. Two different things.

Biggest piece of advice I can give you is to find somewhere that you can volunteer. Make it a cause that resonates with you. Even better if the volunteer activity involves other people who are volunteering. You are in a depressive state (not necessarily clinical depression, but with some similar characteristics). Depression causes people to focus on themselves and their problems. Volunteering forces you to get out of your own head for a bit. So go find somewhere to do something for someone else.

Get activity in. Doesn’t have to be working out at max capacity 5 days a week. Do more than you are doing now. If that means you start walking around your neighborhood after dinner then do that. I will say that lifting weights has been shown to have the highest level of effectiveness in helping depressed people feel better. Do with that what you will.

Cut back on your alcohol intake, eat balanced real food, not preservative laden easy food. Maintain a regular sleep schedule.

Do these things and you will start to feel better. Good luck.

Go drink a liter of vodka and get on a dating app and start shooting out dick pics (provided you are of good size) and start plowing through them.

There’s a few posters here who offer good advice in this department. Will Cover is one of them.

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It’s just not meant to be.

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If this is true, then accept it. If you want to be sad, then do that for a bit. Cry it out. Do what needs to be done, then attack your day by doing something productive. Get into a hobby, keep busy with work. Don’t lock yourself in your home and sulk in that environment.

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still love her and we’re still cordial.

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There’s your problem.

Turn it into hate. It’ll keep you warm at night.

Post her pic and tell us about her vagina. Since it’s over anyway