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re: If you didn't have your wife (or don't have one) would you be happy being a loner?
Posted on 3/19/24 at 12:22 pm to Thundercles
Posted on 3/19/24 at 12:22 pm to Thundercles
Absolutely. I’ve always preferred my own space and my own company. The wife and I get along well, I enjoy being married to her, but I could just as easily live a solitary existence.
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Posted on 3/19/24 at 12:22 pm to Thundercles
I made a HUGE mistake when I become over-dependent on my independence (safe selfishness) post-divorce
My refusal or inability to deal with the loss of a child then 9 months later in divorce losing my wife and stepdaughter, who I will have more than thrilled with as my only kid, loved her with all my being.
instead, I gave into an addictive-like behavior of shallow sexual relationships,It was the dawn of internet dating and yall have seen my pics,
There were thousands of divorced women in their early 30s and as I aged so did 40'S 50's they and the loneliness become more or more typical and I was right there with them
date a few weeks, months even years the pseudo-relationship fooled us esp me
Then the stroke ended my ability to live so alone just wasn't possible. What I thought I was, my relationships with my environment/work/colleagues.
I proved to be worthless to others when I could no longer play my part in their lives
I'LL DIE ALONE but as my truer self,, I'll live as long as it takes me to figure that out
we all have a purpose
My refusal or inability to deal with the loss of a child then 9 months later in divorce losing my wife and stepdaughter, who I will have more than thrilled with as my only kid, loved her with all my being.
instead, I gave into an addictive-like behavior of shallow sexual relationships,It was the dawn of internet dating and yall have seen my pics,
There were thousands of divorced women in their early 30s and as I aged so did 40'S 50's they and the loneliness become more or more typical and I was right there with them
date a few weeks, months even years the pseudo-relationship fooled us esp me
Then the stroke ended my ability to live so alone just wasn't possible. What I thought I was, my relationships with my environment/work/colleagues.
I proved to be worthless to others when I could no longer play my part in their lives
I'LL DIE ALONE but as my truer self,, I'll live as long as it takes me to figure that out
we all have a purpose
This post was edited on 3/19/24 at 1:14 pm
Posted on 3/19/24 at 12:23 pm to Thundercles
If something happens to my wife, I will not get remarried. Hopefully I'll remain close to my kids and they will outlive me. Day-to-day life alone would be fine with me, with weekly or so visits with my kids.
Posted on 3/19/24 at 12:25 pm to Thundercles
No, I am not happy as a loner. In many ways, I was happier in my abusive marriage. Someone has to care about you an awful lot to try and kill you. At least there I had a purpose. At least I get a lot more sleep now.
This post was edited on 3/19/24 at 12:31 pm
Posted on 3/19/24 at 12:25 pm to Thundercles
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I have a wife and family. I would not be happy as a loner.
I agree. I would also not be unhappy if I woke up tomorrow and were Leonardo DiCaprio. I’m sure there’s some emptiness there but I’d have to find it to believe it.
Posted on 3/19/24 at 12:26 pm to Thundercles
Im way too extraverted for that to ever be an option for me.
Posted on 3/19/24 at 12:26 pm to Thundercles
My BIL is in his mid 40s and is just now getting married for the first time. I know another guy (older than me) who was exactly the same. Got married at 47. First marriage. Both wives are much younger. Not divorced.
Posted on 3/19/24 at 12:27 pm to Thundercles
Yes. I think you can be a loner without being lonely.
Posted on 3/19/24 at 12:28 pm to Thundercles
I like having a wife.
I like her better in the other room most of the time, but I like knowing she's there. For example, right now she's in the kitchen and I smell lunch.
I like her better in the other room most of the time, but I like knowing she's there. For example, right now she's in the kitchen and I smell lunch.
Posted on 3/19/24 at 12:29 pm to JetsetNuggs
I'm 55 and alone. Been trying to date for the past 10 years and it has been an absolute shitefest. I am also completely miserable.
Posted on 3/19/24 at 12:33 pm to WonPercent
Lost my wife to cancer one year ago after 45 years of marriage. Not having her to go thru retirement years sucks. Have two wonderful kids and grandkids that mean the world, couldn’t make it without them.
Posted on 3/19/24 at 12:35 pm to Thundercles
I occasionally escape from my wife and head to the woods ... been doing the occasional Jeremiah Johnson thing most of my adult life when the opportunity presents itself for a week or two.
Built a cabin in the woods overlooking Lake Cherokee. Hiked Alaska. Hiked the Appalachian Trail.
Now that I'm older I look back on all of that with fond memories but I'd miss my kids and grandkids and I hope I live long enough to hold great grand babies.
