re: If you didn't have your wife (or don't have one) would you be happy being a loner?

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This is probably the only wall of text I've ever read on this site and I liked it

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Appreciate it and yeah, I did my best to tell the story and keep it "sorta" short. There is a ton more interesting and entertaining details that I could include, but nobody wants to read all that shite and I sure as hell don't want to type it

I think this is a loaded question OP as it is highly dependent on external factors.

Take me for instance:
1. My job is very fast paced and I never get a moment alone at work. I am talking to someone about important issues for 10 hours a day.
2. I am already married and have adult children that I love seeing.

So, if something happened to my wife - I would have about 3.5 hours a day of time “alone”.

I would miss her terribly but I would never replace her with another woman who has her own “needs” and forces me to compromise my passion at work and with my children and grandchildren.

Now, if I had no children and worked from home and THEN I lost my wife - I would be miserable and looking for someone to date.

It is hard. Usually don’t post regarding personal life. Wife had some time off and took my son for a mini vacation. Called to tell me what they had done, one activity was something that should have been discussed beforehand. Not to go into details, but it’s a pattern where she decides what kids can/can’t do on her own. By the time I’m brought into conversation, I’m swimming upstream if I don’t agree. Love my wife dearly but wouldn’t miss the confrontations. Love the kids, but give me some land, a grill, a dog and I would be quite happy.

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I have a wife and family. I would not be happy as a loner.

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I've been married to my true love, wife, partner, for almost fifty-six years. Its a scary thought to think of living alone. She is a workaholic, I'm laid back.
We have a great relationship with our two Sons and their families. But I would not want to live with them.
I'm quite content as is.

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I have a wife and am very happy being a loner.

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I was married 18 years the first time, married for 18 years now the second time.

Had several live ins in-between marriages, I've rarely lived alone. I'm not sure I could at this point, I have adapted to having someone around all the time.

Even traveling alone feels weird.

I don’t like people including my wife and kids. I’d be fine alone.

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I’m alone and as the days pass, it seems like it will be forever. I’m fricking miserable, just praying I die when I go to sleep. Thing is I don’t think I want a family. Just doing the bare minimum is too much for me.

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I’m genuinely sorry you feel that way.

Find yourself someone or something (ie dog) worthy of your love and able to return it and your life will change instantly.

Try being a big brother to a child who needs you or find a volunteer opportunity where you can directly and tangibly help others.

Life is about giving and receiving love unless you are a narcissist in which case it’s about loving yourself and trying to con other people into loving you without giving any. Everything else is just a distraction.

The misery you feel is living in the absence of love and I hope that you stop whatever you’re doing and immediately start to seek things that provide real meaning. You’re like a battery running on empty.

Best to you and happy to help if you’re ready to seek meaning (to whatever extent I can).

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Very much the same...

I’d probably not take care of myself, not exercise, eat like shite, drink way too much, be overweight, and in extremely poor health.