I had my time alone. My dogs and I often are .... but we like it when Momma comes home these days. She's much younger than I, and she takes really good care of us plus she's usually pretty good company for the most part.
There was a time though, between marriages, when I gave doing the Jeremiah Johnson thing some serious thought. I know guys that did, all contracting buddies ... and I've never heard from them since. I know two ended up in Costal Rica and in El Salvador. Another took off to Northern Idaho. Last I heard another is living in the woods, off the grid, somewhere in Northern North Carolina.
Built a cabin in the woods overlooking Lake Cherokee. Hiked Alaska. Hiked the Appalachian Trail.
Now that I'm older I look back on all of that with fond memories but I'd miss my kids and grandkids and I hope I live long enough to hold great grand babies.
I had my time alone. My dogs and I often are .... but we like it when Momma comes home these days. She's much younger than I, and she takes really good care of us plus she's usually pretty good company for the most part.
There was a time though, between marriages, when I gave doing the Jeremiah Johnson thing some serious thought. I know guys that did, all contracting buddies ... and I've never heard from them since. I know two ended up in Costal Rica and in El Salvador. Another took off to Northern Idaho. Last I heard another is living in the woods, off the grid, somewhere in Northern North Carolina.
Posted on 3/19/24 at 12:41 pm to yellowfin
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Would need a Hooker-Maid then I’d be fine
Posted on 3/19/24 at 12:41 pm to Thundercles
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you didn't have your wife (or don't have one) would you be happy being a loner?
My answer is based on what part of the month you ask me.
Posted on 3/19/24 at 12:42 pm to Thundercles
Was married but no longer. Now older I don’t really want anyone around all the time, setting my schedule, keeping me busy, telling me what to do and when to do it. I enjoy my time with family and friends without having to “babysit” and monitor another person. I enjoy coming and going as I please and with who I please. I like getting things I want without having to check with someone else first.
I enjoy watching as much sports as possible without having to suffer through a Hallmark or Lifetime program. I enjoy participating in my hobbies and pastimes without being monitored or criticized. I love going to bed and getting up when I want, not being awakened by someone else’s snoring, body temperature changes or sudden movements. I love heading out somewhere without having to wait on another person. I enjoy having a meal of my choice without having to go through a list of choices.
And I enjoy female companionship at a time and length of my choosing.
Edit - I actually have 2 tv's setup in my living area that no one complains about.
I enjoy watching as much sports as possible without having to suffer through a Hallmark or Lifetime program. I enjoy participating in my hobbies and pastimes without being monitored or criticized. I love going to bed and getting up when I want, not being awakened by someone else’s snoring, body temperature changes or sudden movements. I love heading out somewhere without having to wait on another person. I enjoy having a meal of my choice without having to go through a list of choices.
And I enjoy female companionship at a time and length of my choosing.
Edit - I actually have 2 tv's setup in my living area that no one complains about.
This post was edited on 3/20/24 at 10:18 am
Posted on 3/19/24 at 12:44 pm to Thundercles
I feel like I'm naturally a loner despite having a wife and kids that I truly love.
I get my alone time with my hobbies, working out/going on walks, my work, etc.
If I could never get away, I'm sure I would struggle
I get my alone time with my hobbies, working out/going on walks, my work, etc.
If I could never get away, I'm sure I would struggle
Posted on 3/19/24 at 12:52 pm to Thundercles
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I see women bitching about men in their 40's "not wanting anything serious" but I truly get it.
after getting your arse kicked in relationships multiple times you lose the ability to be optimistic about new ones. I miss that about my early 20s. I guess it's why I dated my wife for so long before marrying her. I was subconsciously expecting it to all go pear shaped.
This post was edited on 3/19/24 at 2:48 pm
Posted on 3/19/24 at 12:53 pm to Thundercles
I’ve been divorced for about 5 years now. Had a few girlfriends through the years. I’m 50 and totally enjoying life. My cousin who has never married (came close once) told me one day that “I don’t have a problem with getting married, I just have not found one to act right yet”.
Posted on 3/19/24 at 12:56 pm to chinhoyang
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as long as I had my dog Eli, I'd be good
This.
Posted on 3/19/24 at 12:57 pm to CSinLC
quote:I get it,, It seemed fun, IT WAS FUN
I enjoy watching as much sports as possible without having to suffer through a Hallmark or Lifetime program. I enjoy participating in my hobbies and pastimes without being monitored or criticized. I love going to bed and getting up when I want, not being awakened by someone else’s snoring, body temperature changes or sudden movements. I love heading out somewhere without having to wait on another person. I enjoy having a meal of my choice without having to go through a list of choices.
And I enjoy female companionship at a time and length of my choosing.
but its not sustainable long term without serious wealth
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